What is that app and will it work on Facebook messages?

So, just my curiosity - but how did it all end out?

don't forget to put password confirmations on all CC accounts and call the companies to set limits, say $500. In my best Pulp Fiction voice "There may come a time when you think 'I'll take the high road, I'll be the better man...That's pride fucking with you, FUCK PRIDE" What lawyers won't really say is that the dirtiest, most underhanded, every lie you can get away with motherfucker ALWAYS wins in divorce, with no repercussions.

Imagine you are in a business partnership and you found out your partner was skimming off the top, and planned to fuck you over and steal the business from you. That's all this is now, no love, no family, no "we can get back to how we were" Fuck that. Whenever you you start getting those Blue Pill feelings just remember how your friends cock was plunging inside your wifes pussy, and how his cum sprayed inside and on her, and that devlish grin on her face because she knew she was getting over on you.....I know, harsh, but that's the reality.

Lawyer up. Empty your 401k into an offshore account, even if you face a tax penalty. Start cancelling credit cards and draining accounts. Negotiate with your boss to get your pay cut, possibly in exchange for future benefits. Lock up your house into a Living Irrevocable Trust with your children as the beneficiaries and yourself as the sole Trustor, so that neither you or your wife can go after it as a divisible asset.

Prepare for a messy divorce because when it involves two marriages things get exceptionally ugly. This isn't a mistake, it is intentional and it is evil. No matter what your lawyer says you should at some point after filing for divorce offer up the evidence of the affair to the wife of the scumbag who is doing your wife. You also should share the evidence with your children. Make it explicitly clear to them that their mother has abandoned them and you for another man, and that she loves him more than she loves all of you. Be assured she will try to warp their minds so get the truth in their heads as soon as possible.

Make sure the divorce filing reaches her while she is in a hotel with her affair partner if you can, while you and the kids are packed and long gone. Be sure you alert child protective services before taking the kids. Let them know that you are afraid their mother will hurt them given the mental instability that can be brought on by the sudden divorce and by being exposed to everyone as a cheater. Make sure authorities know where you take your children and document that they know so that she can't accuse you of kidnapping them and so that her accusations make her look paranoid and unfit. Make a very clear case that she is leaving her children unattended while she goes out to cheat. Make her out to be an unfit mother. Take your children from her forever. Argue that you want your children raised by someone who has the morals to uphold their vows and adamantly refuse to compromise on custody. You have the salary, and dragging her through hell in the courts is the name of the game. Never surrender.

Be sure to expose her during the divorce to her friends and family. Make sure to look her parents in the eye and ask them if they'll side with their daughter or their grandchildren, because you won't let them do both. Guilt everyone into abandoning her.

Sue the guy who is fucking her for emotional estrangement. Subpoena him for DNA testing to compare with your kids. If anything comes up even as a grey area on the test sue him for back pay child support. Insist on keeping them all though, keep the kids.

Play absolutely dirty with this. Set up the game in advance while she is unaware that you know everything. Make moves without her knowing. Destroy her.

Take your life and your freedom back mate. It's already messy and it's going to get worse.. The advice here on soliciting the high-end lawyers here is the most direct route for your benefit.

All the best, the manosphere cheers for YOU

You may never get this because this post is old. However, I feel for you. Hopefully you have been able to remain calm and it can be really tough. I have been married for 10+ years and I would struggle not to lose my shit if this happened.

The good advice is lawyer up. I am not saying this just because she cheated, but because of the disrespect to you and what you have given up for her and your family. It really shows how strong the hamster can be.

One an up-note. You have a good salary, and being male means you can rebound and get in shape (if you're not already) and do whatever/whoever you want at the end of this.

Stay calm, get a lawyer and think about the long term gains here. PM me if you need to vent. My wife and I have a good RP relationship, but I am not so stupid as to think this couldn't happen. Make sure you remember this, because you may sabotage other fun times with other women because of your wife. You can't always predict this shit and worrying about it will just make you miserable. It happened, now you do what men do; deal with it, make plans, think about your kids and move on.

Get some cocaine and sneak it into her food little by little. Then create a situation where she has to get tested for drugs - for example, suggest she apply for a job in a place that does drug screenings - then once you have a positive for cocaine, you can claim she's a junkie and unfit to be a mother and get custody of your kids.

Just kidding. ;)

Before you say anything see if you can drain some money from the accounts and hide it with trusted family (None of your "friends"). If you want your children do not do anything stupid. Calm down. Call her from another location and tell her what you know. "We've been Married 16 years. 3 kids. She makes almost nothing (part time @$17/hr). I make 6 figures. " I cringed at this..... You will need a great lawyer. I would also tell his wife. In most cases people will tell you that it is none of your business but in this cases he is messing with your wife and he was a "friend." His wife deserves to know. Look into this /r/legaladvice

Lawyer up immediately. Don't skimp either, get the best damn divorce lawyer in your tri-county area and tell him (make sure it's a guy) that you are in this for blood, and that you will not walk away from this until you have her unconditional surrender. Don't worry about the cost, your only goal right now is to save your money, your kids, and your possessions.

You are going to war, but first you need intel. Act like nothing is wrong, and start tracking her activities. Emails, texts, voicemails, GPS tracking, etc. Anything and everything you can use against her, do it. Then start doing small things for yourself. Get back in the gym and start lifting, start a hobby that only you enjoy, spend as much time with your kids without her around, completely emotionally disconnect from her; this will be hard, find a trusted family confidant and vent vent vent. Basically stop living like a married man, and start living like a bachelor with three kids and a parasitic dependent, which is what she has become. If she asks or confronts you about it, STAY STOIC and say that you just need more time to yourself. She will try everything in her power to shame you back into the clueless provider position, but do not fall for her tactics. You are your own man and you live your life by your own rules. During all this, continue to gather intel and do NOT bring up her cheating until such a time when you have enough evidence of her misconduct that your lawyer says you have an airtight case. Then walk up to her, serve her the papers and tell her without any emotion that you want a divorce. Oh and last but not least, stop fucking her immediately. Full stop. A woman's power comes from her ability to tempt you with sex, and believe us, she will. Stop fucking her and stay the course. Remind yourself that she doesn't deserve anything other than your scorn.

EDIT: Drain any and all joint accounts immediately. If she asks, say you're saving up for a big gift and it will take some time. Put that money someplace safe, preferably with a trusted family member who has no connection to her.

Act none the wiser. This is going to take all your balls and heart, buy carry on like nothing has changed. Forget the small battle here, you're going to win the war.

Now, take some time and go get a consult from 5-8 best Divorce attorneys in your area. Congratulations, now due to conflict of interest, she's lost access to top attorneys.

Hire the best, most vicious attorney and keep records of everything she's doing. Talk with your attorney to formulate a best course of action, and start to drain joint accounts. Bonus points , if the slut asks where the money is going, tell her you're working on a gift to shown your gratitude to your wife and kids.

Oh, and don't skimp on the lawyer. The more you spend on the lawyer, the less you'll spend on that cheating bitch.

Whatever you do just remember this one little piece of info:

DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE! DO NOT GO STAY AT A HOTEL OR A FRIEND'S PLACE. DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT COULD BE CONSTRUED AS YOU ABANDONING THE FAMILY HOME.

You've got to play the long game here. Prepare. Don't tell her you know until it suits your plan. Don't let your plan be driven by your emotions alone. Children and money are important and who gets those comes down to lawyers and planning.

Lawyer up. If an attorney says you should be "fair" to her, fire him. You want to get out of this with as much as you can. You are in for the fight of your life.

Get ready to drain any joint accounts.

Ah you're kind in a bad situation.. It's cheaper to keep her.

Talk to a lawyer see look at your legal options.

Decide what you want to do marriage counseling, etc. Make a decision, this will be hard.

Play it cool. Then blow her up.

I'd personally fuck his wife. If you're going to go out, go out with a bang.

If she likes to drink, and you know she drives tipsy call the cops on her anonymously.

If she gets a dwi, or better yet a dwi with the kids in the car you will win custody hands down.

We're not talking about being nice, we're talking about winning.

Set up cameras or microphones in your house and then say you're going out of town for a week or two for business or whatever. You're bound to get some proof of her cheating.

Get professional legal advice. Try the law firms in your city. Don't confront her yet. When they have told you how to proceed band what the outcome will be then you can confront her.

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You could also ask /r/legaladvice

I am really sorry to hear this for you, especially for your children. I just don't get what goes on in a woman's mind to sacrifice her children's family for some dick .

Just want to be the 17th person to say this because it is most important:

Do not let her suspect you found out!

Document everything. You may never need it but if you do and you don't have it you'll kick yourself. Take pictures. Copy files. Record conversations. Look out for yourself.

Get a good divorce lawyer right away. Ask him how to proceed.

Don't let the pleasure of blowing up on your cheating wife jeopardize your financial situation or make this more traumatic for your children. Same with Bob. Not worth it.

I feel for you man.

Proof of cheating means nothing legally in outcome of divorce. Doesn't change one penny of property division, alimony or child support. Doesn't affect child custody.

Fuck it. If his wife is hot, I say you show her the texts and start banging her. Plus whatever anyone else here said.

Laywer up immediately. Get all the evidence you can and ask your lawyer what your next step is.

Record. Everything.

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You need to become an emotionless calculating sob. At this point your anger might overtake you and make you do things that give immediate emotional satisfaction but are damaging to your interest in the long term. Example: you might want to hit her in the face and demand divorce. You lose.

Keep your empathy for the kids.

Considering how most states love to fuck over men in these matters, you need an airtight case. Don't end things till you can offer solid evidence that she is not fit to be a wife and mother. The last thing you need is to have to give up half your income and, more importantly, your kids.

I wish I had more to offer you, but all I have is that and my condolences. Amazing how women can be such callous, stone cold bitches.

do everything you can to gather as much evidence as possible- discreetly. I know you want to explode and kill her, but she will fuck you for the rest of your life financially if you let her onto the fact that you know. Once you have sufficient evidence (as determined by your lawyer), calmly present the divorce papers.

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