gotta be stronger than her and let her complain. just say yeah yeah. hold frame and be ice cold.

The most important thing is to always remember to not take them serious ever. If it helps, try to imagine a seven year old with a lollipop and a snotty nose, trying to become passive-aggressive.

We get home after visiting her parents and she starts doing the dishes. Just as she is finished, she gets passive-aggressive mad at me for not helping. I call her out on it on her inappropriate behavior especially as I was doing another chore meanwhile. I let it go thinking it is just a minor incident, but she is still a bit mad. I want to act out and put her in place, tell her it is not fair for her to be mad because of that but it will not help. Logic does not help.

There are many possible ways to handle this. Personally I just like to play dumb and ignore the passive-agressive things, like I do not understand. I wouldn't have called her out.

If I would have though, I would have done it properly by explaining her what she did and why she did it.

In this particular situation the problem isn't her passive-aggressive behaviour. It's the fact, that she feels so much entitlement, that she expects you to do something for her without even having to ask to for it. This is universal female behaviour and they love to do this.

What you should have done, if you needed to call her out, is explain that to her in the same tone you would use if you were to explain something to a child, and that her anger just stems from the fact that this strategy didn't work this time, and not the fact that you didn't help with the dishes. You need to show them that you are always operating at least one level above them.

You could then just have told her how sweet she is when she acts like that, pulled her in, gone for a kiss and fucked her.

You need to learn how to let things go. Its in the past let it go

Meditation will help you out

Personally, I'm sick of people telling me I can't express my feelings or that my feelings aren't valid.

If she's being hurtful towards you, there is no reason you should have to hold those feelings in and just "accept" it. Fuck that bullshit.

What is a LTR shit test exactly?

A LTR shit test is the woman wanting to know you are still attracted to her, she is acting as unattractive as she can and wants you to engage her sexually. This is exactly what all LTR shit tests are. She wants a small argument. She wants you to hurt her feelings in the heat of the moment so she can feel sorry for herself. She wants you to apologize for hurting her feelings by engaging her sexually. That way she gets her release.

You had done something weak by visiting her parents with her and she was aching to be put in her place.

Now if she isn't eager for sex in a situation like this she doesn't love you and you have to get rid of her.

These shit tests are the hardest part of a LTR because unlike women most men don't get horny when they get irritated or angry. Women get horny from all emotions, because their emotions reinforce each other and they get release by sex. The long-term consequence of passing these shit tests is that she'll try harder and harder to rile you up so that she can get fucked by you when you're angry. God damn it.

Let her be mad. Women want to feel all different emotions. Eventually you not acknowledging her childlike behavior will make her snap back into line. Your absence of affection will affect her more than anything you can say.

We get home after visiting her parents and she starts doing the dishes. Just as she is finished, she gets passive-aggressive mad at me for not helping.

She's the female. Bring up how you don't expect her to help with the heavy-lifting you do either in your career, or in the gym. Or both. Mention you are a Man and you have duties, you have a role in Life.

And she has hers.

Which is to STFU and happily do the dishes and chores, and supply an endless supply of blowjobs and sex, while you come home from pretty much taking on the vast world alone to relax with your woman.

But you have to become that Man who she WANTS to happily do these chores for and suck off and spread those legs for. Don't expect a bitch to want to do ANYTHING for you if you can barely spark a tingle in her vag.

I call her out on it on her inappropriate behavior especially as I was doing another chore meanwhile. I let it go thinking it is just a minor incident, but she is still a bit mad. I want to act out and put her in place, tell her it is not fair for her to be mad because of that but it will not help. Logic does not help.

After some solid soft/medium Dread on your part to gain the upper hand in the relationship again, make her understand that it's either she does her duties and fills her role, or you'll find another hottie to do so.

If she acts up, demote her from LTR to plate while you date other girls to fill in that LTR.

I stop initiating conversation, touching, giving her attention, but in reality, all I really want to do is discuss it and tell her how wrong she is. Somehow, I land in-between start acting but hurt and answering her questions with short, rude answers.

Always keep 2 in the kitty. For these scenarios exactly. You care too much. You become the Caring Asshole, which is a huge turnoff, when you should be the Aloof/self-amused/self-mastered (frolick) Asshole.

Next time you see her, safely trip her on the floor and pick up a pillow or two. Then proceed to playfully slam the pillow(s) on her

You ignore them by doing something that will help take your mind off it. Read, build something, play games, go out, work out, etc. etc.

Stop thinking about it, and let it go, and do something that will help you do that.

There are times when you need to firmly tell your girl how wrong she is. But never in that "it is not fair" style.

When you're putting a bitch in her place it needs to be scary and absolutely overwhelming, and not in a good, rational niceguy way. Get bad, get in her face if needed, and put her in her place with stern righteous judgement.

Example 1: "That's completely unfair of you Alice. I'm here fixing the shelf for you, and you're bitching about the dishes. I don't like it, and it hurts. Please stop." (no good, she will only get more angry and very insecure that her man is such a pathetic bitch, can't stand up to her because to him being "good" and "nice" is more important than having dignity).

Example2: "Alice! Shut your goddamn mouth, I am busy. And don't open it again until you're sorry your dumb ass decided you could talk to me that way. Oh you don't like it? There's the fucking door darling. Now shut the fuck up." (decent, there is no supplication or asking her permission, no attempt to seem nice or be the good guy, and the way her man is not holding back his righteous anger is strangely sexy to her, since she knows she's being a bitch and deserves it).

Sometimes women can get into a rational discussion, but when it is obvious (like your example) they are trying to get attention and emotion from you, the only way to see it is like a little child trying the same.

Temper tantrum. You CAN channel that energy, right into the bedroom. Logic is not the way though.

The desire for more than that might be strong, but pay attention to what her ACTIONS say. Unless she's being calm and collected, don't expect her to react to logic. You have to learn the diff. Is she flirting (in an ineffective way), or is she actually looking for a solution to a real problem?

Also, when she's got her brain turned on, don't expect her body to get involved. The two types of communication are mutually exclusive. They both can be trained to be more effective.

In quiet moments, tell her what you love about the way she flirts with you. Tell her what you want from her, how she can REALLY turn you on, then reinforce THAT behavior. This works really well after sex. Keep it positive.

As for logical discussion... yah, treat her like a dude. The two are totally different though, and one mood destroys the other.

but in reality, all I really want to do is discuss it and tell her how wrong she is.

Well for starters she's not wrong: she's acting on her emotional programming in the moment. Pointing out to her that she's "womaning" isn't going to accomplish anything.

Somehow, I land in-between start acting but hurt and answering her questions with short, rude answers.

Ignoring means you aren't hanging out with her anymore. It's not the same as silent treatment.

This is the fake-it-til-you-make it aspect to personal growth. You feel hurt or rejected, that usually isn't her fault (or anyone's). It's usually your own leftover insecurities. When the insecurities leave, you'll realize you genuinely don't need another person's validation to be happy.

When there's an issue like this you can use logic. I use it on my main plate all the time. But it's not a discussion. It's me telling her how it is. Then telling her she has no right or reason to be upset. And if she persists she's always allowed to leave, but there are no arguments and there's no fights at my place.