I’ve significantly reduced my orbiting of my female friends, but I still treat them with basic normal genuine mutual respect
However it seems that they’ve stopped inviting me to pre game, which may be because I withdrew as soon as I realised that I was just being used for validation and wasn’t gonna get a shred of pussy from any of my female friends or their friends. I just realised how pathetic the situation I was in and I withdrew to maintain my self respect
My female friends seem to notice this but still want to interact with me, however they don’t seem to push for getting validation out of me anymore.
Part of my old self was seeking validation through female attention and being their centre of attention, now it seems like there is a void that has to be filled?
I feel like I was being used as their narcissistic supply, while admittedly I was using them for it as well? I just want to remain friends on the terms that I am my genuine self rather than a facade they want me to be?
btrpb 5y ago
You've regained some self respect. Don't fucking throw it away by crawling back to them just so you can smell the sweet perfume of a woman.
Build on your progress by hitting the gym, finding more hobbies, and making yourself a more interesting person, so that when you come across some new women you can be of more sexual interest to them.
I get it. We all enjoy the company of a woman. But move forwards.
bigflame123 5y ago
The weird thing is that now that I’ve withdrawn from them and stopped putting all my time trying to chase them and gain their attention and validation, I’m actually talking to more girls who are interested in me romantically/sexually rather than just for validation and have more potential for setting up dates?
It’s just that I miss their company and their validation but I know that it’s not coming from a genuine place, it’s all pretenses and this is one of the main reasons I moved on?
btrpb 5y ago
The more new women you game the more these women will drift further back in your rear view mirror. That's what abundance does for you. It's totally human to pine after the "good" times, but you've just got to keep layering new experience on top, to make your life richer. And thus, individual women will slowly lose their significance to you.
Also, memory has a habit of focusing on the good things and not the bad times; which was you getting zero action and a lot of frustration. So bear that in mind when you hark back to how things were.
bigflame123 5y ago
Yeah I was getting very frustrated because I was orbiting my former oneitis heavily, while we both were extracting validation from each other but she pretty much did the carrot on stick approach to me, leading me on for a very long time
Eventually at pre game one time it was the last straw when she got with another guy while I was there after having lead me on for such a long time
Do I seem butt hurt if I withdraw like this or is it a good idea overall?
I don’t totally ignore them but I’m not chasing after them no more
btrpb 5y ago
Butt hurt? Dude. There is gonna be plenty of women that walk away from you without so much as a goodbye in your lifetime, and (hopefully) you will do the same to plenty of women too.
Fuck 'em. Move on with your life. Don't concern yourself with what they're thinking.
bigflame123 5y ago
Thank you man,
And it’s true, I had a group of girls I orbiter in the past and they don’t even bother to meet up in person after I haven’t seen them for a very long time, it’s as if we weren’t even friends back in the day.
While back in the day I seemed to be their favourite person
McCarthyCohn24 5y ago
Ghost these stupid bitches
FereallyRed 5y ago
Your time and attention is the carrot.
The
whoreshorse doesn't appreciate someone who just delivers a box of carrots everyday, but that one carrot just out of reach is attention getting.bigflame123 5y ago
I’ve heard acting aloof won’t get you girls on here and that you have to show some interest at least or am I conflating it with something else?
FereallyRed 5y ago
You're right, you need to show some interest.
You just don't ever go full retard.