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- Hide Preview | 26 Comments | submitted 2 years ago by Trust_One [Post Locked]

I love to joke around and everything, but I often laugh when it's not necessary. By this I mean, I laugh at unfunny jokes to make the person feel better. I laugh at girls' jokes out of courtesy even when they're not funny before I can stop myself. I feel as though I'm not taken as seriously because I laugh in uncomfortable scenarios such as prolonged eye contact or confusion.

I just want to come across as more stoic. I know - fake it til you make it. But it's so engrained in my psyche that I just can't stop doing it. I'm making a huge conscious effort to lower it, but I need to know if there's any tips, tricks, or exercises I can do to quash this bad habit.

[-] NidStyles 9 Points 2 years ago

Watch more stand up. Not sure why it works, but for me it does.

[-] RPTAW 8 Points 2 years ago

Raises standards, maybe?

[-] NidStyles 2 Points 2 years ago

That's likely. Didn't want to be too presumptuous about it though. I associate with a few amateur comedians as well. They are pretty funny, so it makes it harder for common folk to make me laugh.

[-] Cathal_Pendred 9 Points 2 years ago

Stop smokin all dat green shit niqqa!

[-] Trust_One 2 Points 2 years ago

Already taken that step

[-] Cathal_Pendred 2 Points 2 years ago

Good on ya brother. So have I.

I was smoking a lot. I don't really know how much you were smoking and for how long but I quit under 2 monthes ago. So, from what I've read it might take a little longer until my brain gets used to this new sober reality.

I don't know man, maybe try meditation? It helps with controlling your emotional response to situations I've found.

To each their own, but good luck!

[-] NidStyles 1 Point 2 years ago

It will likely take a year or so, while staying in a constant state of "high" the pleasure centers of your brain will start to enlarge due the heightened presence of pleasure from the cannabis. . It will take a while for them to return to normal.

[-] Brian_Official 1 Point 2 years ago

Citation? I'm always super interested in neuroscience

[-] NidStyles 1 Point 2 years ago

I didn't look it up again. I read this years ago.

[-] LeanRammus 1 Point 2 years ago

For me it was over a year, I use to smoke about 3-4 grams of grade a day for about a year (give or take). Things do go back to normal, helps if you don't do any other drugs in between (drinking and smoking tobacco included).

Made me appreciate my relationships with people and opportunities I took for granted beforehand.

[-] NidStyles 1 Point 2 years ago

This is why I can't imagine being in relationship or trying to build a new 'friendship' with a person that smokes everyday. It's just impossible for them to make interpersonal connections that aren't based on selfish pleasure.

I personally can't spend time around stoned people and not get annoyed with their behavior. I can't even touch the stuff without feeling like an idiot either.

[-] LeanRammus 1 Point 2 years ago

It depends on the person. I have a few acquaintances who are fiends, and they're always trying to bring me back into it all. These are the people you can't be friends with, because they see you as money or drugs.

I agree you can't be friends with an addict, but you can be friends with a casual user.

As for doing drugs, personally it wasn't worth it. Invest that time into something useful, but each to their own.

[-] NidStyles 1 Point 2 years ago

Casual users don't smoke everyday.

I invest my money in myself and things I know will net me a return at some point in the future.

[-] Cathal_Pendred 1 Point 2 years ago

Shitty, that's a little longer than I had hoped....

[-] NidStyles 1 Point 2 years ago

Well, there are always downsides to everything.

[-] inaddictaquate 4 Points 2 years ago

Try replacing laughter with something else physical, like tightening your lips, inhaling deeply, etc. Neutral things. Train yourself to use those instead of laughing.

[-] jd0589 2 Points 2 years ago

Smile instead

[-] muddynips 2 Points 2 years ago

You need to raise your tolerance to stimuli. Lift heavy weights. Develop grit.

Laugh if you think something is funny and for no other reason. You don't owe them a response, and anybody who cares about comedy wants a legitimate response anyways. If it's not funny, nothing is the appropriate response. Don't be afraid of silence.

[-] Apanthropos 1 Point 2 years ago

Lift.

Get your mind accustomed to pain and pressure.

[-] bmking 3 Points 2 years ago

90% of the problems on this sub are answered by "Lift". Haha

[-] BinglesTRP 1 Point 2 years ago

And you'd think that would mean something to people searching for life advice. Yet here we are - Still trying to convince people of the benefits of this.

[-] AFPJ 1 Point 2 years ago

come across as more stoic.

If you want to laugh, laugh. When people say unfunny things, don't. Laughing isn't the issue, being a nice guy is.

Approach 100 girls, take a dance class, go out sober and join a fighting gym to desensitize yourself to socializing.

[-] laere 1 Point 2 years ago

I used to be the same way. Although, I don't think laughing in itself is bad.

However, I would just focus on being in more social situations and trying to self-calibrate. If someone tells a joke and it is funny, sure laugh, if someone tells a joke and you don't find it funny, pause before reacting, and just ask yourself if you do find it funny or not. It's ok to not laugh at jokes dude.

Hell women and men that come into my workplace all the time try to get me to laugh, sometimes it works, other times I just don't find their jokes funny.

[-] sodainthewatercup6 1 Point 2 years ago

I was the same way. I still smile and laugh excessively, but TRP material is starting to take effect.

It's been about 18 months for me here, but I AM noticing I will hold a straight face for longer periods of time. I start seeing gestures and comments for what they really are now--moreso than before.

Stick with it and do more research. You're not the only one with this issue.

[-] RealRG 1 Point 2 years ago

I had this same problem. For me it was almost surely a combination of neediness/ low testosterone. I laughed out of need to say "I get it" or because I felt uncomfortable. Other times it was because I had low standards. I'd say improve testosterone and you'll give fewer fucks, watch comedy and have higher standards.

[-] ScottRikkard -1 Point 2 years ago

Next time a friend makes a bad joke say - ''Every time you say a bad joke, a kitten dies.'' Then make the most serious face. Then laugh. Then make the serious face again. Then meow.