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- Hide Preview | 23 Comments | submitted 2 years ago by kookoobear [Post Locked]

Just wondering what this is like. I think 30s is not considered weird but lets face it - society judges men you are 40+ and single.

I was talking to a guy who was 45. I asked him why he did not aggressively pursue a potential romantic interest and he basically said that his drive is down due to age. If this is true, dating is no where near as fun and exciting as your 20s and 30s.

Also, what kind of girls are going for you? I feel TRP really exaggerates the "Men age like wine" part. Unless you are a celebrity or have super high networth, your SMV is going to take a big hit in your 40s due to your age.

[-] VasiliyZaitzev 57 Points 2 years ago

Just wondering what this is like.

If you're me, it's awesome.

I think 30s is not considered weird but lets face it - society judges men you are 40+ and single.

DGAF.

I was talking to a guy who was 45. I asked him why he did not aggressively pursue a potential romantic interest and he basically said that his drive is down due to age. If this is true, dating is no where near as fun and exciting as your 20s and 30s.

Dunno what his problem is. Probably lack of exercise.

Also, what kind of girls are going for you? I feel TRP really exaggerates the "Men age like wine" part.

Not every wine ages well, and not every man ages well. That said, we do have a lot of say in it. Don't be a druggy, or a booze hound, eat good food, exercise and don't get so much sun that you turn into a leather couch.

Unless you are a celebrity or have super high networth, your SMV is going to take a big hit in your 40s due to your age.

Why do guys keep saying this? It's the old "sour grapes" excuse. "Oh, that guy has it easy b/c he's famous/rich/whatever". There are plenty of rich guys who can't get laid. Why? No game.

Look, at any age, 90% of girls aren't going to bang you. You need to think horizontally (multiple approaches until you are drowning in P-U-S-S-Y) not vertically (i.e. doubling down/increasing investment, and ultimately becoming her orbiter-in-chief).

You are thinking one-dimensionally, i.e. the only way to get girls is to be Joe Buff Stud.

Wrong. I am nothing special to look at, other than not being a fat slob, but I did something that 99% of the guys reading this who are half my age didn't do this month: spent two weekends banging a 19 y.o. HB8. I'm traveling for business now, so she has to miss me for the rest of this month, before I get to rail her out again next month.

If you are a pitcher with a 99 mph fastball, great. Life is going to be easy in the short term, as you blow the heater by even exceptional hitters. But that fastball isn't going to stay around forever, so if you want to be pitching in your 40s you have to have other quality pitches--curve, slider, change up, etc.

How To Get Laid After 40

Or 30. Or after college. Doesn't matter, it's all the same thing, basically.

1- Don't be a slob.

I don't have the same body I did when I was 19, but that doesn't stop me from banging 19 y.o. girls. Or at least one 19 y.o. girl. My plates are mostly 21-26. There is nothing wrong with being in good shape at any age. If I weighed 300 lbs, getting laid would be a lot tougher.

2- Confidence

I am so confident, I piss out a quart of confidence when I get up in the morning. How do you build confidence? When you feel good and look your best, it will be easier. So exercise.

And find something you like to do, or a couple somethings, and become awesome at it. Demonstrate mastery and/or leadership. I sing and play music, about half of which I write, in a local band. Does that make it easier? Sure. Why? Because I am Joe Stud in whatever room I am singing in. And before anyone says, "No fair, Vasiliy, you're in a band!", I say "Yeah, but that shit did not magically happen. Go find something you like and get good at it."

You know what else I do? I play co-rec beach volleyball. So 40% of the team is girls and most of those are young-ish (20-25). I'm a good volleyball player, thus I demonstrate mastery, every week, to girls on my team and girls on whatever team we crush that week.

Maybe you like crunchy granola types. If so, go join a hiking club and do whatever it takes to be the studliest guy in the hiking club. Be good at SOMETHING and the pussy will flow....

3- GAME

My game is tighter than a nun's cunt.* Bear in mind that you guys have TRP; us older guys had to learn all this shit on our own.

You know what is going to help your game? Approaching. Just pretend I'm sitting next to you telling you 1,000,000 times: "Approach, approach, approach, approach and approach some more."

As and older guy, I sexualize the convo early. As I wrote in response to a different question today, I will tell a girl that: "If you come back to my place, I am going to fuck you." Delivered at the right moment, that bomb is like a Daisy Cutter for bullshit. I want to bang her and she know I want to bang her, so why not be open and direct about it? It's better to establish what everyone wants, and as it turns out, girls like sex, too. I just have to maneuver her in to position, by which I mean that I want her positioned in my bed, naked and spread and ready to be banged.

I'm working on a 24 y.o. at the moment who does print modeling (so she's like a regular girl only hotter, so maybe an 8.5. I'm a tough grader). So she was making a big deal about sex and how long she was going to make me wait. Fuuuuuck that. I started countering that BS immediately. How? Some combo of: I suck at waiting. And it's not like the sex is going to be magically better. And when we do bang, she's going to say "We could have been doing this the whole time!" And, oh, yeah, "If you come back to my place, I'm going to fuck you." You can't belabor the point, b/c then it seems like you're trying to convince her, and appealing to a woman's reason about sex is a mistake 99% of the time, unless you're dating a girl nerd.

So anyway, after one date and some convos, the 24 y.o. is talking about coming up to my place for a w/e when I get back from my business trip. So much for the goody-two-shoes routine, and I've made it clear I am going to rail her out when she comes to my place. I've already told her to bring pretty lingerie to pose in for me. Set the frame and maintain it, lads.

You know what's not going to help your game? Playing video games, smoking up, eating cheetos and fapping to porn. Do things that will help you in life and eliminate things that don't help you.

4- Cash Money

I am a successful guy. I don't apologize for it; I planned my life this way. I like nice stuff. Since I'm not a sexy blonde with big tits and an ass that tastes like French vanilla ice cream, nobody is going to give me that shit.

And really, it can be a double-edged sword. Some girls mistake me for being Vasiliy BetaBux, so I have to destroy that idea out of the gate.

"But Uncle Vasiliy...life is so much more difficult now. Things were easier when you were a young guy."

Bullshit. I got out of school in the middle of a recession. We've had a couple since then. Get over it. If you can't find a job, create your own job. Given the crap state of the economy, young guys actually have the luxury of failure these days. It's a lot easier explaining how your business idea crapped out in this economy than in one where every 'tard is maxing out his 401K and figuring out where he wants his vacation home to be.

Money is a crap way to Keep Score, but it's useful as a tool, and better to have enough to do what you want to in life. Plan accordingly.

So that's the How-To Guide.

Uncle Vasiliy

*This can vary by nun, of course, but I'm assuming a young, very pious nun.

[-] -rubashov 4 Points 2 years ago

Excellent thanks. I learnt and was reminded of a few things I have been neglecting.

[-] VasiliyZaitzev 3 Points 2 years ago

Happy to help.

Sometimes these posts remind me to keep focus myself.

[-] RPmatrix 1 Point 2 years ago

Sometimes these posts remind me to keep focus myself.

Indeed they do, for me too

It's said we teach best what we need to learn, and once you can successfully teach another person what you know, you've proven to yourself that you indeed do 'know what you're on about'

m

[-] RPmatrix 3 Points 2 years ago

haha! Fucking Brilliant post Uncle Vaisaily! ;D

Solid advice, fuck those who think we're "bragging"

It's TRP guys and the truth is often stranger than fiction, and I (and others here) will call 'bullshit' when we see it

This post is "word"!

and you too can be like Brother Zaitev, IF you put in the work!

You can't withdraw from what you haven't put into!

Thanks for that great post bro Z

matrix

[-] VasiliyZaitzev 3 Points 2 years ago

haha! Fucking Brilliant post Uncle Vaisaily! ;D

Thx.

Solid advice, fuck those who think we're "bragging"

I am reminded of what Dizzy Dean once said: "It's not bragging if you can do it."

More seriously, as I am fond of sayin, "All the young men are my sons. A lot of these guys didn't grow up with fathers to show them, and they don't have any context.

And for every 20 y.o. who says "I DON'T BELIEVE IT!, I say "That....is why you fail...."

For the young guys: It's not so much that life gets "easier" it's that you get better at it. Life is DIFFICULT. That is why we are BUILT to be MEN. But there is no substitute for putting in the work. Look, for anyone who plays sports, do your coaches teach you and make you practice and run drills and be in shape or do they say, "Don't worry about it. Just go out on the field and BE YOURSELF. Everything will be fine. Here's your 'participation' trophy."

You can sit in a corner and cry, b/c life is hard, or you can fight back, and build yourself into a BEAST.

Everyone of us here should thank God or Nature or whatever you believe in for being born male. Because it is ours to Work and Build and Create and Fight and and then come home and Laugh and Sing and Drink and Fuck.

But first you have to choose to be a MAN.

[-] RPmatrix 1 Point 2 years ago

I am reminded of what Dizzy Dean once said: "It's not bragging if you can do it."

never thought of it like that, maybe as I DGAF what people I don't care about think? Probably

You write top notch posts V, as do many of the guys here, I enjoy them muchly

More seriously, as I am fond of sayin, "All the young men are my sons. A lot of these guys didn't grow up with fathers to show them, and they don't have any context.

Yeah, it's sad. I'm trying to be a decent mentor to a few younger bros here via pm, so far so good. It's a tad taxing but very rewarding when I hear about them kicking some arse after a bit of sincere support from an old cunt like myself!

CHOOSE is the operative word here which I like so much! We are the masters of our own destiny, in more ways than most guys here realize, but as long as they're here, they're on the right path to getting 'there'! (just beware the dreaded "now what?" IF you achieve your dreams, as 'new' dreams are sometimes hard to find!

and becoz if you, "do what you did,, you'll get what you got!"

After all, "If nothing changes, nothing changes!"

Anyhoo, take it easy bro and thanks for the quality posts, even I learn something new here most days

cheers Uncle V ^^^^hehehehe!

m m

[-] edwardhwhite 12 Points 2 years ago

I love being 40+ its an unfair advantage.

[-] trp_zzz 9 Points 2 years ago

society judges men you are 40+ and single.

Not if you're divorced.

your SMV is going to take a big hit in your 40s due to your age.

Just the opposite for me. I'm in better shape, with more money, and better game, than at any time in my past. Have a job, don't be fat, don't show male pattern baldness, and you're well ahead of many of your peers at 40.

Also, what kind of girls are going for you?

4s. Enthusiastic and sexually available 4s that fuck with minimal effort. But hey, I've got a promising date with a 5 next week, so I might just level up.

[-] SexistFlyingPig 3 Points 2 years ago

Sometimes the 4's have HUGE boobs too.

[-] drallcom3 4 Points 2 years ago

Comes with all the fat

[-] 4TBhdd 1 Point 2 years ago

Not if you're divorced.

This. One of my best friends is divorced over 40 and nobody judges him. It also helps that he's charming and built too.

[-] RPmatrix 1 Point 2 years ago

Sounds to me like you've got things well sorted mate

good shit

matrix

[-] SexistFlyingPig 8 Points 2 years ago

Society tries to judge men who are single and over 40.

They try, and they fail. Because we just don't give a fuck. We went to the store, saw what there was, and made a decision that it wasn't worth the asking price. Now we shop elsewhere and buy what we want.

The package deal isn't worth the baggage.

[-] 0kool74 6 Points 2 years ago

I turned 41 a couple months ago. And, while dating sucks at any age, it's really strange at this point and time. I left a LTR not too long ago and I am just not seeing ANYTHING that appeals to me. If they're worth having, they're too ugly. If they're attractive, they're not worth having. So........I took up skydiving!!!!

[-] RPmatrix 2 Points 2 years ago

So........I took up skydiving!!!!

LOL! I hear you bro, i'm 48

the one thing which happened by the time I hit 40, was I could no longer be embarrassed by ANY body!

It's possibly one of the best things about getting older, that IDGAF attitude becomes concrete, at least it did for me,

m

[-] Huffnagle 5 Points 2 years ago

It's not bad... Really.

I'm pretty fit, decent job, but not a standout in either category, closing in on 50. Can I pull 22 year old 9s? No... But I can get pretty much as much sex as I want from thin attractive women, I might have to work around their custody schedule though.

And who gives a fuck if the church crowd (society) wants to look down on you? I certainly don't. I'd rather be on my Harley than bored in church on a nice Sunday. They're secretly jealous anyway, most married people are miserable after 5 years or so.

Life is what you make it.

[-] vengefully_yours 4 Points 2 years ago

That's all shit you hear about the losers. Since I turned 40 six years ago, I've been having a very interesting time. Right before my divorce was final two years ago, I banged two 18, one each of 21, 22, 24, 28, a crazy but hot 36 single mom who fucked like a porn star and others. I had multiple 3 ways happen, one with the 22 and 28.

If anything it's easier for me now.

For the last 12 months I've been building my home, a couple cars, and my life, so I'm not going out nor pursuing the ioi I get from young girls. I have some girls I fuck when I feel like it, 30, 37, and 43, and they know it's just sex, no marriage, and no exclusivity. This fall when the University fills with new snatch, I might go get some. Until then, I have shit to do.

I'm not tall, rich, thin, or great looking, but I can get laid anytime I feel like it, because I have game and muscles.

[-] RPmatrix 2 Points 2 years ago

but I can get laid anytime I feel like it, because I have (great) game and muscles.

This needs to be emphasized, and repeated often to the noobs here.

TRP success is directly proportional to the skills acquired from the efforts applied

cheers V

m

[-] IWillHaveVengance 3 Points 2 years ago

society judges men you are 40+ and single.

Umm no, society has nothing against 40+ single males. Look at hollywood. Society judges 40+ single women who have never had kids.

[-] Rafinesque 3 Points 2 years ago

Like everything, it depends a lot on how you look. I'm 42 but look 32. Women I meet never guess I'm anywhere near 40. I've been divorced 4 years, and have dated a lot of 7s, 8s, and 9s between 25 and 35 years old. Women over 35 around here are either too out of shape or too religious for my taste so I've given up on them. I went on a date with a 34 year old "8" with a Phd last Wednesday and met a 25 year old Attorney this week who's about an 8. I have a date with a 31 year old nurse on Saturday. I have 1-2 dates a week on average, unless I'm taking a break. I don't bother with anyone below a 7, and only rarely approach anyone below an 8.

Some guys my age look 52 instead of 42. Those guys aren't going to have as much success. I am a little too thin (I'm a runner) but have started lifting. I make a lot of money and have an impressive job, so that helps.

Someone said something about pulling 22 year old 9's... I matched with a 22 year old 9 on Tinder this week, but haven't tried to set up a date yet. I will next week.

[-] jtjathomps 2 Points 2 years ago

I'm 47, current girlfriend is 29. Previous girlfriend was 30. Both attractive and smart. Get in shape, and stay in shape. Have your shit together and don't be boring. Be good at your job. Dating in your 40s is easy if you're not poor or a slob. I'm bald with a shaved head. Doesn't matter.

[-] favours_of_the_moon -1 Point 2 years ago

A bitch pretty much always expects to bang.