I am 23 and married to a 20 years old girl. I used to think that every man should have an abundance mentality and side chicks to avoid oneitis, but I never thought that for married men. How can I have an abundance mentality when I have only one girl in my life? Is this the end of the TRP life?
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gregoire_ 4y ago
Go to the married red pill sub. Most of us here aren’t married. You’ll get advice from people who have a better understanding of your situation there.
MrAgamemnon 4y ago
Why, for the love of god, did you do the former if you believed in the latter?
RedKnightTime 4y ago
askMRP is the sub you want to be in
Pete_Worst 4y ago
First of all, having a 20yo wife is just asking for drama and bullshit. You're still a man who hopefully interacts with other women, so make sure you're keeping yourself attractive to other women and that you could bang another chick easily should the situation arise. I'm not saying cheat, but let her feel dread in that you could get other women if you wanted.
WIA20XX 4y ago
If you're moving from a plate situation to a monogamous LTR situation, you have to stay social. Not just by yourself, but by taking your girlfriend/wife out and being social.
The tendency is to hunker down, but you have to go the other way.
Women tend to be more social than men, so you have to flip it, and be more social than her.
The reality for women, especially if they take care of their looks, is they can get some side dick at the drop of a hat. The paternity dread is always there, though some guys like to pretend that doesn't exist.
Even being her "best" option isn't enough. Dread is a poor option.
You remain viable and unaffected. Your people and social skills need to grow instead of atrophy like most guys.
Maybe she will cheat, maybe she won't, but you can be inside of the next woman in a heartbeat.
You don't need to flaunt it, you need to be able to do it.
alpha-zach 4y ago
You’re mission, hobbies, work, interests, and social network become your plates.
Attention is what women want, not sex(sort of). Sex is more a tool to get attention when other means don’t work. Also, it’s the most intimate form of attention. So plates take attention away and make her crave you. Now your other activities replace that.
FereallyRed 4y ago
Catch and release. Game women.
It doesn't really matter if you fuck other women or not, but both you and her both have to KNOW you could.
12 Steps of Dread.
Ohboohoolittlegirl 4y ago
Dude.. Abundance mentality is not in HAVING sidechicks, it's knowing you can have it and applying dread correctly to make sure she knows you have options. Mentality is key here. It's her knowing you'll have a girl in a jiffy, that you'll; get over her reasonably fast and move on..
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stripethrowaway 4y ago
You dread the fuck out of your wife.
That_Deaf_Guy 4y ago
You done goofed lmao. My friend is in the same situation, around the same ages, but he's beta af. Good luck, I can't offer you any advice.
ramfex21 4y ago
Cheat on her.. there’s your abundance
58cmoftruth 4y ago
I don't know your attitude towards marriage, but nowadays it could be terminated in almost any point of time. Moreover each side could end it. At such a young age I would behave as you want without taking much care about the marriage. Your life is more important. From other side it will be not wise no completely ignore the fact that you are married. In any case nobody would answer question above except you.
resnine 4y ago
Abundance doesn't just derive from having side-chicks. It comes from an awesome life full of friends, activities, hobbies, good career, money, and much much more. You need abundance in many areas of your life if you want true abundance mentality.
opper-hombre1 4y ago
In a marriage you don’t actively have an abundance with women, I.E. you’re not gonna be having plates. But to keep an active abundance mentality while in a marriage, you must use dread game. This will help keep your girl from monkey branching and becoming bored because she will see you openly talking/flirting with other girls. This will cause her to up her game to keep you happy because she knows that you could easily find another women to fill her role. And she doesn’t want to lose her role.