Been in a relationship with HB8 for 3 months. She is the same girl I posted about last time. My first time having a girlfriend.
My old post is here: https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/324472/are_these_iois
On a new account because my old email address got hacked. Thanks mods for helping me clear it up.
What do you do if your girlfriend seems to have a swarm of beta orbiters and simps that are always trying to kiss her ass and get access to her?
What do I do about how she snoops through my things?
Is it normal that she is dominating my space, bringing a suitcase load of beauty products every time she stays over and leaving half of them behind? Five different kinds of shampoo in my shower, bottles of lotions in my car and my office and every room of my house?
Are these things normal or are there actions I should take? She is a very nice girl and I am happy. She is bright and cheerful, pleasant to spend time with, understanding, tries to make me happy and meet my needs.
Thanks lads.
Edit to answer own question:
I think red pill would say it would be to have other options and not focus on one girl but she is extremely hot while I am disfigured from an accident. Don't know how to get an abundance mentality when other women all think I'm scary. Act confident but honestly feel lucky that even one hot girl thinks well of me.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5h ago
No one answered so I'll give it a shot
1
It's a woman's job to regulate access to her in a committed relationship, including orbiter attention (aka back up options) and she isn't. Red flag.
2
I find this behavior to projection. Women who are so jealous and insecure of you that they have to snoop themselves would do something shady in my opinion. Not a 1:1 correlation but I've seen it enough times this is a red flag.
Even if it isn't projection, it's clear disrespect. Established firm boundaries and red lines, tell her overtly it's unacceptable and that you won't stand for it and make sure you actually walk out of this if she continues. Don't go back on a boundary you have established
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Absolutely not. Considering most men don't even like this much makeup this is completely unacceptable and it is unacceptable anyway
Women like to mark their territory with hair clips and panties etc but this is over the top and you're in her frame if you're allowing it. Say a firm no and either leave her suitcase outside on your porch next time or stop seeing her over it if she keeps disrespecting you
Further, depending on where you live (local laws) and how much stuff she has left behind, she can actually squat if she's crazy enough. She can claim she lives there because she has so much stuff in your house. This isn't okay
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And yet you got her anyway and she's jealous of your perceived options
There's your abundance. Tolerating major boundary crossing and attention seeking from other men is unacceptable
You need to put up boundaries because she will eventually leave you over your lack of them after she dominates your frame
You should probably not be in a relationship with a woman like this and should take the confidence boost you got her and pursue better women imo
GeorgeIII 4h ago
Verm has already answered most stuff.
I’d just add that I wouldn’t be too worried about beta orbiters, within reason.
Understand that even most 6’s have orbiters. It’s practically guaranteed that an 8 will. With today’s simp economy especially.
Orbiters can actually be a good thing. (1) They can make you look good assuming you are her alpha. If she is surrounded by 5 orbiters and you (the alpha), you look really good as being top dog. (2) They take some of the comfort requirements off your shoulders. For example, if the two of you have a fight, they will become her emotional tampons lol. Remember, a king doesn’t get mad over every thirsty peasant jealous of his hot wife.
Of course this orbiter stuff has limits (which you can decide the limits on). For example, a bad situation would be if she is staying the night at an orbiter’s place.