I know this is late but when a girl asks me to hold something I always respond with this:

I clasp my hands together, smirk, and say "Sorry my hands are full"

I can't believe noone has said this.

Negotiate.

Always negotiate.

That's all you need to remember. Know what you want. Ask for something, even if tiny in return. Never be "Free". It's fine to be cheap. They will do it for you. It builds a sense that you have SMV, and your friends will introduce you like you have some value.

If you want a blowjob, ask for it. If they slap you, laugh at it and look them in the eyes. Then just shrug, "Guess you don't get help with your homework." If they come back with a counter offer, consider it.

Etc.

Depends on the favor requested, depends on the woman in question and your relationship to her.

One general principle applies. Do not regard favor requests from women the same when you consider favor requests from your friends (and for the record, this assumes that you accept men and women cannot be friends - if you don't accept that, then add male before friends).

Create a fair transaction. Expect the favor to be repaid in a way that satisfies your need to feel respected and not used. Always be thinking, "What's in it for me?" There's no reason you shouldn't have this mindset when women so often operate on that logic by default.

"I can't hold your purse. That guy over there has been giving me hungry eyes all night, and I don't wanna give him any ideas about which way I swing".

Quick! you don't have much time. Run to an online forum and ask a bunch of other guys who view women as something alien and special, but are really jaded that they were taught that in the first place and now blame all women for it.

Get their advice so you can turn this favor that she is asking into a chance to rank her against other women. After appraising your own rank, use these manly man and selfishbitch ranking systems to triangulate whether or not you want to fuck them (you probably do) and then treat them like a puzzle, not another human being who has complicated desires, stressors, goals, and history. Now, to know what exactly to do, use an ad hoc algorithm gleaned by distilling all the female stereotypes from TV and what is remembered of late-highschool/early-college to find what the statistically most likely thing to do to get yourself laid is. If she is hot she will likely be thought of as a selfish sexual welfare queen costing by on her good looks, so you will have to be a manly manman to have a chance, otherwise she is friendzoning you. If she's not hot, then she's a feminist and will only destroy you and the whole world with her opinions. If she is a 6,7,8, on some subjective hotness scale (let's just assume 60-80% similar to looking like your mom), you should just judge if they are asking you because they want something for no effort, or just your advice, or your phone number or if they have a different motive and decide if you want to do it. (PRO TIP: using judgement also works on all the hotness numbers.)

TLDR: You should show her how manly you are and start banging guys. She'll know right away to stop asking for favors but know that you're an ALPHA DAWWWG!

Man, if you're in high school, you're overthinking this shit. For all you know she has a crush on you or some dumb shit and she wants an excuse to hang out around you.

Don't be used, but at the same time, don't have these kneejerk reaction to things. If you are like "hey lets go chill at this party" and she says "Can you come give me a ride, I know it's a little out of the way," it is completely ok to just say "K."

You don't always need a witty "badass" response. How do you get her to not think of you as the favor-friend? Easy, just think about what she could do for you (little easy shit things like making you some coffee or whatever are fine.) As long as she is willing to do thiings for you, then you can do things for her too, and she will still have that chemistry.

For example, I would teach this girl in college physics, and in return she would get me into the special athletes gym at our school with all the fancy equipment. Which gave us the excuse to workout together. Etc. In this kind of situation, you still hold the cards. If you are in highschool/college, this is enough. You don't have to overkill with the David D lines.

TLDR: You should be confident that she couldn't take advantage of you if she tried. Therefore, there is no need for a defense mechanism like witty lines. Trust yourself to be able to identify when she is testing to see if you are friendboy or actually interested in getting to know you. If the latter, then there's no issue, you still have the dominant frame.

"Ass, gas, or grass. Nobody rides for free!"

Default response (credit David D'Angelo) "I could, but I won't."

Always think about whether you would do the favor for a guy friend. She wants you to buy her a drink, hold her purse, drive her somewhere, then go with the above or the ridiculous ones ITT which are even better.

If she's creating an opportunity to be with you (like homework) make her do something for you first: "I could, but you have to feed me first" or "only if you dress sexy"

Key takeaway: Do not supplicate. When it comes to women, you are better off being an asshole than a dependable friend.

I semi-answered this in this thread

The question was:

Give an example of how to respond to that purse one. A girl asked me to hold her backpack for her. I said no, and she's like why not? I didn't know what to say it just looked really rude. I mean what do you say if she says "Why not"?

Gurezak likes the ridiculous which are good responses:

• "I can't, I lost both hands in the war."
• "If you need help holding your things, I'm an excellent bra."
• "You can't trust me with your bag, I'll go through it looking for drugs to sell for condom money."

I personally like a reframe with teasing:

The easiest way to bend it back on them without being rude (or ridiculous) is a reframe putting you in control:

Her: "Hold my bag/phone/purse/whatever while I do X,Y,Z" (or alternatively... I'm moving on Saturday so help me do this, or I need you to do A,B,C for me).

• You: with a smirk
• "Only if you say the magic word"
• "Say please"
• "My mother taught me that you should be much more courteous.. hint hint"
• or lots of other variations on this theme
• "Only if.... ("you give me a kiss right here" & point to your cheek, or lips etc; or "only if you do ___" etc. You can slip all sorts of kino in here). This is reverse compliance testing her by ask her to do something for you.
• "tsk tsk, I don't work for free ya know" (leaving it in her hands to offer something in return)

Then the follow up to the first three are:

• Her: "Please" (or some variant)
• You: "Good girl" (affirm your frame over her, plus women eat being called good by a man they respect)

Alternatively,

• Her: if she is rude
• You: "That's not very nice. (my parents told me not to help rude people!)" (call her on her BS with this or some other thing)

Basically, either way you frame it as a direct advantage to you as you're the one in control.

The other amusing thing you can do if they just hand something to you and leave is open it up and rifle through their personal belongings or shopping bag. Basically, if they throw a fit make fun of them for trusting you. The women will typically be indignant but what can they say when they voluntarily gave things to you? Keep it fun with a smile or smirk and it will usually go well

Danny also has some good tips on holding and setting boundaries:

http://dannyfrom504.com/2013/10/24/nuking-a-hungry-hamster/

Like other people said, don't be afraid to say "no" or "sorry I'm busy" if you can't come up with anything off hand.

Depends on the gal. Depends on the favor. Depends on my mood and time availability.

Use your judgment. But don't do much for gals who are not close friends. And you will not have more than 1-2 gals over your life who are close friends, BTW.

My cousin (M50-ish) got divorced a few years ago. She got the house and all the furnishings. She got alimony of more than half his net income for 5 years. She got half the cash, half the investments, half the retirement account. Since the kids were grown, at least she didn't get child support.

Cousin took the red pill. These days he says, "If I'm not fucking her, I don't do favors for women. If she drops to her knees and gives me a blowjob on the spot, I may consider it." -- He's become a real hard-ass about it. ... He has 20-somethings crawling all over him.

"What are you gonna do for me?"

I ask for some degree of investment beforehand. Always get yours first. Doesn't matter if it's holding something, helping them move, or threesomes.

You can do favors for girls....just don't rearrange you life around it, and don't be afraid to say no. You could maybe get her to pay you back for it "okay but you have to buy me lunch"

say no

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_xXhkFLFRME#t=245