Non native English speaker, so pardon in advance. I am have been following the red pill for about 3 years now.
Background : I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (28F) for 3.5 years. I graduated from a pretty good college and am already in top 1% earners of my country.
My gf is from a pretty good family. Her parents have a very idealistic love marriage (love marriages were kinda taboo in their time). Her father is a high powered government official so she has a positive male role model whom she looks upto. This probably lead to her submissive behavior.
We live in a conservative country, so she has pressure from her family to settle down. It's not common here for women to be over 30 and remain unmarried. I will probably want to settle down as well, but I think that I am too young to make this decision right now.
I know that I haven't unlocked my full potential and could grow a lot in my career. So I want to focus on my overall development, before I make lifelong commitments.
Some of the fault is mine as well, I get too comfortable/happy and stop working on self improvement. (I didn't have a loving childhood, so that's why the emotional attention is so satisfying now). I feel that I need to go monk mode and be alone for a while. It might sound a bit selfish. But I feel that it might become a lifelong regret if I don't do it.
I have 2 options :
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Let a good girl go. But possibly become a version of myself that I always wanted. It's risky since I might end up depressed being alone. Hookups aren't very satisfying for me
- Get together. But having a lifelong regret that I didn't take the risk. (Some friends suggest that it should be easier for me to work on myself when I am in a happy relationship. So getting together should be a win win situation)
UberMench 1y ago
Usually, best option is always to do what scared you the most. But your feelings will hinder you!
redhawkes 2 1y ago
Your life has just begun, don't fuck it up because of peer pressure. Not even gonna comment how shes older than you and all that. The wall is in front of her.
Put yourself first, always. She'll find some beta in no time.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Number one is the only good option, for both parties even.
She wouldnt be be happy with option 2 either, with you being unhappy, unfulfilled, and drooling over younger chicks in a few years at most.
The sooner the better
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whytehorse2021 1y ago
Based on your incorrect use of the present continuous tense, I'm going to wager a guess you're from India. You need to do a combination of #1 and #2. Get together AND become the best version of yourself. Men and women are compliments to one another. You've already vetted her for 3.5yrs.
The only lifelong regret you'll have about not taking a risk is the risk of not getting an STD. But if you're like me, you'll go bang hoes when your wife isn't looking and get that curiosity over with.
12monkeys 1y ago
Don't go that route. I had older LTR and my mind was fucking with me when I have seen her aging as fuck. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pz3gbKrFZOA Watch that, and mind they have more resources to be in shape.