Like do you ever suddenly feel like you’ve been hit by a ton of bricks about how beta you’ve become?!
So I’ve been seeing this girl for 4 months. She has a high sex drive and the sex has been great, like seriously.
However, recently I’ve been quite stressed out at work (excuses I know) which has totally distracted me, slowly outside of work I’ve realised that I’ve started slipping into my old beta ways.
For example today, I invited the girl above for some mid week drinks presuming she would stop at mine after, like she has a few times. However, when she shows up she doesn’t have her over night bag she always has and when I lightly quizzed her on this, she basically said I didn’t say she was stopping over and she presumed I didn’t want her to, as she knows how busy I’ve been at work. I should mention she is extremely submissive and wouldn’t make a proactive move I.e she expects me to lead which is fair enough and what I like.
I’ve realised I’ve slipped up here and need to make my intentions 100% clear with her constantly.
I sort of laughed it off at the time and said I’ll be more clear next time, but I ultimately I want to reassert the lead position. How do I approach this?
Do I bring it up again apologetically, try and laugh the mis-communication/ lack of leading off or just leave it? She seemed very disappointed when I mentioned she could have stopped over, and said she would have liked to.
Iam_Hydra 5y ago
Ha, Gay
GhostYourself4IDo 5y ago
Buy a journal.
Start writing down everything you’re thinking starting now.
[deleted] 5y ago
I've always thought about doing this.
What are the benefits?
Apple_OfThe_Earth 5y ago
Hey there! I started doing this a while ago, and stopped, I keep doing it on and off. One of the things that I noticed is that when I write down the events that happened during the day, I first started to realize which ones where important and not typical day to day event because they were worth writing down, Second I started to realize which days were wasted when I had nothing to write, Third for some reason it clears your head, I had better clearer sleep when I did so, so yes I suggest that you do that. I went for an extra step and got myself an instant camera, to add pictures to events that feel like they need a picture with them.