What is your sex life like/ or what has it been like?

I just want to ask that before i give my two cents on the issue. Your general partner count if you don't mind sharing or ballparking, ever had a reliable plate? A girlfriend?

Do you work out? Do you take a lot of stimulatants (caffeine or otherwise)?

I couldn't figure out how to reply under imissedherbrightside's message, but easypeasy method was what got me off it for real. It promised to make you not even want to watch porn, and by the end that actually happened. Gotta read the whole book once through. There's an audiobook too, if that's more your style. It's all online too.

If I had to guess about what made the EasyPeasy Method that good for me, who's also done the whole 'NoFap Day 36 - relapse routine. OMG I just want to watch a lil bit', was that it really made me think about it on a deeper level. Stuff like why would you happily put on tight shoes explicitly for the purpose of enjoying relief when you take it off? Porn's not really different in that way.

Or how if you're just going to give up something why does that really need any willpower. You don't have to exercise willpower to not have cocaine if you're not a cocaine addict even if it's besides you, or to try on women's underwear, or drink bleach. Sort of the same principle. Sounds like nonsense when I say it like this but I see that you study everyday, so maybe study this for a while?

Best of luck man, it's a pretty shitty feeling to go through, that you're not in control of your urges, that you just had to mess up again, just when you got your streak back. But maybe with this the answer isn't willpower for you either? How about you read a chapter or two and think about it. Once again, best wishes

Well, if you watch particularly fucked up porn or too much/too often, i can see how it can affect you socially.

But the real problem imo is you knowing that you have PIED and it is hurting your self-esteem in every moment of you being out in public and then you act in the way you don't like.

I think if you didn't have PIED and you were having sex with women, the act of watching others have sex on a screen occasionally wouldn't have as much of an affect on your sociability, don't you think?

Think of this -> say you could watch as much porn as you wanted, jerk off as much as you wanted and then when you did have sex, you still got it up no problems? I think then you wouldn't have the social problems, nor would you even want to stop watching porn or jerking off(just completely hypothethically still mind you) Just if you were honest with yourself, because it wouldn't have any major side effects, right?

But it does.

Knowing how it affects your brain and that EVERY time you do it, it further deepens your sexual response to being alone/watching porn/jerking off, the HARDER it will be to get hard with real sex. KNOWING THAT, you just never do it again. You might go through this vicious painful cycle more times unfortunately until you finally get it through your skull...but in the end i think thats the way out -> fully internalizing that this shit is unnacceptable because of how much you've already done it and you can't let it fuck up your brain wiring further and you need time off to reset the brain.

You will go through painful anhedonia stage and loneliness and the want for some release, intimacy or pleasure and porn/masturbation will be so close and so readily available and you must resist every time...its hard but you must do it, so that you can finally have the sex life that you want.

Have you read TheEasyPeasy method?

First of all... you are not alone. Lots of young men have gone through this, and come out the other side.

Secondly - good that you asked for advice. That is a sign that you are on the right road.

Thirdly - get any thoughts of shame out of your head. Try and not feel shame. Because the shame / isolation / reward / shame cycle is what keeps you there.

Instead of shame, you can feel some anger. You must realise that internet service providers have hacked your natural mental appetites. its like the tobacco industry. You can give up porn, it will take some time, but you can and YOU WILL.

You asked for advice - I would say treat it like AA. And a pivotal part of AA is finding a sponsor, so that you have have accountability to a sponsor. people think that a sponsor works because he will be able to give you advice - wrong. The sponsor thing works by making you accountable to another human.

Have a look at the No-fap space - some of it is on reddit. Read and learn. Listen the voices of other men that have managed to correct.

I believe in you - you sound ready to change. You can do it.

Stay in touch and come back here with updates. We're all on your side.

Every addiction has its challenge.

For instance the major challenge of food addiction is that you just can't stop eating or you'll die. You have to take control of your addiction while doing the addictive activity everyday.

What's really hard about porn addiction is that there is no immediate and easily perceived negative consequence to a reset other than shame. Unfortunately, depending on your mental state, for most people, shame actually fuels your addiction. You have to switch your mental state so that keeping clean is your motivation.

How I personally see it is, not drinking or not fapping is like having a super power over the 99% of others who do. I actually believe that. There is nothing like totally dominating someones rotten brain with your sober intellect, control and drive.

When I reset after a long streak, instead of focusing on the immediate shame, I focused on my life power leaving my body and how it would transform me into a needy social retard for the following week. Now, when I have the urge, I think about what I have and what I will lose if I reset, not my dignity, but my super power.

Abstaining from watching erotic content is just a start.I got a bunch of help from semen retention forums on reddit but only at the start of the journey. Semen retention and no-porn go hand in hand,so to speak.You gotta take it one day at a time, one day without porn is progress and those days add up to a week,then two week,you get the picture.

I am sorry to hear of your trouble and congratulations on being so honest about it.

I am not an expert on this but I think that it might make a small help to try to keep to a rule of all done in 10 mins if you do go on porn. Its easy to spend ages scrolling through videos and if you just say "I will jerk of and be done in 10 minutes, it can shorten the contact time.

I would also consider putting friction between yourself and the vice. Can you put your computer somewhere people can see you as that will make it harder to go on. Doing it with a woman will help and its work making this a main goal.

I hope you manage to kick the problem and it would be interesting to her back on what the experts at porn addicts anonymous suggest.

Porn and other simpery shit are the symptom and you're using it as an escapism. Porn doesn't fill that void, it creates it.

You fried your dopamine receptors, hence the anhedonia/depression, so you need more stimulus. Good thing is that you can reverse that shit thanks to the brain plasticity, you just need to cut it out completely right now.

Will power does jack shit for addiction, as you know already. You need to change your whole self image. I've seen someone already mentioned The Easy Peasy Method. Read it again and implement the teachings. You created this shit and only you can fix it. No one is gonna hold your hand bro.