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fashfront 5y ago
Yes it sort of is
Aesthetic_God__ 5y ago
OP is being edgelordy. He sticked to his guns and came off as too hard and tough to her, didn't set comfort when it was the time so she thought he would be totally careless. To me it seems like the girl is really shattered by what happened and it's visible but she doesn't try to engage OP with her problems caused by him because he was too imbalanced in his game.
Look at his post, I mean the way this guy tells us the story seems like he's already emotionally invested to the girl, has been expecting her to ask for commitment, is close to having oneitis by fucking only her for the past three months sweet Lord and yet here he is pretending he's tough and he doesn't care the slightest. Yeah blah
OP you really need to review and reflect on your shit inside of you and consider what the fuck it is you want, ASKTRP is a sub meant for questions not storytelling. You can go field report directly to TheRedPill.
nicholson- 5y ago
Exactly my thoughts, which is why I take what I read on this sub with a grain of salt each time.
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Aesthetic_God__ 5y ago
Plus this.
Plimden 5y ago
I think that the OP cares more than he's admitting about this girl, and is underestimating how he'll feel when he decides it's time to 'game new chicks'.
Regardless, from what I understand, he's missed the 'end goal of the red pill'. There is no end goal, it's about changing mentality to maintaining indifference so situations like this don't arise. If you don't care, genuinely, there is no reddit post. He would have already have moved on.
kellykebab 5y ago
Yeah, it sounds like he actually likes her. That's the depressing part, at least in my view. Instead of both these parties putting on a front of disinterest, when they have clearly become somewhat emotionally invested, they could just be more open about things and actually work through this issue together the way many successful long term couples do.
I don't understand how after hanging out for a full year, a guy saying, "Hey, you seem kind of down lately. Everything going okay?" completely flies in the face of Red Pill practice. That seems totally normal and honestly kind of the bare minimum of concern between people who spend a lot of time together.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Lol u raise a seriously good point.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
No he doesn't. Sounds like faggy BP gibberish. She's so pissed she's dumping him. He should communicate his concerns about being dumped?
EDIT: I should say that maybe she's dumping him for another dude, and is using her failure as an excuse to blame him for her playing the whore.
Andorli 5y ago
You dense motherfucker.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
Awww...
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
I think youre irrational and severely delusional. To say that this guy is at no faults here is ridiculous. Its one thig to be RP and blah blah blah frame. Its another to be a real person with a conscience. One year of hanging out, she is invested in him, OP wants her to ask him to be her bf, and yet he still cant show some basic human emotions? Thats sociopathic and dangerous.
InformalCriticism 5y ago
It's not any more dangerous than female nature. Let's not forget what got us to this point. Just because it's uncomfortable to witness does not make it irrational.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
You are mischaracterizing everything that was written. Stop it.
Metalgear222 5y ago
Where is the emotional neglect, you're talking about an issue that has nothing to do regarding the relationship between OP and the FWB. It's career based. She doesn't need him to console her. She will bounce back soon. It's not on him to provide emotional support for things like this. Using the word neglect is like if he fucked her and instantly kicked her out without warning when she normally stays. That would be emotional neglect.
kellykebab 5y ago
Both parties failed to talk about an issue that is now clearly causing a riff in their relationship. The FWB should have brought this up earlier if it really bothered her and OP should have realized something was up.
I do not personally believe that most people can remain emotionally distant while having sex and hanging out for a year or more. I think in many cases an affection and desire for emotional bonding will increase with time among both people.
Now, if you aren't into that, you're going to have to cut it off when that happens. But you sure won't get anywhere by pretending this need is not developing. And it seems like OP has reached that point.
InformalCriticism 5y ago
The alternative is just so much worse (for men).
kellykebab 5y ago
"Hey babe, you seem kind of quiet and out of it lately. Everything okay?"
Is that really that difficult?
InformalCriticism 5y ago
No, I don't think I'm being clear. It is incredibly simple to get those emotional tampons into her, but as creatures of habit, they then associate you with their period through classical conditioning, and hypergamy spirits them elsewhere for dick. Being their emotional confidant is not difficult, it's ill advised for your purposes, should they be singular.
So this guy caught feelings. We are now supposed to steer him down a path of supplication?
Look, women can and do get their feelings validated every day as the most protected animal on the planet, the last thing they need from their stag is pillow talk without the bed. Let them struggle and grow emotionally and intellectually as we have, and maybe they'll come out the other side with a personality.
kellykebab 5y ago
I agree if you're talking about straight-up plates or hookups. If you've been together for a year and seem fairly interested in one another, gradually opening up the emotional communication channels seems natural and not necessarily self-destructive. Even TRP seems to acknowledge that a successful LTR will require practicing some Beta traits.
I mean, how long is it realistic than you can spin a plate that remains just a plate?
InformalCriticism 5y ago
A year is just not a lot of time for a guy. Our sexual prime is at least double a woman's. Bending over is just not something men are designed to do.
Look, just because beta traits help your LTRs doesn't make them the go-to option for a guy with early onset oneitis.
It takes way less time than a year to fall in love with someone. If he needs help after this long, he's not emotionally mature enough for an LTR, and it would be a waste of everyone's time to try to get him into one.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
WTF are you on about??? The chick is blaming the OP. Perhaps rightly, perhaps wrongly...but, she is CLEARLY pissed at him. Probably thinking of dumping him. OP hasn't quite figured that part out. Chick dumping guy, guy doesn't pedestalize dumper. What, yo u want them to 'communicate'? All the communication is already taking place.
Garathon 5y ago
Seems like she has cause for blaming OP as he's directly responsible for this fuck up though. It's a very valid reason for being pissed actually.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
Well, at first glance, yes. But, as another person pointed out, it wasn't her that was going online looking for dick pics, or whatever. Somebody sent them to her. Unsolicited. OK, ill advised, and careless. Any competent boss would/should know that she has no control of what comes in on her phone/communication line. For all boss knows, it was a wrong number (which we can see, it clearly WAS, lol). So, perhaps boss used this as an excuse to give the job to one of his pets.
As an initial shock, her being angry is understandable, although misguided. But, after reflection, she should (maybe already does?) see that it was a dumbass/evil boss that fucked her, or else, her weak performance that made her lose the promotion. Then, she should have calmed down. Now, her continuing with her anger looks like she has another weenie in the background, or, her head ain't right.
Garathon 5y ago
Still OP should take responsibility for his fuck up, because that's what a man does. Own your mistakes.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
I think that he realizes that he was a fuckup. It was in the title, after all.
aircavscout 5y ago
Knowing you fucked up, admitting you fucked up, and taking responsibility for your fuckup are different things that may or may not overlap in any given situation.
Vaca_Sagrada 5y ago
This 'I kept frame' bullshit is getting way out of hand.
You made a mistake you apologise for the mistake. There is no way around that.
Frame is the general rules within which your interactions take place, how exactly did you kept frame by refraining from apologizing?
babybopp 5y ago
I have told this story before my dad told me, pour an entire tank full of water on a cement block and nothing will happen, raise it above the block and pit a small hole to let it drip down one drop at a time, by the time the tank is empty, a small hole will have developed. Op this girl reminds me of my ex wife. They play the long con so as to say.
They are good at hiding their BPDs and cracks. You are the cement block and they know that going batshit once will have you running for the hills. So the bullshit is introduced a drop at a time. Truth is she probably already got the promotion but has weaponized it to put you at her feet. TRP should kick in by default by now to recognize manipulation. You are being manipulated. You dropped all tour plates for this one girl and she is that good enough to make you think it was your decision.
My ex wife was the perfect wife for 18 months before the crazy leaked out. She cooked cleaned and fucked good .and by the way, i hope you have repaid her that money. If i was you, it would have been repaid by now. You dont seem to realize it but you have dug yourself deep in this one. She has you by the balls enough to fuck you over and now she doesnt need to adjust her behavior around you. You say your other plates broke, she made you break them without even having to say it to you directly. You already are breaking frame and leaking blue pill. You have developed a onenitis for her and you dont seem to realize it. Guaranteed your next train stop is "No Sex Station"
furoshus 5y ago
Yes.
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lol thats not the reason, also why does she deserve it? cus shes a pretty wahmen? how do you know someone else didnt work harder? I doubt something thats not her fault was the cause of her not getting the promotion. It is just what shes blaming it on cus she failed, typical woman response.
RandomTRPan0n 5y ago
Difference between comfort test and shit test.
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WoodWizzy87 5y ago
She wanted you to show some sort of emotion. Keeping frame doesn’t mean be emotionless, it means own your shit. You sent her a link and it fucked her over, and the first thing she replies is she can’t turn to you for support. Stoic men with good frame will let a woman open up, you pat them on the head, say there there sexy girl, and they feel comforted.
In this case she doesn’t see you anymore than a FWB, I doubt there will be more.
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friendandadvisor 5y ago
No, this makes you sound like some kind of fag. Just don't call her until she calls you. If she asks why you haven't contacted her, just say "I thought you were mad at me, and I was staying out of harm's way". I think that you are right, tho. I wouldn't be surprised if she's trying to dump you, and her job stuff is just an excuse. Go NC, and just see what develops.
WoodWizzy87 5y ago
Just ghost man. Just leave on good terms, tell her you wish her the best.
Black_m0ngoose 5y ago
This is just her hamster shifting responsibility for her lost promotion. Money talks, bullshit walks. If she was an undeniably good fit for the position, they wouldn't pass her up over a stupid spam text received from a random number.
She was never going to get that promotion, they were dangling it in front of her like a carrot so she would work harder. Now with the realization that she wasn't getting it, she's dumping the emotional baggage on you to see if you break frame.
And you're falling for it, hook line and sinker.
You are not responsible for anyone's life but your own. That's what TRP preaches and that's what you should always remember.
Remember this, rules and policy only apply to those who don't know their own value. If you're a undeniably valuable employee who knows his worth, nobody will stand in your way to make the company more money. They will literally beg you to take promotions to get you more invested in the company and have you stay.
She wasn't a very valuable employee. She was a useful idiot who made them lots of money in her current position. Why would they pay her more for extra work you've already outlined that she's essentially done for free?
Follow the money. It doesn't make business sense to promote her, so they didn't.
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friendandadvisor 5y ago
Yeah, I can't see any job blaming an employee for what she received, unsolicited, unless they were looking for an excuse.
DropDeadTyrant 5y ago
additionally, she received the text. she didn't send it. why would a company, knowing how female workers are treated, blame her for "receiving" the text unless she was stupid enough to explain who it was from? I agree with this guy. It sounds like she's ass and needs an emotional sponge. It sounds like, instead of looking at what she's doing wrong and improving, she'd rather blame other people for her failures.
Kommanderdude 5y ago
This was my thought exactly.
beginner_ 5y ago
Exactly what i wanted to comment. Fully agree. No way such a message would cause this.
Wrath_of_Trump 5y ago
I don't understand how a NSFW clip effects a KPI. What fucking KPI is that? She probably was in competition and just wasn't selected and instead of being impersonal about it, she thinks there's a personal grudge with her boss or whatever.
Or she has a history of sending NSFW stuff that this guy isn't getting, implying side dick.
Time_Animal_ 5y ago
Yes, I've also worked for a Fortune 100 for the last few months and...what are they even talking about? Management is too busy with important things, or at least necessary things, to worry about NSFW texts, and they're too hungry for people that are competent to toss not promote someone based off something so stupid.
saltyafrican 5y ago
Exactly. She could've also simply said it was a wrong number...
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voxiqs 5y ago
I would probably leave her alone and find other plates, plenty of other woman’s lives for you to fuckup
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ReformSociety 5y ago
You're in denial. Why are you disagreeing with toothdude?
Maybe you need the main point repeated a few more times: one NSFW text does not make or break someone's career.
There must have been other underlying issues that have not been mentioned.
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fashfront 5y ago
If she's really just a plate or a FWB it really shouldn't matter if she's talking to someone else
ReformSociety 5y ago
Let me stop you right there...
friendandadvisor 5y ago
She's quiet because she's burning mad at you. Just let it ride, and have an exit plan. BUT, that doesn't mean that she's not shopping for your replacement. She could also have someone else.
bonerpotpie 5y ago
You took a $5,000 loan from a “plate” that in actuality has been your girlfriend for the past several months.
You dumb fuck.
RPLawyer 5y ago
My guess is that this is actually one of these rare situation in which is ok to apologise to a woman because you actually fucked up.
opper-hombre1 5y ago
Sounds like you want her in a ltr. Men go after what they want. A TRP Ltr is mixing alpha/beta traits together
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You shouldn’t hard next her because you fucked up. I think you are afraid that she will dump you and you want to dump her first. Well prepare for it then but if you want to continue fuck her just don’t contact until she does and you will notice what’s on her mind. And if she dumps you just don’t show that you care so much, win win
4SkinFred 5y ago
You're an idiot. There's nothing wrong with apologizing.
clausternn 5y ago
Well, there is something wrong with apologizing.
But I agree, in this case the fuckup was big enough that it definitely warrants an apology.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Then she's your girlfriend.
That's kind of shitty on their part. Not her fault you are a stupid douche.
You have her well trained. That's what her orbiters are for.
Why? If you want to keep fucking her, keep fucking her.
flapjacksrbetter 5y ago
My man got no soul lol. Comforting her doesnt mean u break “frame.” At least be a decent human being
kiarazeida 5y ago
Yeah ghost her, you don’t deserve her anyway.
dark_rabbit 5y ago
You were looking forward to an LTR with her but you’re going to hard next to avoid coming into her frame?
Dude have an open convo, talk it out. TRP doesn’t suggest to avoid your problems if you’re the one that fucked up. Be a man, own it and the impact it had, and speak your mind.
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If you think TRP is twisted then get the fuck out you weirdo
friendandadvisor 5y ago
This sounds like a female post. Are you female?
It ISN'T 'The underbelly of TRP' and you are full of shit. It is the OP not understanding much at all.
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friendandadvisor 5y ago
IIRC, people like YOU, that are such cunts that they invoke 'TRP's reputation' are called 'concern trolls'.
We need MEN, not puke spewing punk ass bitches. Start becoming the former, and stop being the latter.
voxiqs 5y ago
Op is a chick who takes no responsibility
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Definitely a (should be banned) female there.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
A lot people here seem to be lecturing OP on being a dick, not on what he did wrong, and hasn't offered any support and/or advice. He needs help, not carping.
We can help him and each other by offering sound advice at the same time we are calling him a shithead.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
No kumbaya handholding here.
LeDolceVita 5y ago
Kept frame? You couldn't just say sorry? She probably thinks you're a psychopath
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So?