Girl who started as a plate over a year ago, became FWB, after about 6-7 months. My n-count isn't insanely high, but can safely say there's not a lot of girls like her. She actually posesses the ability to self reflect, take critique, and work on herself. She started therapy after I told her (brother died in childhood etc), started going gym and lost weight/more fit after becoming plate. She's not the most beautiful girl ever, but is pretty, very submissive, does what she's told in the bedroom, public sex, says her pussy belongs to me etc. Cooks and bakes for me, occasional massage. She's been exclusive to me the entire time, while I've had ONS since, but no one that I wanted as plates. I'm currently very busy, and rather not spend much time chasing/meeting girls, however that might change summer 2027
She sometimes complains about not seeing me more often, but hasn't really pushed for exclusivity, although I know what she wants
I would say I'm 50/50 about LTR'ing her, as I'm basically exclusive to her right now - can't be bothered with almost every other girl, they are just so fucked and stupid in comparison (haven't told her this). My main dilemma is - I can see myself building a life with her, she's studying medicine (doctor), and has great maternal + "wife/LTR" qualities, and actually works on bettering herself. But at the same time I don't feel like I'm ready to be exclusive, I still want to explore more, but that probably won't happen before next summer (2027) where I'm planning to study psychology - which is like 90% girls. The effort/reward chasing girls will shift a lot, and I wonder if I still want to be in an LTR then
TL;DR: FWB with great girl for 6-7 months, started plate little more than 1 year ago. Unique/rare personality, very submissive - overall no complaints about how she behaves/acts. My circumstances will change when I start psychology uni life, with so many good options all-round. Same time I don't want to let her go as I really like her. But also me being non-exclusive for 12+ months already, it being 30+ months by the time I will start uni, is quite long, and I'm thinking, that it might be a lot to ask? I don't want to ruin her chance of finding a partner in her prime years, in case I decide something else by then
So I'm wondering, do you have any inputs? Is it tol long, do you think?
Background post for the curious: www.forums.red/p/asktrp/324362/caught_feelings_how_much_to_disclose/7864982/
Morpheus80 23h ago
45 years old...current plate of 16 months. Have also had a 3+ year plate in my lifetime, and multiple other plates who will come and go....and CUM AGAIN. Homestly there is no such thing as loosing a plate as I actually now have a former highschool girlfriend trying to become a plate 25 years later lol.
The most important thing to remember with women is that what makes you attractive is your focus on your own life, goals , and desires. Making a plate a girlfriend can sometimes ruin the situation because you loose that edge of being the guy she is chasing after and cannot get. You go from the guy who was better than her to the type of guy she now qualifies for. Then she starts to wonder what else she can get....because your affection has been secured.
So how long can it last? Well the less you care..the longer it will last. Heck she can even meet and start dating another guy seriuously(or get married) and still be creeping to your house at 2 am. IF you remain the prize to chase.
I have another former plate who invited me to her birthday recently.....the proceeded to sit next to me and take pictures with me in front of her huband. She wouldn't even let me leave without a few more pictures(AWKWARD AS HELL). SO your plate always remains your plate...as long as there isnt some kind of massive bridge buring at the end...and even sometimes that wont stop things fromsparking up againif our were hitting it right and didnt turn beta.
So dont feel like her asking to see you more is an indicationn she is ready to leave...or is about to make a push for something more serious. Look at it as sign as you are operating the situation correctly.
Remember women operate on emotion anyway. She will want a relationship on monday, then wonder what the hell she was thinking on Friday. So stop worrying about what she might be thinking or feeling and keep moving your life in the direction it needs to go. She can come along for the ride...or not. Again...even if/ or when she leaves, it will almost never be forever.
To truly conquer women...you cannot care if she leaves. you cannot care what she does...or whom she does it with. This is the attitude that actually makes her NOT want another guy because his energy will never add up to this type of non needy independent energy. Had anothr plate get married and come back later.......(the sex was never the same) she said. Most of these lover boy will never spank her...throw her around...choke her.....defile her....and deep down thats what she needs. Aside from all of that haha...since you have considered making here an LTR. She will be much more committed to that LTR if she had to work and WAIT a long time to attain it. But who says even if you enter into an LTR with her that you cannot see other women. Remeber you establish the parameters of the relationship.
If she is the only girl you are seeing right now...I would suggest you find a seocnd girl. One girl is too close to having no girl. Having multiple women help to maintain abundance in your mindset. This does not require any more time than one additinal day every two-3 weeks.
i said a lot......but as for you originaly question. How long can a plate last???? You should never ever care. and the less you care...the longer it will last....and the longer you will have access to her regardless.....
MidgetSpinner 20h ago
I find it hard to believe you're truly the prize (in her eyes) if she doesn't want to marry you though. Women's entire biological objective is to lock you down for commitment, and ours is to lock them down for sex. Are you the Chad for not caring and getting the occasional booty call, even if she's committed elsewhere? Sure, but unless she is on her knees begging to marry you, then what are you really other than a neutered stud animal in a farm? If a woman wants your children and your committment, then you are the prize in her world.
Not arguing with your philosophy though, of course. I agree with everything you've said. Indifference is king in the realm of women.
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First-light 2 8h ago
This is a good question. People and their circumstances vary, as does the depth of their attachment and the number of their options. So it will be hard to put a figure on it.
In my experience not very long as someone I got together with to bang -as opposed to had something in common with to start. However I had a baby mother for about 8 years before I let her move in when a previous incumbent vacated. In that case, having a child together within 2 years of meeting was a tie that meant she wanted to keep me and so I could have sex with her when I liked at any point in those 8 years. I am not sure she would count as a plate.
One thing to consider is how long does infatuation last? 18 months to 2 years seems a commonly stated estimate by scientists. After that, I suggest that here is going to need to be clear benefit flowing to the female (as per Briffault) or at least anticipated long term benefit for the relationship to remain -it can't just be attraction and excitement alone that hold her. If she remains through the infatuation state, it is because she gains benefit. That may be she hopes to settle down with you, it could be that you are so high value she can't help but like to be associated with you or that you are convenient option to have in her back pocket when she wants some attention while seeing other guys/ between seeing other guys/ when she travels to your area and so on.
If you have a serious girl post infatuation, who has no one else, she is probably holding out hopes of a future with you and it may be kind to consider how much future she actually has.