TLDR: how do I respond to the question "are you fucking anyone else?"
Fwiw I lift, I have three plates at them moment (I had four), and I've read the sidebars.
Plate #1 asked me this question about two weeks ago. I usually see her when we are both on campus for separate college classes twice a week. She was my longest and preferred plate. So I was sitting in the library and she stormed up and angrily asked "are you fucking anyone else?" I was caught off guard and attempted to be vague by saying something like "I didn't think we were official". I fumbled through the conversation but eventually said "yeah why?" She was still visibly upset but made small talk for a minute or two before walking away with a friend she had presumably brought for backup.
The next time I saw her, things were better and she was jokingly still mad at me but we still go fuck in a bathroom (we do this on campus occasionally). Afterwards, out of fear that she would revenge fuck someone else, I brought it up. I basically said "I am going to keep fucking other people and I would like it if you didn't fuck anyone else". Surprisingly she agreed to this. Now the plate is broken though because she has turned me down for sex for the first time last week and did it again two days later. Next.
Plate #2 does not know plate #1 but brought this up in the car the other day. "Are you sleeping with anyone else?" I attempted to be vague again, which didn't work, and so I eventually said "yeah why?" again. She asked how many girls and I said "enough" with a smirk. Then I assured her I'm having fun with her and then we fucked around. This plate is not broken yet imo.
I fucked up by trying to define some half-open relationship with plate #1. But how do I respond to that question? Just a pressure flip off the bat? "Yeah why?" It caught me off guard. I'm just here trying to improve myself and learn from the experience of losing my favorite plate.
Edit: formatting
Edit 2: how do I format on my iPhone please help
darksigma8 5y ago
“I don’t really kiss and tell”
asorals 5y ago
This. Simple yet effective
bruiser18 5y ago
I like how you went with the “I’m fucking other people and I would like if you don’t fuck anyone else”. I usually say something similar, but wait till she brings up the what are we talk and is basically begging me to be with her. Use something like “I can’t give you a relationship right now, but I’m really into girls who want me and only me”.
As for responding to the question plenty of ways.
Agree and amplify:
“yeah, at least 1000, I stopped counting”.
Pressure flip:
“What sort of question is that? Are you fucking other guys?”
Or use both:
“Yeah, at least 1000. Why? Are you fucking other guys?”
DifficultReference2 5y ago
Lol seriously? If you say that she's 100% for sure going to fuck someone else.
bruiser18 5y ago
I mean there’s a less gay way of going about it.
At a certain point, in my experience, girls start begging for exclusivity. At which point you can tell them you’re more into girls who are exclusive to you, but you can’t offer a relationship.
If you tell her not to fuck other guys before this point, it just looks thirsty and needy.
RedKnightTime 5y ago
"Yes."
She's a plate. Get some of that bitch out of your vagina for five minutes.
Congrats for telling her what you want. You have regained your balls in my commentary.
Not necessarily broken. Two times is a coincidence, not yet a pattern. Don't sabotage yourself just yet.
Whisper Moderator 5y ago
Today?
gregoire_ 5y ago
Push for a threesome. I know someone who thinks you’re cute. I could give her your number if you like. Thinly veiled intentions.
FereallyRed 5y ago
Standard shit test gets standard shit test replies.
This is asked daily.
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akq0 5y ago
"Not today"
"Yes. by the way did you heard of blablablabla" change topic asap
"Threesome time?"
Also if they ghost you after that, let them go, never initiate. They usually boomerang for some more.
ivan_mcnasty 5y ago
You either address it directly or change the topic.
Move the topic away from you and force her to qualify.
“That’s a dumb question. Are you fucking other guys?”
“Wow way to ruin my mood for the day, did you get a bad grade on a test or something?”
With every response you move the topic farther away until she gives up and the pressure is too much to bring it back up.
Thus she is left with no direct answer and if she self destructs later you can always pin it on her because you never lied to her you just evaded
mrpthrowa 5y ago
Yeah.
Not why. Nothing . Just yeah, like it’s completely normal and she’s out of her mind for questioning it