Firstly, never slack off just because you’re in an LTR. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you this, but you come first. Make sure you’re prioritising getting your workouts in.

Secondly, no amount of telling a girl she needs to go to the gym is going to work. The only thing that is going to work is continuing to improve yourself to the point where you’re getting much more interest from other girls.

At that point, your LTR either steps up to the plate and does her best to compete for you, or she checks out of the relationship and you move on to another girl that does get your libido pumping.

Either way, you win, and you don’t have to say a word.

This could be a few things

a.) most chicks don't find lifting to be very enjoyable, just the way it is for them

b.) group fitness tends to be more popular with women, zumba, dance, etc. (my girl does pole, loves it)

The real issue here is that if she is putting the lbs on your SMV is too low. In an LTR dread is crucial to the success as you need to be 1-2 points higher than her in SMV. continue to hit the gym, do you, be awesome, and eventually she will learn she needs to step her game up to keep you around.

In the last 2 years you're been mostly skipping the gym, started again just 4 weeks ago and now you're irritated that your LTR doesn't join you when you tell her to.

If she wasn't a gym goer in the first place this was in the package when you LTR'd her. You can talk to her about how important fitness is for you. Try to schedule something in advance, give a few days heads up. Also diet is at least as important as working out - is that in check?

If she doesn't want to improve her looks there's not much you can do about it.

I marked the wrong one, with that lackluster devotion to keeping herself fit, and ultimately her obesity was one of the contributing factors in my choice to divorce her. Here are my thoughts; have ONE talk with her about the importance of physical upkeep and attraction in your relationship. If she doesn’t want the same things as you, that’s perfectly fine, but let it be a deal killer. Don’t be that beta that comes back here in 8yrs saying “help, my wife keeps eating and doesn’t work out and she’s so fat I don’t want to have sex with her”.
Here’s what happens after you have THE TALK with her. She’ll cry and stomp her feet because she wants you to be so blinded by “what she offers” the relationship, that a little thing like her continued journey to being a whale wont shake you. She’ll give you a few courtesy dates at the gym, just enough to get you off her back. Then she’ll slip into months without mentioning or going to the gym. At that point I’d dump her because she’s never going to change.

Get a new girlfriend instead of trying to change the one you have.

Dread game. Plain and simple

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Never try to change people until they ask for help, it doesn't work, go find someone you're actually attracted to instead of settling for mediocrity

Most people in general don't like going to the gym, stop trying to force her to go to the gym. Does she look unattractive now or something?

Maybe I need to just accept reality.

Questions that answer themselves.

A. Dump her.

B. Run a soft harem of gym bunnies.

Ex-LTR

Since then, I've only dabbled in the gym here and there

well there you go dipshit. give her some time to let it sink in.

or fuck someone else, idc

Again refering to "The way of superior man" women grow through praise. Tell her that you love when a woman cares about her looks/ body, and it turns you on so much. Combine it with some dread like " today some random girl hit on me during my workout, she was cute"or smth like that.

Your greatest power is the ability to walk away.

Don't take her at night at your place,you are not married. Be consistent in the gym,get a super body and or she will do the work to maintain your ltr or you will find a better girl. Go lift,improve,you can only win with the right mindset.