I've decided to go the LTR route with a girl (implications are at a minimum and she meets all of my needs) however being RP minded, i'm aware of how "bad" an idea it can be. But with that being said, i'd like to have back up plans readily available incase shit hits the fan, or my LTR decides to fulfill her AWALT prophecy.
Here's my question(s):
For those of you in LTR's, do you still game chicks on the side? At what point are you satisfied? (Physical / Emotional?) I.E. have 2-3 that you can call over to fuck? Do you actually physically cheat or do you just escalate to the point that you could initiate a FWB?
How do you face projection and insecurity? I.E. feeling that she is cheating because you are?
As for those who are undoubtedly going to shame me, your voice is welcome too. I owe many successes to TRP, and I enjoy reading this forum/sidebar/books daily. I see the world and people for what they TRULY are, and want to best hone in on my applicable skills / prepare my self for reality, cheers.
cmiovino 8y ago
I enjoy LTRs more than plating. Just me.
Here are my tips:
Always continue to improve, lift, ect. Don't get comfortable and don't stop. This is the main killer or relationships. Even if shit goes south, you can then get right back out there relatively easy.
By doing the above you're implementing 'soft dread game'. Basically, if you're a guy on his path, improving, taking charge in life, she'll have no choice but to feel attracted to you. This is natural.
As far as 'gaming' on the side. Keeping your flirting skills up is a must. This is not wrong. I do not advocate physically cheating at all though - not even once, not drunk either. TRP is amoral, but this conflicts with my own morals. Choose your path based on your inner morals here. Girls talk to other guys for validation, even in relationships all the time. You can do the same.
By doing all the above, you keep your abundance mentality, keep improving, and are always moving up in life. Relationships tend to weight people down, don't let this happen.
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The hypocrisy is mind blowing.
Ayoung4u 8y ago
I recently cheated on my girlfriend. I let myself get into a compromising situation and I paid the price for it. While I would never admit it to her at this point(it would do more harm to her than good, confession is only for the benefit of me at this point), I do feel guilty and I am starting to project my guilt and suspicion onto her. I do not recommend it. I did it because the girl I cheated with was the "one that got away" before my girlfriend and I did it for the ego trip I got from it. Stupid decisions, we're human. We learn from it. Don't cheat though.
RedditArgument 8y ago
I do not physically cheat. My recommendation is to passively game girls. For example this past weekend I went to a party where I met several girls who asked for my contact info which I obliged. The following texts give blatant interest perhaps even amplified by the fact that I'm in a relationship (which I do state.)
To put it simply theres a subconscious abundance mentality that you build by simply having women at your beck and call (aside from Ms. LTR obviously.) Perhaps theres a passive once again maybe even subconscious dread you employ with this. While you do care for your LTR you still show that she is replaceable, even unintentionally.
In my opinion actual physical cheating in an LTR is reprehensible morally. A large part of being in an LTR is the emotional connection you simply don't find with plates. Once again my opinion but if you're fucking other women she's just your main plate, not an LTR.
Ayoung4u 8y ago
What are your thoughts on a one time incident where you cheat? Is that still condemning?
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RedditArgument 8y ago
I don't mean to sound like a dick either but that sounds like a rather blue POV. No I do not care who my girl talks to because I trust her not to fuck other men. It would be incredibly insecure and hypocritical otherwise. I cannot stop her from flirting with other men, so why worry? If she starts getting too friendly with a guy well so be it we're done, but me hounding her about the potential of it will only do harm. She knows she's mine, like /u/MHOOD01 said I don't have to inform her not to slut it up.
You seem to think that beautiful women don't already have 100 contacts ready to fuck them at the drop of a hat. Pick a hot girl on your facebook friends list, look at how many likes she gets on her photos. You'll find a list of men who already have her contact info aka Facebook chat.
Allow me to clarify in case my OP didn’t, I do not flirt with these girls. I simply hold normal conversation, which is easily enough to gauge interest.
Feel free to ask if you'd like me to elaborate.
MHOOD01 8y ago
You have to tell your girl not to take dudes numbers?
You must be new.
davevd 8y ago
I would strongly recommend being honest with what you want on all fronts. If you wanna fuck other women. Your LTR should be completely aware of it. She may either leave you or be open to an open relationship.
I know from experience the feeling, and telling the truth always takes you on the better path with this stuff, even if it does result in a break up.
RidleySmith 8y ago
read up on dread game and LTR game, you sound very inexperienced so... Don't fuck up
RemyPrice 8y ago
I am polyamorous.
My LTR knows I fuck women on the side.
4 to 6 plates is a comfortable number, and this drops to 2-3 when I'm in a relationship.
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
This. The important difference is full disclosure. I've dated roommates before and it was fine, because everyone knew what was up from the start.
For a man, the physical act of a woman cheating is the issue, from a biological perspective. Why? Because the woman knows it's her child, but the man must have faith. Women, OTOH, fear loss of status with a man because of an "emotional" affair, because that could lead to loss of resources, which, in the old days, could mean death.
So I expect fidelity from my plates, and they expect me not to kick them to the curb just because I got some strange. They're ok with this, especially the bi ones, but it is still really easy to run dread game on them.
Do what you want, tell the truth and, if there are consequences, bear them.
creatineboss 8y ago
lol, dude cmon.
If you cheat, your a pussy. Your insecure, and you need to feel like a big boy getting SMV scoreboard points through various "conquests" to have power over your LTR. If you get into a relationship, agree to be exclusive and then purposely cheat; lose my number bro and by bro i mean never my bro fucking phaggot.
Here's a quick tip to not be a phaggot, just have multiple plates or a non-exclusive relationship with a single girl. Otherwise, your no better than the girls we make fun of on TRP.
moiez326 8y ago
Thank you!
You put it best. There are so many guys on this sub that think fucking girls on the side while having a gf is ok and should be praised. Fuck that, this is exactly the kind of shit women do. And anything that women do, i dont want to do.
secret_barber 8y ago
I don't understand this. Do you feel like you couldn't bare the time after breaking up with the LTR and finding your next piece of ass? Seems (to me) the risks of cheating outweighs this momentary dry spell.