Hey guys so buckle up for this one
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My oneitis from a year ago started texting me out of the blue (to be just friends haha) and I put up with it because our parents are really good friends and I kind of like her because we get along well. So anyways, after a month of sparse contact we texted deep into the night yesterday and as you expect, things turned sexual rather quick. Now, in the year since I was head over heels in love with her I have found TRP and learned a lot, but I was too much of a pussy to apply it all in a night out on my own. Anyways, I just went with the flow yesterday and at some point she mentioned how we had similar preferences in bed as far as roles are concerned. I just listened to my horny balls and jokingly said we could still be fuckbuddies. Of course, initially she declined but as the night went on the tried to see if that had been a serious offer or not and seemed to be interested. To be fair, I know she is just a tease and rarely follows through on anything so I just acted like I didn't give a fuck if she agreed or not.
We stopped texting yesterday night and today she messaged me again saying she would like to give it a try. Now I feel like I'm fucked because I boasted yesterday about my abundance mentality when in reality, I haven't even touched a girl's pussy yet.
I don't know what to do, I wanna fuck her but I don't want her to be my first because that would probably end the Fuckbuddy-Ship rather quickly.
Please help me lmao
Startlivingfornow 5y ago
Okay, what do you need to know?
First, figure out logistics. Where can you fuck her? (Room or car)
Then, buy condoms/lube. Don’t stress over this, just get a popular brand.
When she comes over, make general chit chat and then when you have her in the room judge the tension. If a girl has come over as a fuck buddy I’ll start making out with her asap.
Don’t talk about what’s going to happen, don’t ask her what she likes. Just start making out and then lead.
Honestly, my first time the hardest thing for me was figuring out how to undo the bar strap haha.
Once clothes are off, go down on her. Then prompt her to 69, then smash in different positions. You should be directing her throughout and make sure you’re making noises and shit and telling her how good she is making you feel as she’s doing her thing.
Not much more too it really.
Pick her up, fuck her against the door, give it to her doggy and make sure you fuck her like a whore not some girl you’re trying to date
Don’t worry about making her cum or impressing her. It’ll happen when it happens.
Make sure to keep the same frame you’ve been texting her with and don’t say you’re a fucking virgin no matter what
W_O_M_B_A_T 5y ago
Wouldn't advise this unless you are exclusive for months and know that she doesn't have anything funny going on. STI's are depressingly common these days. Thanks, tinder!
In any case this will probably make it clear that the OP doesn't know what the hell he's doing. Diving in like a hyena on a buffalo carcass then motorboating her crotch might impress some women with your enthusiasm, but like men, a lot of women are a bit particular about oral.
250kcal 5y ago
Something I would like to add. Make sure to try the condom on before hand.
1) You dont want to spend a whole minute fumbling with the condom on and go soft from nerves
2) Make sure it actually fits. True story my first time having sex I bought the most standard trojans you can. What ended up happening: the condom did not fit at all, got ripped twice and the ring hurt like hell during thrusting I had to stop from the pain.
Oh and another thing before she comes over smoke some weed. Helps loosen you up, and when the clothes start flying off your manly primal instincts or whatever kick in and it's like you KNOW what to do, just let that feeling roll.
CC_ee 5y ago
Weed can make it go either way. I'd stay away from it first time might make the nerves worse
reddituser1103 5y ago
Don't go down on her, that's submissive
11-Eleven-11 5y ago
Says who?
BlackjointnerD 5y ago
Uh No
Jabbermouth 5y ago
Wrong reason. Who cares if it’s submissive or not. He shouldn’t go down on a random girl PERIOD. Save that for LTRs or long term fuckbuddies who have promised exclusivity.
aDrunkenWhaler 5y ago
Why?
Jabbermouth 5y ago
I remember reading a story on the main sub about how a guy had a female friend that was like a 4. She invited a guy from tinder over and fucked him and then 5 minutes after he left, another guy came over and she had sex with him as well.
Imagine being guy number 2 and going down on her. You know have another man’s nut in your mouth. I don’t trust any girl that isn’t only fucking me enough to take that risk.
Startlivingfornow 5y ago
Fair point. But if you think knowing a girl over a period time makes it less likely that some other dude’s dick has been inside her on that day, then you haven’t been around enough women
The only exception is when you live together. Even then, some of these hoes still find time for extra dick when you aren’t doing your job
Jabbermouth 5y ago
I agree you can never know for sure. But if you’re her top option and she knows it, then it helps to minimize the risk.
Also never living with a woman, so that’s out the window lol
Startlivingfornow 5y ago
haha, fair call
SauliusTRP 5y ago
Set up a date and escalate, pretty classic move. If she rejects then ghost her a bit..
WarframeNewb 5y ago
I think you misunderstood or I didn't make it clear enough. She just wants to fuck and I said I could fuck her well since I thought she was just kidding around like last year. It's more a question on how do I prepare for this to not let her down too much so that I can continue sleeping with her? I am inexperienced sooo
vandaalen 5y ago
Fuck her like you hate her and it's the last time you can punish her. Seriously.
linkschode 5y ago
I’d pop half a viagra or cialis 30 mins before meeting. My first time I was so nervous I couldn’t get it up.
The last thing you want is to not be able to get it up and look like some hobo trying to Saran Wrap a worm.
You’ll feel like double the cunt as well for giving it large and falling flat on your flaccid face.
WarframeNewb 5y ago
That shouldn't be too difficult, thank you!
htbf 5y ago
So concise, so on point.
SauliusTRP 5y ago
I mean you still need to set up a date and escalate, or you expecting after some texting that she comes over and spreads her legs? What she is writing now can be total different when you meet her for your sex thing: ASD, LMR kicks in and so on.
For some foreplay you can scroll down on AskTRP, 1-2 days ago there was a similar question thread highly upvoted with good beginners action guide by TRP-Vanguard
Deathkisss 5y ago
You're not gonna be good your first time no matter what you read. Use this girl as learning experience.
WarframeNewb 5y ago
Might as well, thank you
aDrunkenWhaler 5y ago
Edit: 4. If it will only happen once, which I seriously doubt even if the sex will not be that great, it doesn't matter. You still got laid and lost your virginity, so it's a win. Don't stress yourself out.
ppanthero 5y ago
I actually didn't cum at all at my first time. All the talk about lasting only seconds and stuff made me nervous af, which led to 1 hour sex without orgasm. We then just stopped and the girl felt pretty bad about it.
Sad_Sleeper 5y ago
Well, i didn't came my first tine, but i had problems with my frenelum, it was way too short. I fixed it after that, but i still can't cum while doing sex.
Andrew_bellati 5y ago
I don't really see you finding another girl to practice on, I would watch some videos on foreplay cause let's be honest your gonna cum fast as hell being your first time which will ruined your fuck buddy relationship real quick. Maybe when your alone with her prior, tell her your a virgin. Some girls are into that.
KORB4311 5y ago
Bro that "first fuck-cum quick" narrative everyone seems to love is complete bullshit. I went for an hour my first time.. OP needs to get out of his head and be present with this woman. I'd lay my pipe and then just let it be a milestone. Good sex, bad sex, who cares.
WarframeNewb 5y ago
Yeah true but I know she definitely isn't into virgins haha :D maybe rubbing one out beforehand will make me last longer?
AnabolLecter 5y ago
Don't do that. You'll loose aggressiveness and drive.
Maybe take a low dose tramadol, this will delay ejaculation. 25-50mg. Don't mix with alcohol, benzodiacepines or others drugs. I tried it once, 50 mg, and couldn't cum in 1h30 of intercourse so it might be too much.
Or hire a hooker ASAP and set up a date with her 2 days later (this is better).
KORB4311 5y ago
Prostitutes and narcotics is the best advice you have? Dude...
AnabolLecter 5y ago
No. But I'm not gonna say what everybody is already saying. Just offering alternatives.
He's mature enough to make his own decisions.
DerpJungler 5y ago
This is key: Show Confidence. No matter how stressed and anxious you feel, show her that you are relaxed and confident. I'm sure you know how sex is done. Let your imagination run wild and give it to her. Even if it turns to shit, but you still get laid, its a win win for you. She will probably ghost you and then you won't be a virgin and you can start being a real fucking male and go out and live your life, instead of cute texting with your y/o crush. good luck and give us an update lol
IVIaskerade 5y ago
A) Y'all ain't fuckbuddies until you're fucking
B) Do it anyway. You'll manage.
comu_nacho 5y ago
Just do it with her. You'll have done it with your oneitis (how many guys can say they did that) and will be able to turn the page. Even guys who have had lots of sex can suck at it. Besides, the sex has a probability of being awful, but just for her! for you will be great, the best in your life. If you want her to enjoy it, go down on her first. . Remember to K.I.S.S.
damaged_goods420 5y ago
If you can get a hold of 20mg cialis pills cut one in half, swallow it and you'll be good to go for hours lmao
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
I was good my first time. You just have to stop thinking and go for it. You may surprise yourself.
dtyler86 5y ago
Same here. Girl got mad thinking I lied about being a virgin. Thanks Maxim magazine!
DatingTank 5y ago
If you didn't fuck her, how's she your fuckbuddy
dtyler86 5y ago
Don’t sweat it. Just focus on foreplay first, giving and receiving. Go down on her but don’t make the rookie mistake of locking all over like a dog. Just the clit mostly and not too intense.
alpha-zach 5y ago
WELL DONE!
Food for thought. If following your horny balls worked to get her interest....don’t you think you should keep doing that? Stop over thinking. Get some basic advice here, but just think with your other head and all will go well.
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WiredT 5y ago
Youll do fine lol
TRP8myfeels 5y ago
Sounds like you will abundantly be in this specific pussy soon.
Good luck, it's really easy, get it wet, stick it in, pull it out most of the way, then go back in.
Do that as many times as you can. If you feel like you are close to orgasm and it's only been a few minutes, go down there and eat her out some more for a minute or two then get back in there.
Go fast for a few seconds, then slower, then faster, then as hard as you can, then really slow.
Make noise, laugh if something is funny, be relaxed, don't be super serious about it. It's a fun time.
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WarframeNewb 5y ago
Very well aware. To be honest, I use no social media except whats app and I just fucked around yesterday, not thinking this was actually gonna go somewhere. Well I don't know what you mean by me being a cyborg? English isn't my first language