Banged twice, twice only.
Met on 3/5 so it has been only 3 weeks. She fell in love like a mad woman, texts me 100x everyday, and soon started complaining that I don't respond. Ofc I don't respond, seriously wtf?
She became very emotional over texts when I neglected her, even tried to throw ultimatums ("can't believe you ignore somebody who cares about you, goodbye!"), which I ignored completely and she'll come back and say "Good morning" the next day like nothing happened.
I lost attraction, FAST. It's cringe level 9999.
Last weekend she wanted to meet I said I'll be out of town to avoid her. She should get the msg that I am not interested already, right?
Fucking no.
Last night out of nowhere she came knocking on my door, unannounced. I let her in and she started pouring tears on me. I kept cool and told her this is a very immature act. She explained how much she loves me, and the weekend of silence was hell for her, yada yada yada..... At that point I was literally on 120% alertness mode to try to handle it strategically, because I was not sure if she'll start throwing things if I tell her "Hey I just really don't like you."
Eventually our "fight/talk" escalated because I told her to leave and she insisted on staying. It was already 1130pm, I said "If you love me that much you should understand that you shouldn't impact my normal life negatively." I absolutely won't let her stay, by letting her stay, I'm accepting her shitty behavior.
So I held frame and put on my poker face. She eventually left and we agreed to mutually delete each other.
Today she sends me another friend invitation, I blocked.
She started msging me on fucking LinkedIn, saying I pushed her into acting this way.
This whole situation is just ridiculous af.....
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FYI she's a Cornell MBA grad and probably making 2x my annual salary, but her EQ is equivalent to a teen undergoing puberty.
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I've never dealt with woman like this before. This is somewhat of a vent, but any tips will be helpful.
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monsieurhire2 5y ago
A Cornell MBA grad making twice your salary.... but you rejected her, after using her like an unpaid hooker.... yeah, no wonder she is going ballistic. She thinks she is the prize and you just gave her a rude awakening that the sexual marketplace is not the economic marketplace. She could be the female Doogie Howswer MD, but you simply CANNOT NEGOTIATE ATTRACTION.
I don't know about BPD, like other people are saying.
I would just tell her that it's not her fault, or your fault, that these things are beyond control, and that her time would be better suited realizing that she simply needs to find a guy that is as mad for her as she is for him, and move on with her life. While chemistry isn't super-abundant, there are plenty of compatible partners out there. You just have to go out and look for them.
strongfarts 5y ago
This suggestion was mentioned before by someone else in this sub.
What if you go full on BETA on her, take TRP and do the exact opposite, like the ultimate beta doormat.
Would that actually work and turn her off?
Never dared to try it as it sound counter intuitive, but who knows
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Probably not, it's a risky strategy and one that doesn't fit my character. Overall just too much effort for a simple goal (to turn her off).
The fact that she's puking all these emotional BS to me, is an attempt to conquer me emotionally. If I yielded and let her stayed that night, I'm signalling that it's okay to come knock on my door and cry and break my frame anytime she wishes. And she'll 100% abuse this dynamic next time in order to achieve something in her favor (in fact, she's doing all these unconsciously).
It's a power play, I've compromised before in prior relationships during my beta days. You must understand that women will not appreciate your compromises, once you set that precedence they'll progressively betafy you more and more. So the key is to develop the confidence/frame to "uncompromise" in situations like this.
We are the sex that fight in wars, if we are not afraid of dying why should we be afraid of women's tears?
strongfarts 5y ago
Well said brother I am totally with you on this, would just be interesting to see if someone did a full beta/cuck flip on a clingy bitch just like the one you are dealing, how long would it take before she ghosts?
Almost like an academic experiment.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Lmao.. we'll need someone who's truly
autisticaltruistic to conduct that experiment for the community.Don_Draper27 5y ago
Keep ghosting her.
Were there no red flags when you met her?
Men need to be more careful about which hole they're sticking their dick in. Fuck the wrong bitch and your life will start to get difficult really fast. OP is lucky she hasn't filed a false rape accusation yet.
WiredT 5y ago
LINKED IN IM FUCKIN DEAD
but seriously i had a similar situation The most you can do is stay cold and eliminate any signs of chances of gttn back together.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
We didn't have each other on LinkedIn, so she must have gone there to search for me. It's too much...
huggyblossom 5y ago
I feel like everyone here is a bot lol - BPD, next her :)
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Have you ever dated near Wall or hard working women in the finance or w/e sector with heavy work that are caareer girl - the lack of male attention and the sex craving is so common in this area.
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Having experience with 2-3 alike and having listened to several friends with cimilar experience - girl needs man, not work to pleasure her life and when she finally has a piece of man, she goes crazy to try to keep it as her routine is Work, work, work and overtime like mad usually...
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
You're spot on. She's 30 or 31 and very hard-working.
Metalgear222 5y ago
Whyyyy. Whyyyy would you do that to yourself lol
Mr_Badass 5y ago
Ahhh classic lovebombing. I usually see this from women who are approaching the wall and want babies.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Yes she's 30.
RedKnightTime 5y ago
A grown-ass man is direct and doesn't play vaginal games of "she should get the message that I'm not interested" when you haven't told her so.
Not sure why you decided to let this crazy person in. That's a good way to get a rape or DV charge.
Just block her on everything and move on. If she shows up to your house, STOP LETTING HER IN FOR FUCK'S SAKE and tell her to go away. If she refuses to go away, call the cops for trespassing.
SeasonedRP 5y ago
You have to cut her off. Your main concern now is to protect yourself and avoid all contact with her. One positive thing to look forward to is that girls like her get attached quickly, as you've seen, and thus she'll find someone else soon (and that poor guy will get to experience her psycho behavior). The firmer you are about not having contact, the quicker she'll go attach herself to someone else.
ethbytes 5y ago
Typical BPD... Hell awaits all who enter it... Cut off totally ignore everything, worked for me. It will soon find another to destroy.
While they are a live grenade they are also a valuable learning experience. The horror, the horror... (Apocalypse now...)
mysticplaces 5y ago
...can we see her picture?
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
D Cup at least. Maybe the next man will enjoy them more than I do.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
When you use the phrase "at least" after the phrase "D cup", that, friend, is when you know that you have lived!
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
B to the Pizzle.. something to the Dizzle...
Yeah, fuck this shit off quickly and soon as possible.
Nexting and trying to ghost obviously isn't working. Nothing wrong with being direct. 'Look I don't feel a connection, don't want to lead you on'.
Then block, delete, ghost. Then it's at least clear.
Her shit is NOT your issue. She sounds BPD with narcissism. She'll attempt to eat your soul.
vicious_armbar 5y ago
Restraining order. Save all texts, voicemails, and messages for evidence.
Store_Front_Door 5y ago
Good job on holding frame, my dude.
Morpheus_TNTB 5y ago
You should have listened to your Dad when he said not to put your dick into crazy!
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Dad offered very little relationship/sex advice throughout my life. That's fine tho, since I got all of you bros.
civilizedfrog 5y ago
Look at us. We are the Dad now
Mr_Badass 5y ago
Awwww.
Filmguy000 5y ago
BPD. That is all.
tothetopbaby1 5y ago
Pulled up unannounced and you let her in? sigh
Block her, keep blocking her, and don’t let her in.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Bad decision. Won't repeat.
ethbytes 5y ago
Did you get the little cute lamb act at the door?
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
I was already on the bed when someone knocked. So I peeped thru the hole and saw her in teary eyes. I opened up and asked "why r u here?" And she just looked at me like she was about to cry.. I had a split second to think what to do next before she jump and wrapped her arms around me and bursting into tears.
So yeah, I got soft. Told her to come in and talk. Wrong move since the very beginning. Lesson learnt.
SlappaDaBayssMon 5y ago
I don't think so, what you got out of that talk was
1) letting her know if she really "loves" you she should stop fucking with your schedule/routine
2) a mutual agreement to delete and move on.
You're past the worst of it, I think.
Having an honest conversation seldom hurts
Peshquabz 5y ago
lucky
zxcvb7809 5y ago
Stay on good terms with her until you leave town. When you leave town leave suddenly with no warning, change your number, block her on everything or create new accounts and never ever look back. Fuck her with a condom from now on if you haven't been already.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
If I wanted to take that route I would have fucked last night.
No way...
throwawaytrpguy 5y ago
You're goddam right
I hope she didn't freeze up your gunk or something
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Let me check...
Have a dinner date today to meet a new girl. Think my gunk is still liquid?
AWorseManThanYou 5y ago
Ah... I remember my first BPD...
There’s nothing for you to do except cut her off. She will continue to get worse.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Exactly. I can already imagine the emotional shit storm that she'll unleash if I carry on seeing her. This is the type of girl who will threaten people with suicide and cut herself.
AWorseManThanYou 5y ago
If she commits suicide that’s on her. She was crazy and nothing you can do can protect a crazy person. Not your responsibility.
My first (or second or third. One of them... I’ve fucked too many of them, I’m a sucker for tits and blowjobs.) I actually had to call the cops on. Don’t be afraid to do that. Better than her trying to frame you. And some will go that far. I had one try to get me kicked out of college on cooked up sexual assault charges. Total fantasy, we didn’t even have sex during the time she accused me of it. Your best bet to protect yourself is to NEVER be alone with her. Do not let her in. Give her her shit back during the day, at a coffee shop.
ThinSpiritual 5y ago
Sound advice. I need to be more machivaellianistic haha.
No she doesn't have things at my place, I really only saw her twice. Second time after fucking we went to dinner and movies, it all felt normal. Oh well.
Dittmerz 5y ago
That's the problem with these women. Doing something they can or might interpet as a date, (dinner and movies etc), makes them think that you are commiting to them. Remeber that they are trying to play on your guilt, ignore it and next her.
ethbytes 5y ago
They will try all ways to trigger a male physically to justify her belief all men are like that. They cannot see the absolute abuse low level evil they give while trying to prove it to themselves...?
"That's the trouble with women who have been abused; they will fuck anything that moves." << Sleaford Mods...