Been spinning plates for a while.
This one plate I haven't seen for a few weeks. Yesterday I texted her and we quickly established that she's coming over for the night. She works next to mine. She is normally super keen to stay the night.
She comes over and we have a great session.
Afterwards I go shower and get ready for bed on the understanding that we're sleeping in, and I hear that she's fiddling with the main door downstairs. I come down wondering wtf and she just says she wants to leave and her friend is waiting to pick her up.
I say what's up talk to me, she says she just wants to leave. I open the door bewildered (because she couldn't) and she says "just check your bedroom floor" and abruptly leaves, clearly upset.
I go upstairs and she just found another's plate nighty next to the bed I guess and laid it visibly for me.
We never talked of exclusivity or anything like that and I never implied it. One time she probed and I implied that I'm seeing others (she probed around safety and I told her I wrap it with everyone and we left it at that).
Yes it's my fault I didn't hide the nighty, girls are masters of this shit leaving stuff allover your place it was hidden I guess plus I didn't have time to arrange stuff before she came over. My fault.
I'm not going to reach out or anything like that, I may stumble into her again. I plan on ignoring the whole thing.
Wondering if you guys have had this situation before and what happened and how you dealt with it.
MidgetSpinner 2w ago
Well, she knows you did nothing wrong since exclusivity was never implied nor discussed. She's just hurt because she likes you perhaps beyond more than just a plate. Girls have huge egos.
Just carry on as you are, man. Seems like you already know what you're doing. Next time you have a plate around though, make them collect their shit lol. You might think it's cute seeing their belongings being left behind, but they're doing this for territorial reasons. It's YOUR territory.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4w ago
2 possibilities:
1) she tries harder to "win" you due to the powerful combination of preselection and competition anxiety and/or dread.
2) she decides that she can't compete or just doesn't want to and leaves, breaking her as a plate.
You should be OK with either outcome.
Just don't ruin it by groveling at her and apologizing when you did nothing wrong ( after all, you never promised exclusivity).
mattyanon Admin 1mo ago
Meh.
1, Tell her you're fucking other women
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
Just be a man and fucking own it. She's a plate the honesty and competition will give her tingles.
She needs to earn exclusivity through her actions.
She won't get it through shit-fits or anger. Ignore her butthurt. That is not your problem.
ARedditAccount005 1mo ago
Was the nighty in a size smaller than her? She rage-quitted, bro.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
Good point
MrSupreme 1mo ago
Let her hamster work it out, she's not gonna instantly develop attraction and worship you. Reach out to her next week, forget about the incident and remind her she already knows she ain't the only one you're seeing, and that you'll be more careful next time.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1mo ago
What do you mean “she’s not gonna instantly develop attraction and worship you”? Do you mean after the incident he has to do damage control to rebuild attraction, or that she wasn’t attracted enough to begin with?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4w ago
read the sidebar
read up on "preselection"
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 4w ago
I’m familiar with that but I don’t understand what he meant by his wording.