I've been seeing this woman and had 3 dates with her already. We've kissed a lot, but not actually had sex yet.
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Today, I was "gaming" her over whatsapp and flirting with her there. She seemed to be reciprocating reasonably well, but seemed to hold back when sex was discussed. I got into a brief (but serious) discussion, asking if she's actually sexually attracted to me.
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She said she is "demisexual". This is the definition of demisexual from wikipedia: "A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection. It's more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual."
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I suppose this could mean a few things:
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- Have I gamed her enough? Maybe I haven't created sufficient sexual tingles through my actions/behaviour/game for her to want sex with me. Game is the most important thing according to TRP, after all.
- Maybe she sees me as a beta bucks and has zero sexual attraction towards me.
- Maybe she really is a demisexual
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What do you reckon?
nross368 5y ago
Tell her your a semisexual and that you only experience sexual attraction before emotional connection
BumblingBeta 5y ago
I just looked up the definition of semisexual and that's not what it means.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Great. Now go look up the definition of autism.
nross368 5y ago
that's not the point.....
BumblingBeta 5y ago
what is the point?
nross368 5y ago
mock and reframe...
redpharma7789 5y ago
Anyone who is not straight/gay/bisexual = nuts
ramokaly 5y ago
Chances are she’s just bullshitting. But imagine she wasn’t, what would your life be like a few months down? Holy shit bro she’s already being a pain in the ass. It’s not your problem to deal with. I’d say get out while you can.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
Fancy way of saying she won't fuck you unless you're in a relationship with her.
Aptote 5y ago
wasting your time with this one
Westernhagen 5y ago
If you have to ask whether or not she's hot for you, she's not.
If it's like this on date #3, imagine how exciting your sex life with her will be a couple of years after she moves in...
FereallyRed 5y ago
You're fucking up in multiple ways that telegraph to her you are not someone she should fuck.
From above....
1 - 3 dates with "kissing" but nothing more. Why aren't you escalating?
2 - Gaming over a text platform? That's the dumbest shit you can do. If you haven't fucked a woman then don't text. Ever hear "text for logistics"? Do that. You drip neediness.
3 - Don't have a "serious" discussion over text. Are you stupid? There's no context, body language, or tone.
4 - Don't have a "serious" discussion about sexual attraction. Ever. Autistic.
5 - If she knows the term "demisexual", then she's well versed in the art of the cocktease. Fuck that. No pussy is a golden ticket.
You're being played by some girl you haven't even fucked yet. That's sad. Time to move on.
somebullshitrp 5y ago
If you haven't had sex with her, and she's telling you that she's demisexual...
I have news for you, and it might be shocking so prepare yourself, but... She's not attracted to you.
The various sexual preferences that women claim are just ways to tell you that she's not actually into you, without actually being explicit about it.
If she's not fucking you, she's not attracted to you. End of story. There are no exceptions.
throwawayycheyeah 5y ago
Gonna assume you've been picking up the tab on the first 3 dates.
She ain't into you.
Filmguy000 5y ago
All women are demisexual. They are asexual for the perceived beta. But very sexual for the perceived alpha. You mentioned that you discussed if she is sexually attracted to you. By doing that you gave her all the power. And when a woman is given power by the man, she dries up very quickly.
imtrynaclapnocap 5y ago
If you haven’t smashed or even came close by the 3rd or 4th date, you might not be seducing her enough. She could just be playing games, but I wouldn’t waste my time on it unless you know you can fuck
BumblingBeta 5y ago
Well we've kissed a fair amount. So I've had plenty of sexual contact. But no sex.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
You’re wasting your time. But hey, if you want to keep doubling down on this broad, and wind up getting a half hearted handy in six months, by all means keep focusing on her. And wasting your time. And not enjoying your life. Because you’re not getting any sex.