Basically, as the title suggests; my girlfriend currently runs way more dread than me. Upgraded her to GF about 6 months ago, but only recently realised the extent of this imbalance.
She has 5-7 close ish male friends who she txts/snapchats a lot amount, I dont really have any female friends just a tight pack of bros. She is very socially popular and is invited to a lot of drinks/parties etc where as I dont really like going out unless its for music gigs. She probably has a higher physical SMV than me all though slim, I'd say shes a HB/8.5. She gyms a lot and is around muscular men a lot, where as I am skinny (never really needed muscles to get chicks).
This all only dawned upon me tripping acid at a friends bach last weekend and I think I need to rebalance and insert some dread back into this relationship. So far I've decided I'm gonna shave my beard, join a gym, get some #s from chicks at uni, and stop smoking pot/tripping for a while. Other suggestions? also inb4 oneitis
BluepillProfessor 11y ago
Don't knock it. If the goal is to get girls like you always did then keep doing what you always did. If the goal is to get more and better (whether with 1 girl or dozens) then you need to change something and "I am skinny" doesn't cut it.
Warning flag.
Had to wait for the last sentence but now we are getting somewhere. This is a good starting plan.
Forget the Dread. Dread is for a girl who is not fucking you the way you want. If your GF is not fucking you the way you want it is time to move on quickly.
The most important thing for you is to cultivate abundance and kill your oneitis. TRP always gets criticized for all the 'anti woman' posts. I rarely say this but you need to marinate in them my friend. Your GF is acting exactly as predicted and...
darthdred 11y ago
I'm confused with your first sentence; I have no interest in pulling other chicks at the moment only circulating a little dread with this LTR.
Even more confused with your second; how exactly is tripping acid a warning flag?
Furthermore, she fucks exactly how I want, loves to give head and loves doggy.
This chick is cool, hardly ever shit tests and is down with all my lifestyle choices, I merely want to increase dread to maintain a balance.
Please elaborate on how she is acting exactly as predicted?
Shes had one BF prior to me and is the only person she has slept with before. Enough with the AWALT shit I don't believe it.
BluepillProfessor 11y ago
On the first sentence, if you are happy with everything why would you change anything? Bigger muscles will let you get other girls more easily. They will make the girl you have cream more intensely and increase the amount and quality of your sex with her.
On the second, using acid is a definite red flag- even if you are just in college. Commence lecture....I worked in mental health and saw the (admittedly small number of) people who dropped acid and went straight to a massive psychotic break that often lasted for the rest of their lives. Drug induce schizophrenia is not pretty. The fact you are backing off heavy drug use shows you know this. Don't get me wrong, shrooms are pretty awesome but I just think LSD is powerful and dangerous. Using it is like standing on the deck of a ship during a hurricane without realizing a gust of wind can pick you right up over the gangway.
On the final, she has multiple orbiters who desperately want to fuck her who she is obviously leading on- just like they always do as predicted. She is driving her BF crazy enough to post questions on Reddit with her flirtatious behavior. You may not believe in AWALT, but your description is exactly how TRP predicts hot women behave even in a comfortable LTR.
If you don't want to use Dread to get her to fuck you more I am not sure what you do want. That is the purpose of Dread. It activates the secondary selection tingles. I have never heard of Dread being used to get a girl to stop seeing her orbiters. It may work. Let us know if it does. That's why we have the manosphere- the collected experience and wisdom of contemporary men.
darthdred 11y ago
Cheers for this reply, insightful and intelligent. Whilst I disagree with your sentiments about LSD, that is a discussion for another thread.
On the discussion of dread, I was more concerned with how I can change regarding the imbalance of male/female friends. Do I start to cultivate more female friends? Do I tell her to stop talking to these dudes? I don't have any fear of them, I am without doubt the highest SMV male in her life.
BluepillProfessor 11y ago
That's a different question than I thought. I don't think you can tell her to dump her orbiters because that is controlling etc but know it is a risk. Trust but verify. I would DEFINITELY make it clear that if she is exclusive with you her online accounts are an open record and I would periodically check up on her emails, texts, and FB chats. I guarantee you will be HORRIFIED. Read "The Key Logger" for an eye opener. ALL hot girls keep one in the kitty, lead on orbiters, and have intense emotional chats with those same guys you are not concerned about. They rarely fuck them, but they get their validation stamps from them. Every fight, every argument, probably every cross word you say that pisses her off gets run tearfully by her emotional tampons.
I don't think your cultivation of female friends will make her give up the orbiters and will probably make her hold onto them even tighter.
darthdred 11y ago
Word up bro, solid advice. Lucky we don't argue then eh? That was one of the first things that I learnt here, avoid confrontation/arguments A&A etc. Literally haven't had a sour patch or bad time since we started dating thanks primarily to the shit I've learnt here.
vandaalen 11y ago
The problem here is not your girlfriend "running dread game", but
I'll plate her and start dating other women.
darthdred 11y ago
Good point. Not phased by her mates as they literally define bluepill/orbiter it was more the fact that I just don't really talk to any other females.
unhly 11y ago
Also,
KyfhoMyoba 11y ago
Prepare for change in your relationship with your gf. You are introducing yourself to more options, and options=instability. If you wish to preserve the LTR, introduce the Dread Game slowly. Master the self improvement first, rather than jumping right into gaming other chicks. The general goal of the self improvement part of Dread Game is for the improvements to attract women, which makes LTR jealous/insecure as well as happy that she's got you. If you think that your relationship can't wait that long, well, then you gotta do what you gotta do. Just be prepared for the shit tests.
[deleted] 11y ago
OP, this advice is very important. You can't just make a hard shift in SMV and expect her to fall right in line.
A heavy influx of dread will make her insecure, too much insecurity will make her unstable, and an unstable woman will make choices the rashness of which you've never seen.
So move gradually, prepare for shit tests, and do not budge with that new frame.
[deleted] 11y ago
Quit the drugs, whatever mind numbing feel good mind opening effects they have, they cost money and keep you complacent as opposed to sharp and imposing.
WingsnLV 11y ago
If she is using snapchat with other men it may be too late.
3rt41 11y ago
Stop doing drugs dude, it's fucking stupid.
Average_Black_Man 11y ago
Keep that fuckin beard unless you want to be a babyface.
RiseAboveIt 11y ago
Keep the beard. You'll look young without it.
jumpingdonkey 11y ago
i was about to say the same, keep the beard, do the rest.
pbj_sammichez 11y ago
I might add that only a poorly maintained beard looks sloppy. Rather than shaving it all off, consider keeping some well-groomed facial hair. If you can pull off a clean-looking beard, then keep that if you think it works for you.
LezBeTRP 11y ago
Eh, not everyone looks good with a beard. If he's considering shaving it then maybe it's patchy or a neckbeard or something.
aescetic 11y ago
I highly doubt someone with a neckbeard is pulling an 8.5 though.
LezBeTRP 11y ago
1) That's his rating
2) You don't need check all of the boxes to pull a hot woman, you don't even need to be attractive.
He said that he's skinny and it's possible he has a bad beard, but maybe he's 6'4.
Or maybe he's rich.
We don't know, he didn't say.
And we don't even know what this girl looks like, maybe it's a HB8.5 to him but she's just the most attractive girl he's ever dated. Hell, maybe he lives in an area with a high concentration of fat and ugly people so she's more attractive by default.
There are a lot of possibilities.
darthdred 11y ago
To put your curiosities to bed: you hit the nail on the head I am 6'4 with god tier facial genetics. A shame I didn't get a similar physique, if you saw me you'd call me 'lanky'. And to be perfectly honest shes prob a HB/9 but I was being humble as 9's are often subjective.
byronshadow 11y ago
It's good for both parties in a relationship to invoke a little dread. A little jealousy is better than one partner taking the other for granted.
You may not have any female "friends", but you may have a female classmate or coworker who could serve in a pinch. You could occasionally praise a friend's girlfriend(esp if she's prettier than yours). Or maybe you could call your girlfriend from a popular club(so she hears other girls laughing in the background). Be creative.
LibertarianLibertine 11y ago
You already answered your own question mate
HitchSlap92 11y ago
Seriously OP, good plan. You know yourself better than we do and everything you mentioned sounded like a good idea.
Haptic_Affinity 11y ago
Good starting plan.