Some pratical steps:

If you are currently living together OR if she has keys to your current address;

1. redirect all your mail to a safe place. Somewhere nearby.
2. Take all your documents that you have at home (bank statements, passports, utility bills in your name etc etc) and pack them in a box and bring them to a safe space. If you have a suitable place at work, this is ideal, because you may need access to these docs during 9-5pm.
3. Change all passwords on your devices. Seriously, do it now.
4. Tell all of your family members that you are in a legal dispute with your ex, and that they should allow ZERO contact with her. This is important - tell them not to answer ANY emails or messages, and to hang up if she calls them. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT.

Prepare for the worst, hope for the best

She may not go down without a fight. My prediction is that she will now reveal her true colours, by saying something like ;

"I want you to buy me out of that house. That house will go up in value, and its OUR house, so you need to pay me 50% of any price increase etc etc etc"

This is bullshit. It's not OUR house, because she hasn't paid any part of it. If (when?) she starts with this game, then you will know her true nature. Her true nature is that she was interested in your resources, not in you.

DO NOT feel obliged to placate or appease her, because that never works. If you try to offer hers something, she will just want more. She needs to meet firm resistance. If she takes that position, you should reply in the following;

"No. You have no claim on that house. I am buying by myself, and its nothing to do with you. You can do this the hard way or the easy way.

The hard way - we renege on the contract, the seller suits us jointly, and we will both be jointly liable for the penalty, which I understand to be substantial. If you do not pay your half of the penalty directly to the seller, then the seller will pursue YOU in the courts. I do not care about paying my half of the penalty, as I have a good income, good resources and the help of my family.

The easy way - You can walk away from this without having to pay the penalty, go to court or have your credit rating damaged. I will appeal to the seller to have the contract changed so that you have no liability.

Only give her these 2 options, do not engage in negotiations or even entertain any variations. Its the hard way or the easy way. That's it.

Stand firm, this is the start of your new life as a man that stands up for himself.

If a woman is pulling back, just run. They are hard to trust when they run towards you, when they pull back it would be very dangerous to follow them.

Women are more holistic. If things are good, all is good but if they are not sure, then they struggle to see the good even where it is strong.

Its very sad for you but in time you will see this as a lucky escape. Its possible you could have a happy ever after with her but its a very remote possibility and it could be dangerous to chase it.

Based on the fact pattern of your previous post, you did the prudent thing.

The overarching issue with this is her unwillingness to leave her parents "frame" and enter your's. Her unwillingness to travel 25 minutes is quite irrational and it makes me think there's underlying psych issues here or something else.

Anyway, this is all conjecture, and frankly doesn't matter. You cannot be with a partner that doesn't respect you, and with whose family you do not get along with.

You dodged a major bullet. Your future self thanks you.

However, it doesn't make the present pain any less.

Take this time to focus on the self. Read a novel. Hike. Play video games. Lift. Run. Whatever. Do not turn to alcohol or substances. Do not turn to dating apps.

We are here to support you.

Btw, are you buying the house?

I broke up with her. This morning before work I asked if she wants to give it another try. She said her heart says yes but her mind says no. The main reason is that she knows I hate her parents and sister. She said that I will always hate them.

She says that to blame you and to have trump card if she'd change her mind anytime in next 30y. You gave her perfect conditions to do it, you asked her - does she want, she smelled blood.

Tbh I’ve never got along with her sister.

You further rationalise her behaviour, leaving in your mind exactly this gap she will try to exploit if she come back in 30y with saggy ass and tits, still dripping warm cum.

I have read comments in previous entry. Ppl suggested you take action and you make decision and she either will follow or not, without you explicitly giving her vocalised chances. Everyone here understand you, no one here is to placate to you.

If you wanted to give her a chance to follow, your absolute best chance was to ghost her, and to open the door if she kneeled on the other side [as she already know you will do your thing and overcommunicating it was like giving her chance to change her mind, but she new what is behind it, you have begged her to change her mind by giving her another chance]. Watch https://youtu.be/leeoJLBtLIw, standard.

I do feel really upset about it

https://youtu.be/UGvwnVJZNiA

She called me after. I assume it was to arrange to pick up her clothes. But it wasn’t she wanted to check if I meant the break up.

she waits for you to break. Now for a sec: lets assume you just would say you made a mistake and want back, internally you should sense disgust - it would be for yourself. ON top of that the first thing she would do after that, she would go to the sperm bank get some sperm and brush her teeth with it to remove any taste of you, she would feel so disgusted as well.

She then said she wants to try again

Further giving you false hope and observing will you fall for it:

but her head says it can’t work.

YOU SHOULD CONVINCE HEAD HER AND BEG HER that it can work, prove yourself, take a knee, more GIVE HER A RING

I don’t really know what I want from this post but all I know I am upset.

You have shared, that is a good start. You are blind to her actions, no experience, you agreed to 1000 concessions and didn't notice when, that led to frame* loss if there was any to start with.

You are worried you will be alone as per previous thread so you need to talk to someone who will actually understand. Online forum is a start but it is cold start. No one can give you slap or brow beat you in a friendly way.

Apparently you are good with money. You can get therapist, you might have a problem to find a good one.

Wait for opinions from other dudes on below idea, but guy that has written book someone else advised you to read, is also therapist and has some approved therapist/coaches here https://www.drglover.com/coaching-groups.html

*before you will FEEL what is frame, I'd say FOR STARTERS think about it as boundaries that you uphold and don't abandon. When you abandon your boundaries, then you don't have frame.

Just don't fall into the sunken cost fallacy. Guys tend to think they build up equity in relationships but that's not the case at all. All the good times you had you can still have if you friendzone her.

And remember women don't cry for the reasons we cry. It's an evolutionary tactic to get out of trouble and not be held accountable. You held her accountable by walking away from the marriage because of HER actions.

You did the right thing.

Plenty of BETTER fish in the sea.

Idk didnt read beyond the title but just beware of one thing, TRP is generally anti-relationship. You will hardly ever get good LTR advice. A lot of it will be to walk away or end things. No relationship is perfect, there will always be bullshit. Ultimately what matters is how much youre willing to put up with and if the pro's outweigh that. Let that be the deciding factor.

Once you say you break up, its no going back. Especially if you felt TRP pushed you to do it so therefore it was the "right" thing to do. Seriously, I have had girls head over heels for me, but when we broke up, things really changed. They internalize all the pain and hurt and it literally hardwires their brains. Even if they want you back theyre not going to be the same and will be very insecure.

I would take advice here, and listen to your own gut feeling and sit on it for a few days before making a big decision.

Yeah, it'll hurt like a bitch. But in a month, it'll hurt just a little bit less. In six months, it may still bother you, but it won't be pain anymore.

Don't stop doing your stuff. Take your time to mourn the relationship, but keep your head in your job, your hobbies, your friends. Don't lose sight of what's important.

You did what was necessary. You drew the line in the sand saying it's you or her family. A weak beta male would have complied with her demands and lived on the same street as her family. This would have been your death. She knows other women will be interested in you.

This is the only way to shake her world view. Go NC. It works and will work with you. I predict she's going to cave and follow you within 3 months. But hold strong on NC. Be honest with her and just tell her when the time comes "I don't want to live in your insular world. Your right I don't like your sister, here's why. Maybe I'll change my mind some day". You can also say I'm building a world for us. It's time for you to become the grown woman I thought you were. Once this girl settles in with you, she's going to love it and the freedom of escaping her family.

You're upset,it was a long LTR so it's natural you're upset. But you did the right thing,she is not showing any kind of flexibility,she's letting you know this,just not directly,but in womanese She wants you to be the one to break up because it is such a good deal to have you as a puppy on a leash,she wont do it herself.She knows that if you give in to this thing,you will give in to anything,always. This is your time to shine so stay on your path, come to terms with the relationship coming to an end and don't look bad.

Happened to me bro. The difficult part is only time, new women, and exercise can help. Also maybe counseling can help some of the narratives the women forces in your brain but usually counseling is dogshit. The hard part is realizing you cant invest in them really because they can leave at any time and ultimately everything is your fault because they will never take accountability. The "said she this, she did that" doesnt even matter, she will have a new guy same week and will blame you. I'm surprised you still had the nuts to leave but maybe you aren't saying everything. good luck