Hi everyone, I live in Italy and go out to approach girls very frequently in Mlian. I only see about 10 Italians who approach in Milan, so we're not many.
I am fairly good with dates and getting numbers, but I still have some trouble with approach anxiety, and of course some days I come home with 0 to 3 approaches, and some others i do 10+. I'm not doing enough approaches, I have done 1500+ of them in 2 years, which sounds like a lot on paper, but it's not, I could have done many more of them. What are your tips on approach anxiety? Do you struggle with it?
Btw, if any European user is curious about daygaming in Milan, I think it's one of the best cities in Europe for daygame, given the existence of low cost flights from Europe, the presence of many eastern models, and in the main city square there's always a ton of people, even during weekdays. I can share tips specific to the city if you're looking to have a weekend day game trip, if you want you can ask
EurasianChad 1 3w ago
Don't go out for the sake of approaching. I like using the metaphor of "side mission within the main mission", sort of like a GTA San Andreas metaphor.
Basically, you go out to do errands/buy shit, and if you see a cute girl on the way, strike up conversation briefly. If there is a vibe you get her # then leave and go on with whatever business you originally intended. Literally no fucks given if she responds/hangs out/etc.
When I'm travelling, I'm always in search of adventure. You can mention this casually with the women you meet as an opener, say you're looking for fun shit to do - and you never know who you'll meet. Might just meet a fun adventure hoe that's DTF that night.
The whole point is to not make women the main focus of you going out. Trust me she can sense if you're too needy & your main goal is to fuck. You might meet a girl who's down for that too, but more likely during the night in the club scene.
TLDR: The trick to getting more women is actually to not care so much about getting more women, whilst remaining a social person.
Maturin_nj 4w ago
Italian American women are a breed to themselves. Particularly in the north east. Toxic levels of entitlement, princess mentality, spoiled rotten by BP fathers, and over evaluation of their smv. And the forementioned are their good qualities. Worst women I've ever encountered. And I'm an Italian american man. I have avoided them like the plague most if my life. Half Italian is a lot better as well as northern Italian. My point being you might be swimming in polluted waters.
whytehorse2021 1mo ago
You overcome approach anxiety by walking up to random women and giving them a compliment, making their day. After a while it just comes naturally. There's no pressure so therefore no anxiety.
Day game has sort of died in the US. Everyone has their face in their phone now, is fearful out in public, and our women have zero social skills. :)
financehardo420 1mo ago
yes I mean I’ve dabbled in daygame; my success rate is way higher in the bar scene though.
just always felt a bit against the grain for me. The chick is on the way to fuck knows what/getting something done during the day and so am I; the whole entire ordeal just seems like a waste of time
ExConvictNowMillionaire 4w ago
Lol interesting. For me day gaming is actually easier than bar game. During day gaming you can properly chat without having to yell because of music & she's not under influence or peer pressured by friends.