I’ve been with this girl for 3 years. I started with her at 16 before discovering blue pill the typical showering her with compliments, making slow moves, waited for her to be ready for sex, etc.
Year in I discovered TRP and a few months later started applying it and have been improving ever since at the gym and my mentality. I still have a lot to learn about everything but what went wrong here?
We got into a big argument because she caught me in a lie. This was resolved then she said I started not caring about her problems , that I was not being there to give her advice, that i started treating her badly, I never gave her compliments or told her I loved her, then her final words were “I thought about it and most people can say they stayed with someone because they treat them good I can’t say that about you”
These are all beta characteristics are they not? I’m just so confused because everything I’ve been learning and applying cost me a LTR
What did I start to do wrong in RP perspective?
FixYourselfFirst 5y ago
You failed her confort tests. You can't just shit all over an LTR. You have to treat them right.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
All about finding the right mix of alpha and beta responses. Can't go full alpha in a LTR all the time.
clausternn 5y ago
TRP advises you to be 70% alpha 30% beta, and the latter part is much more important in an LTR than with a plate. You seem to have failed to take that advice to heart. If you're 100% alpha 0% beta you'll have a bad time.
Don't try to ressurrect this relationship though. Learn from it, soft next your girl, and move on.
purplehazemaze 5y ago
You’re definitely right. For me in the relationship it was more like 85% alpha. She was good to me but you’re right trying to ressurrect it will definitely just do more harm. Good advice
girlwhoseeks 5y ago
I don’t think you understand what a beta is.
throwitdownman 5y ago
I have never lost an LTR due to being ‘too alpha’. I have also never met a LTR couple who broke up due to being ‘not beta enough’. Shit-tests, yes, never ends it. If you’re ‘the man’ women are motivated to ‘domesticate you’. They get a kick of trying to reform men, of chasing the alpha. They WANT men who are not beta, so they can domesticate them.
I’m all-in on the theory of alpha fucks, beta bucks.
You lost her due to frame. When you argued, you lost your cool. You are no longer the stoic man, the rock, ALL women crave (AWALT). By arguing, and defending, you are in her frame. You believe that because you were caught, you had to answer to her. The push was due to the way you handled a ‘nuclear test’, she decided there was no reason to ‘share’ you because you’re not good enough.
All the other chatter is female bs.
Bigdoggg323 5y ago
If women crave stoic then why do they stay with dudes who are crazy and abuse them? Some advise on this sub contradicts the fuck outta some stuff
throwitdownman 5y ago
Stoic means not showing emotional reactions. Reactions means react-ING. Reacting means you are in her frame.
If a man is a drunk and physically abuses women, yes he is emotional, however in this twisted example he is maintaining frame. Again, just to hammer home this point, frame gives women tingles and feelz. Makes them feel like they have an alpha, gives them a sense that things are under control.
None of the things here contradict one another. Some people focus on the wrong words and get confused.
Bigdoggg323 5y ago
So you can technically yell at ur woman and tell her to shut the fuck up aslong as its in ur frame
throwitdownman 5y ago
Yeah. Plenty of stories of women sticking around ‘abusive relationships’. Then captain save-a-how comes along, and she still runs back to her ex.
It’s a strong frame because the man who yells at women is basically saying ‘I don’t give a fuck about the consequences’. It’s dominant, something women like in men.
On the flip side, if you yell at her ‘because’ of something she did or said, then you are in her frame.
Bigdoggg323 5y ago
Why else would you yell at a woman unless it was for something she said or did? Isn’t that why you would yell at em?
throwitdownman 5y ago
No, of course not. Plenty of men take out their frustrations (caused by the real world) on women. For example, have a bad day, drown it out in alcohol, and take it out on the wife and kids who’s minding their own business.
You can yell at a person for anything. The ‘he/she caused it’ is just be a cover up to vent at someone.
Girls do the same thing to guys - jealous that her friend got flowers, take it out on BF.
Bigdoggg323 5y ago
Ight so never yell at em for something they did or said
SirKolbath 5y ago
You’ve inverted it. It didn’t cost you an LTR. It ended an LTR in which you shouldn’t have been in the first place!
There are 3.66 billion women in the world. This one didn’t feel she could keep up with your successes and improvements. Big deal. Move on to the next. And don’t lie to this one.