in the past, several times in the talking stage, I met some girls who tend to be manipulative, I'm aware of AWALT, all girls are manipulative, but I could say this was in a worse possible manipulation. I know people in this forums proly will assume it as a shit test and give me advice to do amused mastery or any that will pass her shit tests, but I guess there is a thin line between giving shit tests and manipulating me to do as she wanted (in this scenario, its more like obvious disrespect).

The pattern that I got was usually the girl act flirty / submissive in the first phase, once I try to escalate they tend to withdraw, then sometimes threw some random tantrums, personal insults to me (tried to belittle me), and from what I've seen, they assumed I already have a feeling for her after acted flirty, so they "expected" me to give her attention or ask whats wrong when they withdraw or doing any stupid tantrums, which I didn't do. Most of the times, I ignore it. At this point, I still assumed it as she was giving me a shit test. As I wasn't affected at all by her actions, I overheard her talking to her friend that she was frustrated that I did not give her "angry" reaction, and I assumed as a "win". Then unexpectedly, she was gaining allies with her friends, flipped the script like she was the victim. Yeah even her friends believed her, tried to sue me and spread the narrative. I know where this was possibly going, they could tell to my supervisor like she was the victim. At this point, my mind was telling me this is enough, and this is just obvious disrespect. I called her behavior, then she flipped the script again, and called me too sensitive which I ignored, and then reminded her again to not throw any stupid tantrums. After that, I rarely talked to her and kept it super formal and act like I was submissive beta (not doing what she wanted but more like not doing any teasing just keep it super formal), so she got bored and won't manipulate me again. Didn't do any teasing or what so ever after that scenario. It was a non formal work context 1 year ago, but I already left it.

I've seen a lot of women did this in work contexts so they just barely doing any work, and let the beta doing the work for her (which I fucking hate it). From what I've seen, TRP advised to game all women, but sometimes I have hard times differing shit tests and disrespect. Those 2 contexts are best responded as same as responding shit test, but at what costs? I dont think its worth it if I deal with women who tend to have any underlying issues that lead me to unwanted serious scenario like the above. Did I do the right thing by doing all of that?

Adding to that, from my observation, I assumed she has some NPD tendencies, which why she tried to manipulate me. I know, any behavior that called the NPD behavior just make things worse and they wont admit it. Thats why I ignore them (which also the proper response to those shitty behavior), just act like I was submissive to her even though I feel like beta shit sometimes, but after time, I feel like I wanted to do revenge toward that stupid bitch, feeling upset, feeling angry, but those kind of reactions if I were doing that, it's guaranteed to make things worse toward NPD. Relating to that, I have NPD mom, which made me a codependent beta man when I was high school, but called it out to my mom and lashed it all out after I realized my mom often did any NPD behavior since I was a child.

Due to that, whenever I met any NPD girls (which was a clear red flag, but it was unseen at first), my PTSD triggers me and I always want to lash them which is not proper response and they could immediately play the victim card, but if I didnt do anything that could attack the NPD, my mind always goes crazy telling me, "why didn't you lash at her so she could face the consequences??". I know a bit personal, but I just fucking hate it whenver it was work context, but there was a crazy bitch that plays this game and she knows she could flip the script anytime.

Is it just my ego trying to dominate her shitty behavior? I already knew if "ignore" was the proper answer to face NPD, but after I rarely meet the person again I always feel angry that I should have made her feel the consequences.