It all depends on each specific guy. I work in hospitality. My voice doesn't sound feminine, but I have crafted it in a way that works best for the cooperation of my team and in communicating with customers/clients. Yes, it is less deep than I could make it. Does making my natural voice sound pleasant make me less of a man? No. My role as a man in that particular environment depends on me being warm, welcoming, and cooperative.

I see this as necessary control. Rappers and singers, as well as salesman and customer service reps all exercise this particular skill. Now, in all of these fields, men who speak with deep voices do succeed as well, and that works for them. For other men, like myself, all out deep isn't what works.

Now, with the girly men you seem to be talking about, a lot of factors could be considered, and most I have read in the other responses. But unless you're a psychologist looking to study this on a case by case basis...who cares, really? Maybe they masturbate too much. Maybe their mom was the only one in their ear shaping the way they talk and communicate. Maybe they are gay. Maybe they think appearing gay will get them girls. Actually, one guy I met in college talked to girls as if he were gay, and then would talk to guys with a deep and monotone voice. Who the fuck knows.

Male voice continues to mature a lot until 30s some even longer. The voice becomes less flexible and darker, although gradually. This is known to any opera singer, it's not just training and conditioning, men need to be in 30s and 40 to sound fully mature.

Also in terms of normal speech, a ton of men drink and smoke and these gradually destroy the voice, making more masculine, darker and deeper.

Why wouldn't we? Men will never hate women. We might hate how they act, or the lies we are told about them, but we will never really hate women.

This is not something I have ever noticed.

Even the popular male singers all have feminine high pitched voices.

I mean, they are good singers. But what happened to the deep and bass male singer voices of R&B? what happened to the rough voices of Rock and roll? They're all gone.

Masculine singing voice is not popular anymore in music.

Most millenials are either raised by single women or if theyre lucky a man that was raised by a single woman. We also stupid shame men for sounding too masculine while an effeminate affectation is associated with being thoughtful or savvy. eg Quentin Tarantino

Maybe that's just what you're subconsciously looking for...in a man.

Because you project your insecurities about your masculinity onto other people.

Almost all of my teachers have been women, my Dad works a lot (not many other older men in my life). It's partially a dialect. It also has to do with a combination of xenoestrogens everywhere (plastics, agricultural products, preservatives, etc) and hormonal birth control in drinking water that prevents our vocal folds from widening as much during puberty.

Soy-based additives in processed food.

It may partially be that most men were raised by women these days and also partially that what you are saying is just not true. Your voice continues to deepen and become rougher as you age so younger guys will generally always have smoother and slightly higher voices.

Testosterone levels. They're lower today than 10 years ago, and lower then than 10 years before that.

Piggybacking on this post, how does one go about getting a more manly voice? I sound borderline feminine at times and i really want to change that

I've noticed this too. They all speak like they're asking questions? Fruity little generation.

Societal conditioning. Everything about the people who interact with children from a young age telling men to be expressive of their feelings.

From a young age, their soft sides stick and they don't build up the masculinity they need to survive in this world.

Testosterone levels in Western men have, on average, decreased over the course of the 20th century to today. I am unable to link the relevant paper right now, but if you look up "secular decline in testosterone" you will find many relevant results.

It is probably related to obesity though.

High divorce rates with high percentage of kids living with the mom. Dad's role is to teach the kids about testing their abilities; mummy runs to kid when kid scrapes his knee. No dad around = nobody to teach boy to be a man. Why?

Women cannot raise boys to be men. Only men can do that.

In school, boys are treated like "defective girls". Where can boy learn? In most cases, from the hollow masculinity of the "street", if at all.

And so we are losing a generation of boys....

What to do about it? As I say, "All The Young Men Are My Sons". So I help my nephews (one is RP and the other is on his way; the other two are fuckheads) as well as helping my friends' sons. Indeed, that is why I post on TRP. And so must you, RP Men, when you are older and wiser. We live in a world where Nurse Ratched and the Feminist Witchhunters want to destroy everything masculine.

What to do? Speak the Truth. It is the new Hate Speech of course, but if you are in a position where you can do it and not get screwed over, fired, or whatever, then speak the truth out loud. In every day, resist the tyranny of this pulsing cancer we have let grow among us. And be joyful. The miasma of misandry that is forced into our lungs every day is false, and, underneath, people know it. The Truth can only be kept down for so long...

They don't have male role models. There is no father to speak of, or a very uninvolved one.

It's not complicated.