Girlfriend (bunny girl from previous post) has been with me for a while now. Things have been great. She is respectful. I please her sexually. She compliments me on my looks. Well. She's been planning a trip to a beach state for a while now. We live in the midwest and she has family on the coast. She wanted to visit her cousins. She even invited me to come, but I'm not rich, and had to decline in order to keep working.
Things were fine the first couple of days. She has a business that is in the entertainment spectrum of work. Not 'that' kind of entertainment. Honest to God, honest entertainment. Her image is important though. She hired a female photographer to take some pictures of her while on vacation.
When she called to confirm the photographer started acting all sketchy and started trying to up the price and charge double and not provide a location. She shit canned that bitch and called around to find another photographer. She found some dude that has a great reputation for professionalism and decided to give him a call.
He agreed to take the photos as a trade. He can use the photos for his art/portfolio and she pays for editing. Cool.
Not cool. Enter the alfalfa supreme. Mother. Fucker.
So when you think photographer what comes to mind? Old bald white guy? Skinny white nerd? FUCKING. GUESS. AGAIN. DIPSHIT.
Here are his credentials: excellent photographer with very expensive and nice equipment, music studio in home and knows a professional producer closely, well off financially (rich?) and lives in a very nice apartment, ripped as hell and why? because he is a semi pro fighter.
Guys. I'm not making this up. Do people like this even exist? Why the fuck did my girlfriend have to find literally the coolest person alive to hang out with while on vacation?
I feel like a cuckold. I trust her, and he is admittedly a racial preference that she has always said she can't do. She said he is extremely professional, and that he lives with his girlfriend. I just can't help but feel like she might fall for this. I also feel like a worthless piece of shit. I just can't believe this shit is happening to me, and I have no idea the first thing I should do. Please, any suggestions would be great. What should I say or ask her? Should I contact him?
I can provide more info if need be, but I'll be staying vague. Thanks.
edit: Thank you guys. I can always count on the impartiality of strangers to help me see my own bullshit. I'm glad I read these posts before going any further down the road of petty jealousy. Back to the gym.
opentolife 8y ago
say nothing, do nothing - that would be weak and insecure. Keep working on yourself, you should be your focus, not your gf's holiday. If you notice anything that indicates cheating you dump her. simple as that. Does that sound hard to do? Good, life is full of challenges.
Mighty__Mouse 8y ago
Truth here OP. You'll know the cheating red flags right off the bat too. More photo sessions, different locations, hell the tone of her voice when she talks about her experience. If she isn't done with the CC, next her.
NikoMyshkin 8y ago
OP - this advice is word for word the best possible approach for you bar none other. Do. Not. Worry. It will be what it will be.
Vagantene 8y ago
That last line, pure inspirationgasm, thanks.
MrEiffel 8y ago
Yup.
Or just check her FB/gmail messages when she's on vacation, then you will know for a fact what's going on.
2thdoctor 8y ago
Why the fuck is the OP and everyone commenting basically assuming this girl is going to cheat on him since the guy is cool? jesus have some self-respect for how cool you are, isn't that the whole fucking point. Either you've proven that you're more alpha/cool than this random guy or you aren't and she's going to presumably cheat on you. You sound like its a foregone conclusion, jesus man get a grip.
If TRP has convinced you that everytime your girl/plate/ltr is with an attractive guy she's 100% going to fuck him (not to mention he apparently has a GF and is 'professional') I think you're reading it all wrong
Plan_of_Action 8y ago
I won't lie. The countless horror stories I've read have definitely instilled in me a bias.
RedditArgument 8y ago
And it's good to be cautious, but too much caution will only come off as insecurity.
RidleySmith 8y ago
Literally can't do anything at all. Just like she wouldn't be able to do shit if on a business trip Megan fox turned up and tried to seduce you.
Saying anything to her will just convey your insecurity.
The only way to prevent this sort of thing, really, is working on yourself so that she wouldn't dare do anything to risk losing you.
thepillwastaken 8y ago
This reads like you have deeper rooted insecurity. I mean, to panic about a guy that doesn't sound much different from tons of single, successful guys is not healthy.
Let me put it in perspective. I am not a semi pro fighter but I have the build and the music studio and know plenty of professional producers.
Newsflash - girls don't care that much about that (except the muscles - keep lifting). I do this for myself and as a source of revenue. When girls come over some of them want to see me play gigs or play guitar for them, but it's not a life changer for them and I've done plenty of things in music.
My real takeaway from this post is deep down you feel like you don't deserve this girl, she is better than you, and some guy is going to come take her away. So you need to fix that issue or else it will happen, simply due to self fulfilling prophecy, also known as deep rooted insecurity in your case.
af505 8y ago
I don't mean to sound rude or cold, but man this is the cold hard truth: that photo dude is doing nothing wrong, and you need to catch up by working on yourself. If your girl goes for him, it is as excusable as gravity. So work your ass off to better yourself.
Also, try to ascertain what any weaknesses on his part are. If push comes to shove, there's nothing wrong with playing against them.
But don't whine or complain to your girl. Just maintain your self esteem and keep working on yourself to become better.
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
Stop being a whiny bitch. Women can smell fear. Fuck, he sounds like a great guy. You should probably make friends with him.
johnnight 8y ago
I'm fine with him bitching here and getting rid of the bad emotions, if this helps him keep a poker face in front of her.
Maybe this thing here is a testicular cancer support group thing.
OP:
https://crabbage.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/fight-club-1.jpg
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
I very seldom tell someone to stop being a whiny bitch, but right now, this is just completely unfounded fear--unfounded other than "Oh, Fuck! This guy's so fucking COOL!" The whole situation reeks of fear, which means he's not going to hold frame in front of her unless he man's up.
johnnight 8y ago
You are right, too. He needs a place to get rid of the emotions, but then he needs to go back and not be a whiny bitch.
sodainthewatercup6 8y ago
Why do you know all of this about him? Did she tell you just to make you jealous (red flag), or did you ask about it (red flag)?
dr_dreadlifts 8y ago
Why the fuck aren't you at the gym right now?
profeyn 8y ago
Accept that what happens is not under your control and keep doing you. Abundance mentality.
ZorbaTHut 8y ago
If she chooses him, fuck her, you can do better. If she doesn't choose him, why were you worried? Even if you could do something about it in general, you sure as hell can't from this distance, and you're just going to come across as insecure if you make a big thing out of it.
I mean, you clearly are a bit insecure, so work on that too :)
4benny2lava0 8y ago
Stay strong, maintain frame. Run dread game, if she ups the ante, next her.
Mustaka 8y ago
Well first thing to do is "READ THE SIDEBAR CONTENT". We are not a relationship advise sub. Head over to the whiney asses in /r/relationships with this dribble.
Grifter32 8y ago
Our greatest asset is the ability to walk away. I know it'll cut you deep if you find out she cheats, but you have to be the alpha here. Bury those painful feelings, and next her. There's a million other women waiting to worship your cock if you keep working on yourself.
jons_throwaway 8y ago
Sac up man. You are jumping the gun.
cdtCPTret 8y ago
Two weeks ago 90% of this comment section would have been: "she already cheated on you. Wake up. Hard next."
Wonder what happened... Maybe the extremists got tired of writing the same thing over and over.
bicepsblastingstud 8y ago
Because there's nothing in here about the girl acting sketchy.
YourShadowScholar 8y ago
Definitely what I was expecting to read...weird.
AnalLeak 8y ago
Your attitude just has to be somewhere along the lines of "meh".
Kinda sucks after the investment of time into her, but that's what happens, or can happen.
The best way to think about it, is that when you're with a woman, imagine that you're already broken up. If it does happen, then "meh"... you can move on.