I used to operate under the assumption that I absolutely have to put on my best performance in bed and ideally make her cum, but now I realise that this line of thinking stems from scarcity mentality: if I don’t please this woman and be the best she’s ever had, then she’ll dump me because I don’t have anything else to offer other than looks and physicality (I’m broke), and I won’t be able to find someone as attractive as her. I now see that it is impossible to be the best with a woman since there’s always someone that is taller, bigger, has a fatter cock and so forth, and she (unlike myself) has her pick of the crop. I also now understand that no matter how well you do, all relationships (short term, long term) have a built in timer, and trying to artificially extend the time on it (by trying hard) will never work and only bring frustration. It’s also possible that when you thought you’d made her cum, she was actually thinking about her ex. My new philosophy is to divert all that energy that I spent on trying to satisfy a woman (in bed and via romantic gestures outside of it) to working on myself and increasing my SMV. Basically, it’s now on her to get off in bed and be pleased in our interactions, and to just focus on enjoying myself, and if she doesn’t like my lack of enthusiasm for catering to her, then it’s not really my problem. Women will be women and no matter how good you are she will still dump you just because she can and because she now wants a sample of something else - you can’t stop her. The only thing you can really do is become a man that can easily replace her once she leaves, with someone just as attractive.

What are your thoughts? And do you think I’m a little too extreme with this and I should still try to work hard at least in bed, if not in the relationship itself.

P.S. Did the sidebar read YOU?