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- Hide Preview | 69 Comments | submitted 2 years ago by redpillthrowaway1988 [Post Locked]

follow up to this thread: (https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7m8j18/got_the_we_need_to_talk_text/)

went to meet her at a coffee shop, first thing she say is 'i think we need a break for a month, i need to figure things out for myself'

translation: i want to fuck other dudes and not feel guilty about it

i told her i'm not interested in a break and i'm done for good and i walked off.

Not gonna lie fellas this shit stings but at least i have plenty of time now to work on myself and fuck other women.

[-] jay_jay_man 298 Points 2 years ago

translation: i want to fuck other dudes and not feel guilty about it and keep you as a backup safety net if the other dudes pump and dump me

[-] Ou-tis 63 Points 2 years ago

this

[-] DatingCoach111 34 Points 2 years ago

this

[-] RobertTene 33 Points 2 years ago

this

[-] InvictusDO 15 Points 2 years ago

This

[-] Moreofmore 13 Points 2 years ago

More of This

Edit:thanks coach

[-] DatingCoach111 3 Points 2 years ago

You are welcome.

[-] Str_ 13 Points 2 years ago

This

[-] FaderOne 11 Points 2 years ago

this

[-] Compu7erUser 3 Points 2 years ago

!redditsilver

slow clap

[-] RedditSilverRobot 3 Points 2 years ago

Here's your Reddit Silver, jay_jay_man!

/u/jay_jay_man has received silver 1 time. (given by /u/Compu7erUser) info

[-] Ou-tis -14 Point 2 years ago

this

[-] [deleted] 19 Points 2 years ago

There must be something comforting about the number three. People always give up after three or as in this case, the fourth one is no longer seen as being a part of the "buzz", but rather, as an age old sentiment, that your parents had felt when they found out about you unnecessarily occupying the womb of your mother, that it's an uncalled for unnecessarity, which better off not have been there in the first place.

[-] Reformed65 6 Points 2 years ago

That's the most formal and professional way of saying "No one gives a shit about the forth item, just like YOUR MOM when she had you as the forth child!"

[-] Ou-tis 0 Points 2 years ago

What's the problem,man?

[-] xfactor90 151 Points 2 years ago

Great response on your part.

[-] AfterC 44 Points 2 years ago

that was a home run of a departure, yeah

[-] thefisherman1961 0 Points 2 years ago

no it wasn’t. he entered her frame by agreeing to meet up and listen to her gab. he should have just called her and had her say it over the phone so he didn’t have to waste time, energy, and money validating her by showing up.

[-] Psychocist 1 Point 2 years ago

Better yet:

"we need to talk"
..
"no we don't"

And not even give the bitch a second breathing space over the phone.

[-] thefisherman1961 15 Points 2 years ago

i think if you’re in an LTR you should at least hear her out. she might be like “we need to talk...i just found out i have stage 4 cancer” or something.

[-] Borsao66 101 Points 2 years ago

3.5 billion other women man. Don't sweat it.

[-] RedHeMan 88 Points 2 years ago

You handled it well, make sure to block her on everything to prevent the temptation of getting back with her.

[-] Synacku 27 Points 2 years ago

remove/block everything, yessir

[-] AstuteBlackMan 14 Points 2 years ago

I personally wouldn't block her. I would let her wonder about me.

[-] _JustASnowFlake_ 14 Points 2 years ago

Why? How does that benefit you other than stroking your ego?

[-] NapalmSunshine 23 Points 2 years ago

If he blocks her he looks like a chump who can’t handle his break up eloquently. Keeping her unblocked or even not bothering to remove her from friends lists on social media shows how little you care about the situation and furthers the idea in her head that she is the one who lost you. Maintain dignity.

[-] _JustASnowFlake_ 5 Points 2 years ago

I see where you are coming from, so I guess there would be a "it depends on the situation" sort of move. As long as it benefits you in the long run.

Block if she is a crazy person

Not block if she is a potential future plate

Am I wrong?

[-] NapalmSunshine 3 Points 2 years ago

I’d say default to no blocking. But if she acts crazy or attempts contact, initiate blocking.

[-] Psychocist 2 Points 2 years ago

If he blocks her he looks like a chump who can’t handle his break up eloquently

How he looks to who? Surely the only thing that matters is how he sees himself? You cannot be saying he shouldn't block her because he might look like a chump TO HER? Sounds like a whole lot of investment in her perception of him.. which means nothing and shouldn't even be considered.

One reason not to block is because she might be a potential plate in the future.. but even that is creeping on your abundance mindset. I'd vote delete and forget -- if she becomes a nuisance then block.

[-] MuhTriggersGuise 17 Points 2 years ago

stroking your ego

My ego loves stroking almost as much as my dick. What more reason is needed?

[-] -TempestofChaos- 5 Points 2 years ago

Can still fuck her.

She just is no longer suitable beyond cumdumpster

[-] AstuteBlackMan -2 Point 2 years ago

Well unlike you im not a simp I wouldn't really be tempted to message a girl if we are no longer talking.

[-] [deleted] 77 Points 2 years ago

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[-] kick6 53 Points 2 years ago

Gonna be hard to squat to depth with those.

[-] kick6 66 Points 2 years ago

Odds are good it’s not “other dudes” in a generic sense, but one particular dude she wants to attempt a monkey-branch too while keeping you as a safety net.

[-] trpcounsel 28 Points 2 years ago

Regardless. Not really worth torturing yourself with this thought. Bottom line is thoughts of foreign dick(s) have been so prevalent in her mind that she's decided to take action (ask for a break). It's game over at that point, period.

[-] kick6 13 Points 2 years ago

I think it’s less tortuous knowing that she wasn’t “finding herself,” but actually being pathetically incapable of taking the risk of being alone.

[-] trpcounsel 5 Points 2 years ago

Yeah I agree. That's true regardless of whether she's trying to leach onto one new guy, or several. The inability to be alone remains.

Edit: Spelling

[-] thefisherman1961 2 Points 2 years ago

or she already fucked him and if he agrees to a break she won’t feel as guilty for cheating

[-] YasserZe 1 Point 2 years ago

L bet she met some other Chad

[-] Dio_Brando_Joestar 65 Points 2 years ago

If u go back op u lose. Trust me. Been in your shoes.

[-] Ivabighairy1 37 Points 2 years ago
  1. When a woman says "We have to talk" that means YOU have to listen.

  2. When she does talk, she's setting the agenda.

  3. As men, you never let someone else make the agenda.

You handled it well.

[-] UEMcGill 11 Points 2 years ago

The only thing I would add is you don't let them schedule. The moment she is saying "later" you're in her frame.

The best answer is pick up the phone and call her, force her to get it out right then and there.

A woman has the talk for her sake, not yours. She wants to justify in her head what she is doing is right. So don't waste the effort.

[-] thefisherman1961 1 Point 2 years ago

you took the words right out of my mouth. i’m shocked and disgusted that more people didn’t point this out

[-] chachaChad 36 Points 2 years ago

Standing up for yourself can be uncomfortable if you're not used to it. It's easy to get intoxicated by your emotions.

Try to stay in the moment and be on the look out for irrational thoughts. "Yikes, she broke up with me! I must be unlovable or bad in bed or I'm ugly and nobody will love me." When you catch yourself having an irrational thought, examine it and try and think about things rationally. You have no real idea why she actually broke up with you and it possibly has much more to do with her than you. You'll find someone else and, almost assuredly, someone better suited to you.

Big pat on the pack for keeping your dignity and not getting dragged around the room by someone else.

[-] RedFoxRunner 1 Point 2 years ago

Good shit man. I recently went through something similar. Kept asking myself if it's something I did or messed up on. I gotta tell myself you never know what's going on in the background.

[-] trpcounsel 19 Points 2 years ago

You da man. She will be back, 100%, so be prepared to ignore her for the rest of your life. One chance, per girl, per lifetime. She blew hers. On to the next one, brother. Great job.

[-] shredzro 17 Points 2 years ago

Good job man. Real proud and I don’t even know you. Block her.

[-] [deleted] 6 Points 2 years ago

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[-] Rian_Stone 11 Points 2 years ago

fuck that. Strangers don't get a spot on your contact list

[-] [deleted] 2 Points 2 years ago

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[-] Rian_Stone 1 Point 2 years ago

be polite, like you would any stranger.

Do you really need me to guide you through how to stop giving a shit about your ex?

[-] shredzro 2 Points 2 years ago

Hmmm that’s a good way too look at it. Usually it’s advised to block Incase the OP has the urge to contact the ex.

[-] [deleted] 14 Points 2 years ago

Next time, you will be smart enough to not entertain this horseshit. Never meet. It’s a waste of time. Go fuck ten other women.

[-] CryptoManbeard 12 Points 2 years ago

You handled it well man. Embrace the suck for a few days/weeks, use it as fuel to be a better dude.

[-] zboo1h 11 Points 2 years ago

Reminds me of my first LTR a very long time ago.

I ended up fucking her in the ass about a month after I walked away.

Remember, OP, she's anal only now.

[-] BarlieCharlett 7 Points 2 years ago

Don't go back, this is a perfect time for more improvement. Good luck.

[-] Synacku 7 Points 2 years ago

Fucking perfect response. Exactly what I would've done. I feel liberated on your behalf! lol

[-] RunawayGrain 5 Points 2 years ago

Awesome, now block her on everything too.

[-] Werewolf35b 3 Points 2 years ago

Haha don't feel.like shit hold your head high. Any other response you could offer would really really make you feel like shit. And believe it or not, that includes whatever you could say to make her stay. You handled it perfectly. She's probably all upset and unsure now.

[-] saint_raben 3 Points 2 years ago

gratulations dude

[-] XT3M3 2 Points 2 years ago

good shit bro

[-] Reformed65 2 Points 2 years ago

OP what did she say to you after you told her you're not interested?

[-] 1Pink1Stink 1 Point 2 years ago

/u/redpillthrowaway1988

Answer him

[-] DiggerClam 1 Point 2 years ago

Excellent work. That takes guts and you showed you had the balls.

[-] DaddyIssues6 1 Point 2 years ago

What if she came back to you? Would you demote her to a plate?

[-] mcr00sterdota 1 Point 2 years ago

You the man OP. Go meet other women now.

[-] chazthundergut 1 Point 2 years ago

Well done. I know it stings. But you can hold your head high, with respect for yourself as a Man.