So, to keep a long story short, I met a girl on a dating app, proceeded to have a great date. Closed that night, she stayed until the next night. Fucked throughout, we both had to cancel dates for that day. Lots of interest from her and talk of a relationship.
She texts me that night, and into the next day. I kept my responses short and somewhat aloof. Now she's suddenly gone radio silent, when before she was quick to answer. I'm thinking she either found a Chad dick or she's shit testing. I'm definitely not contacting her in any way until she does. Any advice?
wholewheatdirtydog 5y ago
I think I would do the same do not contact her until/if she contacts you. I forget who mentioned this but every relationship with a woman has a beginning,middle and end. Make sure you enjoy the middle,which by the sound of your post you did.
Henhge 5y ago
So, the last thing she said before that was how she wanted me so bad.
Now after 24 hours she sends a sexual text.
I'm over thinking this one, gonna keep spinning plates but I need to not be so invested.
wholewheatdirtydog 5y ago
Yeah man keep her there but make her start all conversations from now on.
MCATL2244 5y ago
How many times did she cum? More than 3?
Henhge 5y ago
I'd say around that we fucked a lot.
MCATL2244 5y ago
So if you fucked her good. Idk why she flaking, unless she has a bf
wheresMYsteakAt 5y ago
Bro I fuck em bad and they don't flake so something is definitely wrong here.
Henhge 5y ago
Lol I guess it's possible, seemed pretty damn single though. Nbd either way, back on the saddle.
bluefingerblue 5y ago
I think it was a mistake clearing your schedule and fucking for two days. Don’t you have other shit to be doing? She knows she has you now.
Henhge 5y ago
You might be right, she knows I have multiple other girls talking to me though.
Don_Draper27 5y ago
Just wait it out and focus on new prospects.
If it's been over a week or so and you don't mind looking a bit needy by reaching out, then shoot her a 'what's up' text.
Henhge 5y ago
She sent a sexual text an hour or two ago, haven't responded and don't even feel like it after she pulled that.
Don_Draper27 5y ago
Your call. Sometimes you gotta look at the big picture here and decide if you want to be punishing petty actions or if you want to be getting laid.
Henhge 5y ago
True, I figure ignoring for a bit won't hurt my chances at getting laid again. This one was extremely easy to get in bed.
wheresMYsteakAt 5y ago
For real. I know you don't have a claim on her but after talking all that shit then disappearing and not feeling the need to at least give you a Bullshit explanation? Fuck it, it's a booty call then, but bootycals don't get responses on Sunday nights.
Henhge 5y ago
Yeah, just went from radio silence, to sexual, then emotional and telling how she doesn't want to lose a great guy like me (without any neediness or bullshit from me).
Definitely perplexed, either it was a shit test or Chad didn't want her.
NeuroBoss31 5y ago
Op don't fuck it up: She's clearly interested and you already banged her. There's no point in playing hard to get after you guys have had sex IF you like her. She wanted to meet and you're like " yeah whatever". I mean you only have the luxury to say that if you just wanted to bang her once, but it seems like you both like each other so no point in confusing her or yourself more.
My suggestion would be to meet up again and keep banging her. But don't sound over-invested when you invite her for round 2. Repeat until she catches the feels and wants exclusivety. Evaluate if worth LTR or not at that point. You got this
Henhge 5y ago
What I don't understand is now she is texting me like crazy and sounds over invested herself. So she went from radio silence for almost a day to comfort testing. Screams that another guy didn't work out, which probably means another one will come along.
She seems to already want an exclusive relationship but I know how that goes with women, what they tell you to do and the rules they play by are different.
NeuroBoss31 5y ago
Good analysis and points. Hmm maybe suggest to meet up but not immediately. Something like " hey I'm wrapping some stuff at work, busy week, but we should hang out next week!". Do this ONLY if you like her. I've encountered a fair amount of crazy chicks that bombard my phone and I'd rather not bang them because I know how they get if I did, and I hate drama.
But it's true -- going full send after a one night stand is kinda surreal and fishy after the radio silence. Tough call. Would you say she's a 9 or above? These types of girls rarely act like this.
Bruchibre 5y ago
You've scored with this one, so move on to another target? She makes it easy for you to move on.