Hey guys,
I have an LTR of 2 years. Recently, I have noticed that she likes every single picture that this guy posts, regardless of what it is. It's not just selfies, but also stupid motivational posts too. She likes every single one.
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This guy was her date for prom, however she was a virgin when I met her and supposedly they didn't do anything together. She told me that they were friends and he didn't really like her, but took her to prom anyway due to peer pressure. As well, he does not like any of her posts in return. Not a single one. I find this quite odd that he does not like any in return. I have also checked other guys that she follows, and she likes maybe 30% of their posts, as opposed to 100% with this guy.
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My question is, what do I do? Is this a red flag? I do not want to come off as insecure by bringing it up and this would clearly be really pointless too, so what can I realistically do in this situation? Is this disrespectful enough to break up over? Advice is greatly appreciated.
Ramo029 5y ago
Seems like you’ve done a lot of research on this. You should probably be spending this time on more useful things than being in her frame.
_the_shape_ 5y ago
OP, re-read the above comment.
I've been in your shoes before. Many of us have. You've probably lost a sleep over this. Difficulty concentrating at work, and why not? You're wracking your mind, trying to gather more information, considering possibilities, plotting your next move. Exhausting shit - can we agree?
Replace the questions you used to close your post with questions like: "why do I care so much about losing this one?" "Do I truly believe I'll be fine if we split apart?" "Is not just pussy, but this specific pussy so precious and necessary to my day-to-day existence that I'd allow my mental and/or physical health to be compromised for the sake of it?" "How easy (or hard?) would it be to replace this one with another just as, if not more hot than my current LTR?"
Thizzlebot 5y ago
Better yet get rid of all that bullshit social media and not worry about it. I seriously think I'd still be with my ex if it wasnt for all the relationship destroying problems social media caused.
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Thizzlebot 5y ago
Yah but it still caught her attention. Honestly if any woman uses social media she's immediately down graded
walawalawa 5y ago
This is the Red Pill board so be prepared for what I'm going to say. 2 year LTR?
You're over-invested. You have no other options and she's exploring hers because---hypergamy.
You can't change her behavior until you change yours. You need to start instilling dread. Disappear for a while. Start flirting with other girls. Start to distance yourself and be prepared to lose her.
Do NOT confront her about this. She WANTS to get caught otherwise she wouldn't be doing this so publicly and blatantly but with plausible deniability: "What!?? He's a friend. The pictures are cool...why are you so insecure?!!!""
I used to be in this same position. Now that I have 3-4 plates at any given time I can say and do whatever and the tone of my words and actions is clearly one of confidence and abundance. So with one of my plates who enjoys sexting, I can engage her more. Then disappear when I'm busy because.... frankly I enjoy the interaction but don't really care if she leaves.
A girl I banged did this exact thing in front of me at a party. We went out and she blatantly started hitting on a guy who was so beta and embarrassed he nervously approached me for some sort of validation. I just shrugged. I took her back to her hotel and banged her. I later sent her a follow up text: "Great night. PS: don't fall in love with me..."
When you get to that point you won't need to be posting here for advice, you'll be giving it.
10211799107 5y ago
This. Nothing more needs to be said.
Incaahhh 5y ago
Curious, how do you meet a plate who lives in a hotel?
walawalawa 5y ago
She was visiting. You don't get out much do you?
Incaahhh 5y ago
No need to get defensive lol
stylesm11 5y ago
Holy shit great analysis
WeddingCrasher91 5y ago
Let's say you've invested for a long time in an ltr with a girl who seemed at first an almost perfect ltr material. Then suddenly she pulls that shit above like op's. What's supposed to be done? Dreading means that i will need to continue the routine of investing time and money into the relationship and thus risking wasting all that. Shouldn't i just tell her that i won't invest in a relationship with someone who's not showing enough commitment and who pulls disrespectful shitt like that? If she agrees and cuts it i would observe her later behavior and actions. But, if she called me insecure and continued it then I would drop her in a heartbeat. Thoughts?
walawalawa 5y ago
First mistake. Blue Pill thinking. Red Pill thinking is "Here's a girl who seems cool, I'll see if she lives up to my expectations, meanwhile I'll bang other girls because All Women Are Like That".
**Shouldn't i just tell her that i won't invest in a relationship with someone who's not showing enough commitment and who pulls disrespectful shitt like that?**
From a Red Pill perspective you shouldn't have to **TELL** her anything. She should already get it because you've gamed her properly, qualified her and she's chasing you. If you have to tell her, she'll just deny it and call you weak, jealous, insecure---all the things she's **ALREADY** thinking otherwise she wouldn't be online flirting with some other guy.
**If she agrees and cuts it i would observe her later behavior and actions. **
Again, flawed Blue Pill thinking. This is logical. Girls don't think or act logically it's all based on emotion and "the feelz". This is where guys get it wrong and over invest in comfort forgetting to sexualize and keep gaming her. No this would back fire.
Best move in this situation: disappear for a few days. Soft next. No words, no sulking nothing...just go. When she asks what's up just say "Busy, work". That will instill dread and revive the dead sense of dread that prompts girls to act emotionally and chase. When you do return act as if nothing was wrong. If she's still doing this....dump her. "It's not working out."
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WeddingCrasher91 5y ago
Thanks mate. This happened in my previous LTR. I'll keep what you said in mind if iam in another one in the future
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"Is this a red flag" lol bro she wants to fuck him obviously, if she hasn't already. Run dread game if you don't want to dump her- get a plate or something
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
You’re in a bad spot. My girl would never pull some disrespectful shit like that because she knows she’d be gone the next day.
You’re more than likely fucking up in some aspect of the relationship. Don’t say shit about it it’s not even worth being insecure about. Who gives a fuck it’s just one girl, focus on yourself and who you need to be.
Read “The Book of Pook” just google it. This is the best advice you’re gonna get. Read that shit.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
She likes this guy and wants him to like her back. If he makes a move on her, it's an easy score. Stay in the relationship, but don't take this girl seriously. You're both young, your hormones are still getting used to being fired up. Honestly, you shouldn't even be in a relationship at your age. But you're already in one.
Don't confront her about anything. Keep improving yourself, lift, read books about topics that interest you, lift, generate money by having a job or a marketable skill, lift, have productive and fun hobbies, lift, focus on your education, lift, and most of all, do NOT take this girl seriously. She WILL leave or stray at some point in the near future. Don't commit your mind too much to her. Be ready to bail at any point. No matter what she says, no matter what she does, do NOT take your this relationship seriously.
Good luck
AwkwardEmpath 5y ago
She's holding her hand out ready to swing to a different branch as soon as she can reach it. Don't take it personally, meditate and reflect on the relationship and move on.
chazthundergut 5y ago
Get some side pussy going. I promise you it will be the best thing for your happiness and your relationship.
This guy is most likely dicking your girl down on the side.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
I'm thinking that he's fucking her, or has fucked her.
Bruchibre 5y ago
I agree with the first paragraph, not with the second one.
axeldesign 5y ago
We don't know how y'all met each : (ex:if you was the one doing the all the chasing) Making an argument with your girl because she is liking another man picture is the pettiest thing a man could do and it makes you look bad as a man ; you're supposed to be on your purpose not on some drama shit
If you confront her about that here's what it will show to her:
It shows that you're not confident in yrself and your ability to provide for her and also that you know you're not the best option for her: cuz if you knew you was the best option for her you would'nt even bother to check what she likes or not
stylesm11 5y ago
Short answer is ignore & not give a fuck, unless dates or time with her becomes less fulfilling, then drop her like a hot potato
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boy_named_su 5y ago
what the fuck. He's in an LTR
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
Morals aside that would be the easiest way to get abundant in OPs position.
Personally I would never be in OPs position but if his girl is tryna get some other guys dick why tf does it matter if he does the same.
RPLawyer 5y ago
Maybe that's the problem: he's in an LTR with a girl who doesn't want to be in an LTR with him.
My LTR doesn't like other guy's posts on Facebook. In fact, she doesn't do anything that would suggest she would rather be on another guy's dick. Why can't OP get something like that?
DrizzlyShrimp36 5y ago
You’re seriously assuming she doesn’t want to be in an LTR with him over likes on Instagram? Fucking ridiculous. Likes on Instagram are mundane as fuck.
RPLawyer 5y ago
Maybe one like is mundane. Even ten likes might be. But liking every single one of a particular guy's pictures and posts? That's not something girls who want to stay in an exclusive committed relationship do.
I'm not saying OP should complain or whine. But if he isn't cool with that, he should tell his girlfriend that it's not working out and find an LTR that won't do that.
jinbe12 5y ago
You're forgetting it's a woman.
boy_named_su 5y ago
Sure, he can break up with her. But having "abundance" in an LTR doesn't make sense. Plating another girl is just cheating
Update: he should either break up with her or dread her. Abundance via abundance mentality, but not cheating
RPLawyer 5y ago
It's called abundance mentality, because it's just that: a mentality. You don't have to actually cheat on your LTR, you just need to know that you could at a moment's notice if she ever stepped out of line. And that's precisely why she doesn't step out of line because she knows too.
Be attractive, don't be unattractive.
SilkTouchm 5y ago
Having abundance doesn't mean cheating. Having abundance gives you the ability to easily walk away, and in turn it gives you power.
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
You don’t have to plate for abundance. I have abundance simply from knowing my worth. I know I’m the man, people either want to be me or fuck me. If I’m fucking some bitch on the side that doesn’t make me abundant it makes me an asshole.
boy_named_su 5y ago
He literally said "You need to go get a new girl to sleep with"
DrizzlyShrimp36 5y ago
The people in this fucking thread I swear...
Man, chill. Plenty of girls like other dude’s stuff on Instagram without wanting to fuck them. For most people, liking is a reflex more than anything. It’s so easy on instagram too, not like you have to carefully press a button, is just a quick double tap. Is she doing the same for other guys and other girls or is it just this guy in particular? The fact that she was his prom date does indicate that she likes him as a person, but that’s fine. Your girl is allowed to think highly of other dudes.
I would say keep it to yourself. You’re just going to look weak and needy if you tell her this worries you. They’re likes on Instagram, she’s not touching herself to his pictures. It’s most likely fine. Don’t risk your relationship and your frame over something so mundane.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
Apparently, not for her. OP said that most other dudes get 30%, while he gets 100%. Reflexes do not work that way.
positiveredpill 5y ago
Every single one of his pics though? That's quite a red flag homie. I know what I would be thinking if a girl liked EVERY ONE of my pics.
DrizzlyShrimp36 5y ago
Meh. Instagram’s algorithm is made so that you don’t miss the posts of people you engage the most with in terms of likes and comments.
If they were prom dates at some point before the LTR with OP, it’s very likely that she liked all his pictures, and then Instagram picked up on that and showed more of his stuff in her feed, resulting in her seeing more of his stuff, resulting in her liking it because it’s there and not because she’s looking for it (going on his profile to like his pics).
I really don’t think it’s a big deal. I know plenty of girls who like all my shit and have boyfriends and are not actively trying to fuck me. It’s fine.
wheresMYsteakAt 5y ago
That's because you're "safe guy". The guy OP is describing doesn't like any pictures back and dated her out of pitty/pressure in the past. Safe guy gets an autolike on every picture he posts, just like all of her friends.
DrizzlyShrimp36 5y ago
I don’t mean to boast, but no, I am not a “safe guy”. Girls I’ve been with have cheated on their boyfriends on multiple occasions to fuck me (I only learned they were in a relationship afterwards though). Girls who know I exist and are clearly attracted to me and yet who don’t even follow me on Instagram. I get where you’re coming from, I really do, but I feel like they are way too many different ways girls and people in general manage their presence on Instagram to establish a clear rule, and I think assuming OP’s girl is willing to cheat on OP because of likes is alarmist and weak.
mushroom_overlord 5y ago
It's a... flag, idk. Most girls have guys they think about sometimes, and it's not exactly a huge investment to line a bunch of Instagram posts. He was probably "sweet" and she might want one of a few things, one of which could be to "reconnect" platonically and another could be his dick in her mouth. No way to tell, instead of overthinking it do some dread game yourself instead. And not on social media.
RedHoodhandles 5y ago
Sucks that she is so obviously dreaming of being dicked down by this guy. This is just setting up the stage for branch swinging.
I hope you are doing what is always advised here. Improving and having one foot out the door in the LTR.
And yes if you want to speed up the process of the branch swing, then confront her with it like the weak as beta pussy that you have let yourself become.
jakethesnake5000 5y ago
You need a side chick ASAP dude. And why are you on Instagram? Are you an attention whore or something?
TheReformist94 5y ago
CUCKED