Women want to get fucked by the hawtest guys in their prime and settle with a man that exhibits Beta behaviours (meets her need for comfort) when they settle. This is the general rule and not to say that every woman marries a straight up AFC BB at 28 after fucking having ridden he CC.
A woman who fucks men sexually attractive out of genuine desire in her prime and settles with a BB, will never, ever be as attracted to the BB as she was to the AFs. In the typical case, she starts yearning for the exciting fuckboi again after a few years and a few babies into her new life at which point she cheats and/or divorce rapes the BB.
If a man had equal access to sex as the average woman, would he behave any differently and would his two-sided lifestyle have an equivalent effect on him as it does on a woman?
Would a man like that not engage in casual, non-committed sex with multiple super models (AF) in his prime and in the case of wanting to have children, make parents happy, fulfill his BP dream or whatever the case may be, settle with a cute virgin (BB)?
What is the difference? Is it that even though he, comparatively to the woman, will not be as aroused by the cute virgin bride as he was by the curvy insta models he fucked in his 20's, will still cherish his "BB" virgin more than a woman would her BB loser? If so, is it because he can still be attracted regardless of her innocence, unlike a woman who is not aroused by a nice guy? Is it because he has hardwired loyalty, unlike women? What is the difference really? It makes sense that a woman is repulsed by a submissive BB as compared to the dominant AF that pumped n dumped her. But is the same concept not applicable here and if not, why? Surely he will think back on the threeway with the two pinups he had in the jacuzzi while laying next to his cute virgin bride.
...or is it that a woman with a BB husband, while she gets fed and clothed, never really feels protected and dominated by the BB and can therefore never be truly happy while the equivalent man is happy to dominate and protect his virgin bride and also fuck her? Is he more fulfilled automatically? Is it a combination of everything or something entirely different?
TL;DR:
I'm wondering how a man's love differs from a woman's love in similar circumstances: an ultra hawt Chad who fucks hundreds of super models since 14 and marries a cuddlesome virgin at 28 VS. a woman who gets fucked by Chads in her prime and marries a BB at 28.
The woman will never "love" the BB in the same way as she did the Chads of her youth. She will never be as drawn to him sexually, probably not at all.
I'm asking how much different it is for the male counterpart? Won't he also dream about the good ol' days of fucking Chadettes and therefore tend to stray from his cute bride? Men evolved to be loyal whereas women did not. Is it that idealized love that keeps him married to his wife while he indeed has the desire to fuck girls hotter and more exciting than his wife? Is that the difference?
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
Men and women are different. Don't try to flip the script written millennium ago by nature itself. Man's and woman's love is also different. I'd even say that only men can truly love as it is ingrained in our culture, media, society.. women just follow but in their own hypergamous way.
So do not try to think what if, because the world is what it is, there are no what ifs, no equality or fairness. Embrace reality and enjoy it as much as you can.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
I am. That's why I'm asking for a rational explanation of the workings of this phenomenon. You know, like HOW are they different? And I don't mean "how are they really different outside of your deluded, misogynistic broscience framework?!?!", but on as deep a basis as possible, preferably on a biological one.
How'd you figure I denied that men and women are different?
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
Well, look into evolutionary psychology for starters. It's all there just in more scientific language. But most of the stuff that TRP espouse are very close to being scientific fact.
P.S.
Misogyny is hatred, prejudice against females. Having an opinion based on facts and observation is not misogyny. Just that anything that says "women are not wonderful" in our society is instantly labeled as misogyny.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
I have looked into it. I've lurked for months and months and consider myself RPd. I have no problem with accepting reality. The only way I would not be RPd would be if I lacked sufficient knowledge to be considered one, not because of my attitude, and AFAIK, there's no RP graduation, so no one can say whether I'm RPd or not.
My question was simply this:
I'm wondering how a man's love differs from a woman's love in similar circumstances: an ultra hawt Chad who fucks hundreds of super models since 14 and marries a cuddlesome virgin at 28 VS. a woman who gets fucked by Chads in her prime and marries a BB at 28.
The woman will never "love" the BB in the same way as she did the Chads of her youth. She will never be as drawn to him sexually, probably not at all.
I'm asking how much different it is for the male counterpart? Won't he also dream about the good ol' days of fucking Chadettes and therefore tend to stray from his cute bride? Men evolved to be loyal whereas women did not. Is it that idealized love that keeps him married to his wife while he indeed has the desire to fuck girls hotter and more exciting than his wife? Is that the difference?
I never said it was.
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
So what? There are white knights on /r/relationships and elsewhere who say "hey women do this, maybe, but men also do this too! Checkmate! Double standards!". But they fail to realize the fundamental thing - we may be same species, but our brains, body react to stuff differently.
The point is, that what applies to women doesn't necessarily apply to men. For instance: a woman with high N count is more likely to be damaged individual compared to a man with high N count. Why? Science, evo psych. But in short, because males and females are different.
If you wanna know how different, again, read as much as you can and come to your own conclusions, we are not scientists here. Because most guys here do not care much about "why", they care about "what works to get women into bed" since that's what most important for men who wanna get laid. I know what you mean, but I doubt you will get an actual answer here. It's very very politically incorrect topic to majority of scientists. There are books written on this and I had few titles in mind, just can't remember them for you right now.
I mean, you already know that there is a difference between males and females. And that when a guy cheats on his wife he usually stays with her wife and still loves her. When a wife cheats, the relationship is already over. Generally speaking.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
Absolutely correct.
I know and I want to learn as much as possible, which is why I asked the question.
I know. I should've added that - "Aside from women's pairbonding ability decreasing proportionally to her N-count..."
Always.
No worries. Please tell me if anything comes to mind. I'm always trying to learn.
Thanks! Although I strongly suspected this, I wasn't sure, which is why I asked. Thanks for your reinforcement. I couldn't find anything detailing the issue, that is why I made the post. It seems to be the consensus here though. I came to this conclusion after having gone through several things alluding to that theory, but wanted confirmation.
I could accept any kind of theory if sufficiently tested. As long as it works, it's worth taking for granted until a better one comes along. It doesn't have to be backed by rigorous biological study.
My understanding is that the answer to my question (as I partly proposed in the post) is that men are innately loyal and therefore will "love" her even if he sleeps with other women whereas women are hypergamous and will fall "out of love" with her man as soon as a more valuable one comes along. Women submit to the current Alpha of their environment. The alpha fucks all the women in his environment. She loves him. He loves them all. Another thing I'm thinking is that men genuinely want to protect cute wives and love them. Women who marry BBs after years on the CC never really find anything about him to love in the first place. And also pairbonding, as you said. Just doing my research.
[deleted] 5y ago
No.
The biological basis of AF/BB is a woman's menstrual cycle. There is nothing similar in this for men. Stop trying to live in a fantasy world where men and women are the same.
The more you play this fairy tale bullshit in your head, the less you are dealing with the real world as it actually is.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
You feminized male hamsters draw some dumb conclusions. Is it that or your reading comprehension?
Where did I claim that men and women are the same?
Chosen_1_1162 5y ago
Ideal sexual marketplace for women is unrestrained hypergamy.
Ideal sexual marketplace for men is unrestrained polygamy.
Apples and oranges.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
For sure.
But I'm wondering how a man's love differs from a woman's love in similar circumstances: an ultra hawt Chad who fucks hundreds of super models since 14 and marries a cuddlesome virgin at 28 VS. a woman who gets fucked by Chads in her prime and marries a BB at 28.
The woman will never "love" the BB in the same way as she did the Chads of her youth. She will never be as drawn to him sexually, probably not at all.
I'm asking how much different it is for the male counterpart? Won't he also dream about the good ol' days of fucking Chadettes and therefore tend to stray from his cute bride?