I've been blocking chicks who friendzoned me since I've been learning game but I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do or not because some of them weren't bad. For example, 2 of them used to buy me dinner or gifts all the time. Just, no intimacy.
I've been blocking them because I fear that I might get jealous and simp at some point, and ridicule myself but idk if this is an ego thing because those chicks could still be useful as wingmen. Or they might not because they might gossip about how they friendzoned me to other chicks.
And I'm also not telling them anything when I block, so it might seem weird. I could be overthinking things as well. Any insights?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago Stickied
Holy shit dude
Have you read the side bar?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1w ago
"Should I".
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
That too
EldenRing Should i (x1) 1w ago
Sure did. But I'm not a computer, so I might have forgotten about the specific text that gave advice about whether to block those kind of chicks or not.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Are you deliberately being autistic as an immature response to a serious question?
You don't need specific text, the sidebar is a collection of over arching themes
How about not being butthurt that a woman doesn't like you and use her for social proof and act like you're the prize instead of blocking their asses
SwarmShawarma 1w ago
Imagine the ugliest, not family, woman you remember, one u see fairly often.
Yeah I know probably not that easy unless you wore beer googles and made a mistake.
Now imagine she blocked you, because you didn't wanna talk to her.
You can be this guy, butt hurt, ego offended and block whoever you want. No one cares and maybe even someone will be relieved that this butt hurt dude disappeared.
So you see it doesn't matter what you do unless she killed you cat, is terrible person that shouldn't be allowed in your socials or is living in your head for more than 2 weeks etc.
Say if ever shit tested 'why did you keep me on socials' - 'I didn't have a time to think about you'.
First-light 2 1w ago
I think it depends what you would be win/ lose if you didn't block then. There is some pre-approval benefit and networking benefit in being around girls (though not the same value as actually sleeping with those women).
Is there a risk of blocking coming back to bite you in social circles or do none of the girls you talk to ever know each other?
If you know for sure that you would only simp out and waste energy and resources trying to win them or become jealous, then blocking is probably best but if you can control yourself, like you say, one or two of them could have been useful. Provided they have simply not been interested, as opposed to irritated you with their personality or turned you down with contempt or ridicule, they could be useful.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Relevant sticky:
What happens when you ask a "should i? question in AskTRP
EldenRing Should i (x1) 1w ago
I just saw this and it looks kinda foolish to be honest. I thought forums were for nerding out about various topics. Maybe it's true that I'm unable to think for myself or not, but I don't see anything wrong in getting different perspectives.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
If it's too foolish for you participate elsewhere
You haven't been around here and have no idea the need for it. Probably shouldn't squabble with the mods on why we mod this way
Lone_Ranger 3 1w ago
blocking someone is petulant behaviour. It shows that you are delicate. Being delicate and petualant is certainly feminine behaviour. So no, don't block anyone.
The only exception to this is to block someone that is spamming you, calling you while you are trying to sleep.
in general, blocking is the sort of thing that teenage girls do. So, no.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Counterpoint:
I blocked a few girls with borderline personality disorder and I did not regret it at all
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1w ago
This.
OP @EldenRing - your OP is a confession of bitchy behavior, and I'm scrolling through these comments in which all your replies are bitchy.
Give your balls a tug. Lighten up.
"Don't let women FriendZone you" doesn't mean "block them like a petulant brat the nanosecond they do something you don't like".
The one who bought you dinner twice? That's a rare gift of an actual female friend. Most women, when they FriendZone you, are doing it to string you along and use you for favors and attention. The ones who are actual friends will do stuff for you, too, and provide valuable social proof. This doesn't happen often, and you threw it away because you overreacted like a bitch because she didn't sleep with you.
No-Stress-Cat 1w ago
I'll get the chain, you get the tractor.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
I'll bring the turbo jets mod for the rear of the tractor
mattyanon Admin 1w ago
Ok, so female friends.
I doubt they'd gossip about you in a way that's detrimental to you
Look.... female friends is good. No need to block, so long as they are genuine friends. Genuine friends benefit you and your life and it's a mutual thing. If that's what it is, great.
The ones you block are the ones who friendzone you while being shitty friends.
GeorgeIII 1w ago
I’ll give a serious, non-judgmental reply, mostly because I used to do this around when I was 18. I did this because I felt butthurt that I wasn’t chosen back then. I hadn’t taken the red pill and didn’t understand why girls liked what they liked, and I wasn’t yet interested in the self-improvement aspect men generally need to go through.
First and foremost, whether you block them or not, you are not going to sleep with them. Not only that, since women form a hive mind with their fellow girl friends, if one of them thinks you are beta, they probably all do. For you, this means your “female friends” are unlikely to ever help you sleep around. So the conclusion is: it really doesn’t matter if you block them. You won’t get laid either way. In a way, that’s liberating for you. You have no sex to gain from them, so you also don’t need to put effort into them.
Now, be honest with yourself. Do you feel really bad about being in the friend zone? Does it suck that you weren’t chosen for booty call? I don’t mean this to mock you. Be really honest, and accept it. It’s part of the red pill journey. You can block them if it gives you closure, and keeps you from wasting time with them. In fact, just do it, just this once.
What you really need is to not take it so personally, and of course, learn game so you don’t end up in the FZ. And that might just take time and experience. Block them now, own up to your feeling of being “unselected” for sex, and eventually, move on. I suspect you have is outcome dependence, that is, you care too much about being FZed or getting laid with these girls. Outcome independence is much more likely to actually get you laid. Inside a woman’s hamster: he doesn’t care I rejected him -> he is emotionally stoic -> he isn’t or is less beta than other guys. Doesn’t guarantee success, but it’s a good start.
OP, I don’t know how old you are. Hopefully on the younger side. But even if older, snap out of it. Having outcome dependence just won’t help you plain and simple. In the future, you shouldn’t feel the need to block most girls, only the really emotionally abusive ones, like borderline girls.
-From a bozo who used to be just like you