I'm 26 in an LTR with a 30 year old. She used to be fwb with a 55 year old dude (60 now) when she was 25.
Apparently he was really special to her in a low-time in her life or some shit. I found some of their texts but she deleted the rest before I could read them all. Sorta gross. How can I move forward with this? I want to tell her how gross I think it is, but at the same time, she literally has done nothing wrong to me except hide from me that he existed.
I think i'm just being a jealous beta - but I also no longer see this otherwise great girl as anything more than an LTR knowing she gave her best years to a guy older than my dad lol.
Karenzza 1y ago
Don't LTR older. Been there you will regret it even if she is not bad.
The only.viable.way to.date someone that will be unattractive when you will be.in.your 40 is to have another 2 plates on.a.side for a lifetime.
Unless she is mine of unicorns, start to plate asap
If you find her.unattractive and.wont fuck her (enough hard/of5en) because of it, she will find.some strange and.then you're done.
delesseyM 1y ago
I think you'll be better in the long run if you just dump her or demote to plate, i don't really see a difference between those two actions choose the one who is better for you, i will just go full for younger girls. IMO I'll rather be an old man fucking a younger girl than being in the future the old "young guy" who married that bitch. I don't think you want to take that LTR of yours to a family dinner knowing she had in her mouth a dick older than your dad's one lol. Also she's 30 she post wall af.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
She's 30. You're 26. Who cares what this girl did. She's hitting the wall fast, and you move on to greener pastures. I'd get ready to spin plates soon.
wswZtyqNGQ 1y ago
You have to give an honest and rational answer to two questions: 1) does this woman's relationship history negatively affect her ability to have complete loyalty to you (like how high body counts destroy women's pair bonding)? And 2) are you unable to control your emotional response to this information (are you going to be grossed out from now on)? If the answer to either one is yes then you don't have a future together. (But remember, the answer to question 2 is entirely within your control.)
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Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
he was probably her sugar daddy, helped her out financially.
Even kind of states it (he was special to her in low time in her life), like she was broke, fucked,etc.
So, why are you in LTR with her, you say she's great.
Are you providing for her financially at all? Is she paying at least 50%. If not, you are her new daddy, just younger.
If you aren't providing, then she's into you. So you got to figure out if you can live with this.
unplugged69 1y ago
Why are you in an LTR with an older woman? She's into 50 year old men, let her go settle down with one, probably a beta bux. I would plate her immediately, it sounds like you didn't vet properly before promoting to LTR. Can we please sticky Humansockpuppet's "how to manage your bitches" post, it's the one thing nobody ever reads and it solves 99% of problems on this site.
https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/3524/humansockpuppet_s_guide_to_managing_your_bitches
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah I was kinda shocked to learn, as an older man, that it's attractive to some people. Oh well, I don't make the rules, I just cum in the vaginas.
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