Everyone says that girls should counter your offers if they’re not free on the day you give, but is it bad to ask when they’re free? Some people do say to ask that.
If it’s best to lead by suggesting a day (example: let’s do X on __ day), then wouldn’t that put them in a position not to give a day? Since you’re asking them to leave their frame before the first date.
ScubaSteve9000 3y ago
That's my 2nd text message I sent after cold approaching. I don't think there's anything wrong. I'm not interested in going back and forth. I ask them when they are free, then I tell them where we are going.
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ScubaSteve9000 3y ago
Sorry English is not my first language. I usually send "when are you free?" after telling her that it was nice meeting her. I believe you have to be somewhat flexible.
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YourOwnDisaster 3y ago
After X interactions, you can feel out whether her response is a canned blow off response or if she actually has interest in making a new date. Don't forget, you're the Man, your job is to make it easy for her to fuck you. If I still sense interest, I'll absolutely ask when she's free and go based on her answer.
"Uhh, I'm not sure yet. I'll let you know". Gets the response: "Sounds good! Hit me up when you're free!" (Number deleted)
"I have plans all week, but I'm free Saturday after 7pm". Gets the response "Great, 9pm at the Tool Box, wear something cute".
Now here's where it gets fucky: "Oh, I'm not sure. I might have time Wednesday after I clip my cat's nails and wax my snail's asshole". Gets the response "No worries, I don't have much free time, so can't commit to a maybe date. Hit me up when you know your schedule for sure. Would love to see you".
Snails assholes man.
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YourOwnDisaster 3y ago
The funny part is that the last response actually sets you as a higher value person that's not going to be strung along in case her other plans fall through. A pretty good amount of chicks will snap into shape after you tell them to walk straight (in a nice way of course). This also sets you as the dominant and her as the submissive parts in your dynamics- just don't fold afterwards.
Source: Exactly what happened with my current exclusive chick a long time ago.
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