So my ex girlfriend and i were together 4 yrs ago. And we were super close when we were happy. Never have gotten along that well with a human since her. In terms of sex, humor, having a good time it was great. She did some fucked up shit to where i told her fuck her and left her.
However i look back at it after all this time of growth, and she still did some fucked up shit. But i realized how controlling and beta of a bf i was. I wouldnt let her drink smoke or anything cause i didnt trust her. I realize how pathetic i was, i was only 16 and just didnt know.
I havent spoke to her in years. But i kind of want to send her a letter apologizing for all the pressure and clinginess i put on her. But i also feel this would be beta as fuck.
BlueKois 5y ago
Move on kid
SirKolbath 5y ago
Two points.
Yes. That’s fucking cringe-level beta behavior.
Also, asking if something is beta is beta. Make your own decisions and do it for you, not because a group of interweb strangers got fake web points for telling you how to act.
The best apology that you could give is to stay the fuck out of her life and make sure that you don’t do that stupid, mate-guarding bullshit with another woman.
DiscipleBrown 5y ago
Hey these “fake” web points will be worth something some day! In fact I always have employers, potential friends and plates, see my karma score so they can better judge my value!
vandaalen 5y ago
what 4?
SanPedroLover_ 5y ago
That was teenage love, NOBODY knows what the hell they are doing at that age. You dont need to apologize for anything, just move on & forget about it like she has.
vas_mhtro 5y ago
Nah that's super beta, at most hit her up so you can catch up one day
Musicgoon 5y ago
Why don't you read the sidebar again and stop acting like a homo?
CainPrice 5y ago
She hasn't thought of you for about 3 years and 11 months. During that time, she's had sex with 3-6 other guys on the average. Maybe more. She doesn't wonder how you're doing and doesn't think about you at all.
The very second she receives a communication from you, she is going to (correctly) assume that you are making a bid to get back together disguised as an "apology" and is going to be weirded out and pissed off. She will wonder why the fuck, after 4 years, you're still thinking about her and haven't moved on with your life. Why you haven't fucked other women and gone on to better things.
You will scare her and creep her out if you contact her. Stop being stupid.
mallardcove 5y ago
Yes
SalporinRP 5y ago
Why? I highly doubt your actions still haunt her today. You're probably just a distant, faded, memory to her now.
What are you accomplishing by sending her a letter? Just focus on not acting like that again with future women.
TimPartendale 5y ago
If you killed her favorite dog or ruined her life.. yeah maybe an apology would be warranted and appreciated.
In your situation? It’s just seeking attention and will come off as trying to rekindle something that should have had been put to rest four years ago. I would guess she’s moved on by now and you should too.
WoodenToe 5y ago
Extremely. She probably hasn't even thought about you for years.
freew33zy 5y ago
It's beta, yes. You could text her and ask her out to lunch to catch up or something and explain it there, which is less beta. But the way you phrased it is super beta (which admittedly I think is a sham because it'd be nice to be able to tell people nice things sometimes. But yeah in this case being nice is beta)
ppanthero 5y ago
Yes. And cringy as fuck.