I got a couple girls in rotation but I seem to be “falling” for a specific one, despite the many red flags she displays. For some reason I don’t give a shit about banging these other bitches and I only care about this specific girl. She’s definitely into me but in my opinion she’s made it clear that she doesn’t want anything too serious. So should I just cut it off with this girl before I get hurt
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johnn2015 5y ago
Let me guess. She's the hottest.
Ayethrowwybruv 5y ago
You’re right
EvolvedVirus 5y ago
You're not doing anything, it's your dick that feels the oneitis.
I had a bit of a similar thing happen once, I thought I had this one chick in the bag, so I kinda ignored her a bit more and pulled back a little, and then a youngun protege started dating her and he tried to box me out a bit (violation of bro code and I found out cuz she kept inviting me to things) and I was furious, but really it's my dick that was furious, a night out at the bar and I was back to normal after having some fun with some hotties (no closes this time but still felt good to get out and have positive feedback). I was furious because I had felt rejected and wanted her more because of the fact that she was unavailable (but that means I'm vulnerable to jealousy tactics and scarcity tactics).
So remember, all these feelings you have, it's really just you thinking with your dick. Same thing happens if you dump a super hot girl and then have a very long dry-spell and you're like "shit should I go back to her crazy ass; at least the sex was great!" <--- NO, you are thinking with your damn dick.
chanakya009 5y ago
Hail Lord Virus!
Stuck in this loop like forever.
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resnine 5y ago
Yep. Evolution at play there.
asorals 5y ago
Before starting to change my life with TRP I had a few plates going. I met one girl who knocked my socks off, she was the hottest out of them all. I had banged my other plates but was fixated on getting in the pants of the hottest one. As a result of this I made the error of dropping the other ones and focusing all my attention on one.
Biggest mistake ever. Shit ended up going south with the one I really wanted. And she eventually ended up flaking on me a few times so I cut contact. Don't make the same mistake I did. Reciprocate the same attention she gives you.
EvolvedVirus 5y ago
Reciprocation is the key to good relations, and should always be appreciated when women do so.
It usually doesn't end well to overpursue even a mediocre-hottie. They very flaky and know what they can get.
FereallyRed 5y ago
It's natural to want what you can't have.
She's using that to hook you.
And it's working.
Take the overview...why do you really want her?
Ayethrowwybruv 5y ago
I don’t know why. I think I’m getting more anxious and insecure because I’m losing my hair and I feel like I won’t be able to get hot bitches anymore with a shaved head. So it’s making me less confident
failingtheturingtest 5y ago
"I feel like I won't be able to get jot bitches" is the antithesis of abundance.
You don't have an abundance mentality. You might have a few sheilas in the go, but you still have a scarcity mentality.
Nip that shit in the bud. Bald guys do not have a harder time. Fat, loser bald guys do. Keep fit, keep your frame, nothing will change.
Having hair won't help you if you are scared of losing on sheila.
animalapemachine 5y ago
u/Fereallyred is telling you she's playing "take away" to get you revved up. Imagine I am selling you an Acura lx. I tell you that you cannot afford this car. Then I take you over and show you one of the Honda Civics. It makes you want the original car even more.
The girl is telling you she doesn't want nothing serious which is the takeaway cuz that's what she does want. Then she gets you spinning and jumping like a monkey from hoops trying to prove yourself and how good of a quality male you actually are.
Then she's got you trying to please her, which is impossible cuz she moves the goalposts. She tells her friends how much of a fucking weak-ass faggot you are. And then tells you how sorry she feels for you because all you do is try to please her.
And brother I got to remind you that this whole game Dynamic is not about your hair.
dealsleds1 5y ago
Don’t feel less confident. Johnny Sins is bald and look at how much pussy he gets.
rare_specimen_indeed 5y ago
I have a nice head of hair, always wore it a million different ways, and then the day i finally shaved it clean i got crazy positive responses from all girls, including my GF at the time. They loved it. Some girl at the bar nearly took me home because i looked so "dangerous"
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newlifeRP 5y ago
I just read another question from a dude that had long hair his whole life and had just shaved his head.
His impression was that he projected a much more aggresive and dominant image, so no need to fear. If anything, shave and find out. I'm considering this myself (and I'm not even losing my hair).
Muscle + beard + shaved head = pussy magnet
pussykiller009 5y ago
Oh please!
animalapemachine 5y ago
Booyah
rare_specimen_indeed 5y ago
I just posted above about how that happened to me too. I'm lean, tall, great beard, and now shaved head. Feelin good about it
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Ayethrowwybruv 5y ago
Thanks man appreciate the solid advice
animalapemachine 5y ago
Ok. More clearly your comment about going bald you need to check that. If women did not like bald-headed men it would have been bred out of the evolutionary chain a million years ago. But guess what... bald men are everywhere.
No matter what they say women fuck bald men. That's a lot of bald men around they're all getting fucking laid so you can to so stop being soft.
Men who worry about their hair are pussies. do you really think that men who have an important Mission are worried about their goddamn hair?
Was the world explored and conquered by sissy boys worried about their hair?
Do men have more important things to think about other than their hair?
There are guys who have lost their limbs in combat there are guys who have lost their lives in combat, arms or legs they are accomplishing more than all of us put together
and yet we're having a conversation about your fucking hair
EvolvedVirus 5y ago
I love your comment and I don't mean to ruin everyone's dreams, but... Men bald after 30s and 40s. Evolution has nothing to do with it because men have for hundreds of thousands of years have died and bred before their 30s/40s. Also why you get more diseases/weakened system after 30s/40s.
But also why women love older men, because that's just really good genetics if you survive that long. So bald or not, you have advantages that 20-year-olds don't have. Let me tell you something... Toooooons of men live their entire 20s without getting laid much if at all.
The 20s are women's golden years, the 30s are men's. Tell me I'm wrong and you probably have a great body or face or just super good at game all the time.
You're damn right!
animalapemachine 5y ago
Solid argument. Props sir.
discohumpty 5y ago
Do whatever you want. Have fun. But always outcome independent. Yeah it might sting if it doesn't work out but always another "one", as in hot one, to pick up.
Gordon-G 5y ago
We’re all just one great blow-job from being pulled back on the Plantation!! Stay on your purpose... Its a Trap !!
DerpJungler 5y ago
No matter what, never commit to just one woman. And always be outcome dependent, if you choose to do so.
Wolveryn 5y ago
Recalibrate, live in such a way that if she ghosted you tomorrow, you wouldn’t be bothered because girls of similar caliber are on your radar... or better yet, focus on your missions to the degree that you don’t have time to think about pussy, drugs, booze and other vices
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
I think the key is to have infinite lives within finite time we are given and be looking from above with admiration.
Clinging to that one life despite it not being meant for you is a nature's trap as we think we desire something we can't have more.
But think what kind of shitty life you are going to have with all those red flags up your arse? Looking from above, would you admire that?
I have ignored many red flags and looking back, this was my biggest mistake in this life.
hrm0894 5y ago
If you truly have an abundance mindset (and understand female nature) you will never catch oneitis. Read the sidebar and improve yourself some more and you'll never get oneitis again.
These nasty hoes can't feel anything for you, so don't catch feelings for them. AWALT.
WiredT 5y ago
Shes the “one you cant have so easily “ that’s probably why. Shes the hot one, shes the challenge
uptimex 5y ago
Have the same problem. I think it is because of two variables she is the hottest + she doesn't give as much attention to you as you want.
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I personally found the solution in detecting her interest:
zxcvb7809 5y ago
Until you realize that isn't dried tooth paste on her mouth when she shows up.
Kommanderdude 5y ago
You’re lying to yourself about actually having abundance
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
You're in her frame, brother. Sounds like she's the one dictating the terms.
You MUST have less investment than her. You MUST need her less than she needs you.
You need to kill your emotional investment ASAP.
The second you give a shit that she doesn't want anything more serious, is the second you lose.