Below is my conversation with a girl I met at an event:-
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[02/05, 17:15] ME - Hi how are you? SC was a blast I met some really cool people
[02/05, 17:19] : Hi there … it was super fun
[02/05, 17:29] .:Me- Yeah it was let's find a time to meet again
[02/05, 17:55] : Cool
[02/05, 17:55] : Are you based in ?
[02/05, 17:56] .: Me- I live in but I come to quite regularly. How about you?
[02/05, 17:58] :
[02/05, 18:22] .:Me - Cool whens good for us to meet? I'm available next weekend if that works?
[02/05, 18:23] : I can do at some point between 12-3on Saturday
[02/05, 18:31] ME- Sounds good so is Saturday 10th May ok?
[03/05, 08:28] : Should be good
[03/05, 08:28] : I just need to sort my daughter on the train at some point
[03/05, 13:52] Me - Ok where shall we meet?
(11 Days later:-)
[14/05, 18:50] : I’m so so sorry [14/05, 18:50] : Had a terrible bout of hay fever / cold… whatever it was - was not good. Hope you’re alright.
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Should I answer "Hi I'm good no worries hope you're feeling better now. Let's meet Saturday 24th?"
MidgetSpinner 2w ago
You now ghost her eternally. She didn't reply to your question for nearly 2 weeks, and didn't respect you enough to tell you the bullshit she gave you until day 11. She's not really interested, man. She's just out of what she considers better options right now. Also, she's a single mother. You can do better.
Lionsmane8 3w ago
DO NOT ANSWER
(and if you do, it should be around the lines of "I am no longer interested")
MrSupreme 1mo ago
11 days no contact,then when she exhausted all of her other options she came back to you. You could try,but there seems to be no attraction and she might flake yet again because you're not even on her top 3 guys she'd go out with. You'll do better with other chicks, don't put your eggs on that basket.
If you do try again try telling her you were too busy anyways,you almost forgot about it and don't ask her if she's available,just tell her to meet you at X spot at a certain time.
She's a single mom? I've had the experience that these girls could be interested but they play with time, sometimes you end up smashing at the 2nd date but it took 2 months.
Noonenoname Should i (x1) 1mo ago
Thanks good answer I am inclined to agree.
I will reply "Hi I'm good thanks no worries. Meet me in the afternoon on Saturday 24th".
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
Another "should I" post.
What do you you think you should do?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
I think i should flair him
Done
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
Man up, young brother. You're putting her in a situation to where she has to lead the relationship.
You pick the time, you pick the place, and TELL her you're picking her up at this time, and you go pick her up.
If she likes you, she will rearrange her plans to accommodate you. If she legitimately can't she will ask to reschedule.
If she still says she can't, and doesn't reschedule, she's not interested. Move on.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
I know you know about the answering your own question rule cause I've seen you do it in posts already.
Other than that you asked a should i question, you earned a new flair, you can work it off if you don't ask another one for a few posts
Consequences of asking basic should i questions in AskTRP
Noonenoname Should i (x1) 1mo ago
Does this not count as answering my own question? " "Hi I'm good no worries hope you're feeling better now. Let's meet Saturday 24th?"
Looks like an answer to me?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
It kind of was but there wasn't the full conviction behind it. It should be what you truly believe before anyone else has given their 2¢
But more importantly, you asked a should i question in AskTRP
Noonenoname Should i (x1) 1mo ago
It was what I truly believed to be a reasonable responce. Short, to the point, a specific day named and wasting no time on the basis she may well be attention seeking.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
I'm not worried about it. You got the flair for fit the should i
Noonenoname Should i (x1) 1mo ago
That's cool because likewise I'm not worried about the flair it's kinda bizarre. In the old days we simply ignored questions we didn't like but to each their own.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
It's a quality control on AskTRP.
I'm not sure how long you've been here but the questions used to be so bad. The quality and self reflection has gone way up with posting requirements
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
The rules are the same with every women. Offer to meet when she claims to be free, if she declines or flakes without a near future reschedule just next her
ObliviousDuck 1mo ago
I think she flaked because you forgot to ask her what you should wear and what to get for breakfast tomorrow. But I might be very wrong.
EDIT: But seriously, why are you guys so fucking scared of offering a time and place she won't be available? If she was truly interested, do you think she'll just say: "you chose the wrong time dude, better luck with the next girl" and ghost you?
Just take a decision and if it doesn't work for her she will offer an alternative like a normal person and if she doesn't, she wouldn't have accepted any other way anyway.
Instead, you guys ask a thousand probing questions, beat around the bush like scared little cats and delegate all the decision making to her because you are trying so hard to delay the moment she will reject you.
From now on, I want you to imagine every text you send to a girl costs you 5 bucks, or whatever amount you feel is a good deterrent. Are you going to ask her in 5 different way how her day was and what hour? of what day? of what weekend? she's available?
Noonenoname Should i (x1) 1mo ago
There are certain logistical issues as she lives a fair distance from me not as simple as "meet me at X bar" like you would say if you lived closer. I'm not scared of asking anything I'm focusing on logistics.
I could ask more details about exactly where in the city she is but that might violate your "too many questions rule"
Perhaps if she has genuine interest saying "when are you free" isn't such a big deal.
At no point did I ask her how her day was and I suggested 1 specific weekend only with no mention of what hour.