So a little background to start. I'm 30, she's 33, When I met this woman I was pretty blue pilled, minus some alpha strategies I found from the PUA community. I DLV'ed a lot in the beginning. I was needy, I had one-itis, I put her on a pedestal, all the terrible stuff you hate you hear from friends, I was clinging onto the relationship not realizing I was the prize, I wasn't setting solid boundaries, and I was coming off a divorce that had happened only months prior. (Ex wife left in June, hooked up with new girl in October) She treated me well but not 100% well, she would still get on facebook messenger and I found her on tinder once. She messages guys nude photos of herself for validation. She was messaging guys on Tinder and I set the boundary that was unacceptable. She deleted Tinder after I set that boundary and I told her she wasn't allowed to do that.
After finding the red pill, going through No More Mr. Nice Guy, all of Rollo Tomassi's books, the sidebar and many other writings. It all clicked and it all cleared up. Floods of images from times past are beginning to make sense and I started embracing my natural alpha and being masculine. Well my girlfriend's noticed and become insanely attracted to me. I completely flipped the relationship. She's now becoming needy. She reaches out first, frankly she needs me more than I need her.
Well I found her drunk and texting an "alpha male" on facebook. (this alpha in my opinion is a loser, tattooed emo kid, 150 lbs who has 2 kids and a fat wife but ladies love him) I didn't really mind because he lives in another state, loser in my eyes, emo, weak but he is alpha as he's really deep and does art for girls who follow. He has hundreds of girls commenting on his wall. But, like i said most are remote, he's got serious "alpha internet game" SMH
So she was texting him nudes so he would "draw" her. Mmm whatever i'm not perfect, i don't really care meh...But, yesterday I found she had sent an old flame a nude (that I took btw) and it bothered me. She then said to the guy "Im so embarrered I wasn't supposed to send that to you it was on accident" which is total BS you don't accidently send somoene a nude. She's playing games with this guy who grew up in her hometown and is a married man. This guy tried to get my girl out on a date when he was in town recently too. Even though he lives in another state, It crossed my boundary I had set up. When I found her on facebook and tinder I set down the law and she can't entertain other courters. So I calmly left her place to play dread game.
Well I got a text from her Mom this morning saying:
"She had someone try to break into her apartment last night, will you tell her if it was you before she files a police report?"
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She had told me the exact story recently, that someone had tried her door handle first, and then knocked softly one night. She does kinda live in the hood but I'm not sure I fully believe her... I think she's just trying to get me to respond. Any thoughts...? Would you respond to this behavior.
Would you respond to her Mom to let her know it wasn't me?
stripethrowaway 5y ago
I'm sorry, you spelled "Ex-Girlfriend" wrong.
Drop her and say it wasn't you. No need to explain any further.
Block her and her mom.
FixYourselfFirst 5y ago
See other women, get some abundance. Keep her plated if you want. But she is not GF material.
Estrogenoxygen 5y ago
Thanks for the response, I agree more abundance. How would you respond to her mom's questions?
FixYourselfFirst 5y ago
I don't see the issue. Just say "wasn't me".
Estrogenoxygen 5y ago
Text her mom or to her? I was planning on keeping girlfriend blocked for the weekend. I'm trying an anchor a negative feeling to her crossing my boundary.
FixYourselfFirst 5y ago
Then keep her blocked and text the mom. Or don't reply at all. Don't overthink something so simple.
brooklynbooked 5y ago
Buddy you should have hard nexted after finding her on tinder the first time. Anyway, this relationship is over (it should have never began in the first place).
The_DailyDrive 5y ago
More red flags here than a communist parade. This risk vs reward in this scenario is not worth it even if she's a HB9.
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Do you really need us to tell you to respect yourself more than this and cut it off with her?
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tikitheman 5y ago
Your only option that is not hard next is to start openly dating other women. Demote her to plate and stop giving a shit about her.
She broke all your shitty week boundaries many times. I would fuck her mom.
archaic-guy 5y ago
I donĀ“t know why people in this sub have so many toxic relationships
iintrOOutroo 5y ago
You are still not thinking of nexting her. Still playing the dread game? In hopes she would reform?