Being upset isn't necessary to understand (you understand) she's wasting your time. NEXT.

"seem eager" -> illusion. If she's eager she'll show up.

A lot of women have zero interest in committing to anything, even a single date. They want validation & online dating gives them that more than anything else. They want boys to worship them so they feel pretty the way men want daily blowjobs from hot girls.

Always have alternate plans, though it's frustrating, it is imperative that you hold frame and don't get ass pained that she flaked. If you still want to take this girl out, contact her 4/5 days later, and ask her out again while light-heartedly joking about her flakiness and somehow mention the interesting thing you did instead. If she flakes again, next her, no woman is worth that amount of trouble.

As for the girls that seem eager, be indifferent and treat them as you would any other woman. Maybe tease them a bit more, but return about 2/3 of their attention/affection to them. If she flakes, again, no big deal, just go on about your life and do something cool instead. What you should do different when trying to take out an eager girl; is not to text them after they flake. If they really are interested they'll hit you up wanting to talk/reschedule. If not, next them and move on.

A little tip that's worked for me; always have something alternate planned near the location of the date. Often times I go into the city to meet women, and that's cool because there are so many things to do. If they flake, I'll pick up some books, look through some records, shoot some photos, or do something else I really enjoy. This is great, because even though I know we don't like to admit it, getting flaked on grates on your ego. And if it happens enough, it can make even the most attractive male start to doubt himself. So the next time you get flaked on, go do something you're good at instead, or give an old friend a call and see if they'd like to hang.

Don't use OKCupid.

Acknowledge the "excuse"; radio silence; move on.

Show that you are annoyed, then when you reschedule flake out.

Be upset because they wasted your valuable time?

You are never upset. Sometimes if something is insulting to your face you can be pissed off/angry and you react on it, don't bottle it.

But in all other cases you should not be so invested that it make you more than mildly annoyed.

because people make mistakes .... (abundance mentality)

that is not abundance mentality that is beta rationalisation of other people's disrespect.

Definitely, attitude matters a lot but it can be a avenue for deceit. I would recommend establishing a penalty nothing to harh but not just a slap in the wrist. Set up something fun playful but difficult during your next date on the spot.

Common knowledge is that if she has a proactive attitude towards rescheduling you should go for it. Your attitude should be unphased but don't pretend you didn't even notice, that is a weak move.

Now, from my exerience, flaky girls are to much work. They don't have their life put toghether and it will be a repetative theme in your dinamic. I next them instantly out of foresight and respect for myself. There are very few events that arise within a couple of hours that make you need to drop all your evening plans, a when that does occur most level headed girls will be so embarashed and apologetic they will beg you for a second shot. But flakes could flake because they decide they have a bad hair day right before they get out of the house ad because that is such a normal attitude they won't feel any guilt and will expect you to try again.

(note:some flakes respond excellently to moral reprimand if you have enough base attraction and that makes them easy no-date-lays, since you don't want to pursue her, go for the killing and put her in her place, poke the bear if you will and see if she invites you over to make it up to you - note to the note: this is a skill shot and you need to really be attractive but the practice won't kill you, just be outcome independent and don't fish for another date she lost the priviledge)

Incredibly frustrating situation. You can only play numbers game online.

Just say "Nah...only free tonight as planned. Booked with appointments next week. Hit me up in ____ tonight. I'll be out".

Then move onto the next girl. If she changes her mind and comes out, then great. If not, move on.

What's the correct response?

Be calm, but express your displeasure about her blatant act of disrespect. It depends on the context, but if it's a blatant flake, I will reprimand her like a child that needs instruction in basic human decency.

A lot of times girls doing this are shit testing. Either that, or their interest is so low they can't be bothered to go out and meet you. Internet whoring is a numbers game, so if a girl starts acting flaky I tend to assume I'll never see her and go with the nuclear option, because fuck it, nothing to lose. Either it works, and she gets turned on, or it doesn't, but at least you know for you sure it's done and don't waste any more time on her.

The key is telling her off without acting like you've personally have been hurt. Like you are mad because she should know better than to treat fellow human beings with such little respect, not because of the broken plans. Rather than butthurt, you need your anger to be righteous.

It gets more difficult when the girl is hiding behind some sort of sympathy generating excuse, like she feels sick or has a headache. You need to be careful because girls who do this shit will lead you on forever if you let them. I will hit her up to hang out max one more time after this and then soft next.

Next. Meaning no further contact. Value your time man! I would say it's occasionally OK to give her a second chance, but not if she "forgot". Whether you or she knows it, this is a massive shit test that you fail by being available.

punish flaking. tell them you don't give second chances and stop talking to them. report back results.

Don't let it get to you, most attractive girls you meet outside your friends circles are going to be super flakey at first. Internet girls are the worst of all. But yea, one tip is to always frame your date as something you're inviting them along to but you're going to do anyways. E.g., "I wanted to check out this bar, wanna join?" after she flakes: "All good, I'll go with a few other friends instead." Wait a few days after a flake - you'll look desperate if immediately start trying to chat her up more.

I would only go out with her if she proposes an alternative -- eg. She's busy with work today but she's free tomorrow. She needs to show she's still interested without being prompted to do so.

You just give them more validation if you act butthurt. Even if you're butthurt.

When flaking happens, go to your plan b. Always have a plan b. If they flake twice, "NEXT." (Soft next - just fade.)

What' happened is that something better than you came up.

My favorite response to a flake, "K - I just had an old friend hit town anyway."

Then radio silence for at least three days.