Looked like my girfriend is griefing this morning through text messages, her uncle has head cancer and she asked how's it going, and guess what. She got the bad news..
I comforted her saying she could open up and come to me anytime, as I want to be her rock so if she needs my help with this struggle I'm here, like she was when my mother died in the summer. She didn't really look like she felt the want to though. Did I do the right thing? Do I need to do anything further? From the looks of it she's panicking about her whole family, should I text more/call her, or leave it there?
I told her to discuss it with one of her trusted friends but she said no and unfortunately today we can't meet up as we're both very busy.. how to handle this from now on?
Bruchibre 5y ago
Be available and be a good listener. There's not much more than you can do for her. She needs time to process and deal with it. Maybe she needs you around maybe she needs to be with her family. Being the rock means telling here "I'm here for you if you need me".
Aesthetic_God__ 5y ago
This is what I ended up doing, " I'm here, call or text when you need me".
I'm anxious that things may get out of hand and she may feel I'm not even around or anything, but that doesn't really make any sense since I offered my support.. Time will show everything, I'm feeling empathy for her.
Bruchibre 5y ago
Maybe be more proactive than simply telling her that. You can say "do you want to meet now?"
FereallyRed 5y ago
Here's how women feel about empathy...Brené Brown on Empathy.
Aesthetic_God__ 5y ago
So it's good to empathize a bit?
Or
" don't listen to their words. Trust her actions"
FereallyRed 5y ago
Don't try to "fix" shit.
Be there for her.
She's a GF. They need a little comfort.