It's been one years since I discovered TRP but I feel like I'm the same piece of shit this is killing me guys.
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I work 8hours a day on have low energy in my free time.
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My social circle is the same, maybe even smaller than before.
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Whenever I meet a new girl it always end up like she don't even consider me as sexually functional.
- When I go out I'm the silent guys how is transparent.
Every social interaction is a pain for me. I always do the minimum because I'm shy/lazy/tired
I don't know how to change that aspect of me really I feel like I will be like this forever.
I want to become that guys how always talk / interact with everyone.
Do you guys know anything I could do to fix this ?
DaveyOneBite 5y ago
Take 4 months. Sleep 8+ hours each day and hit the gym heavy. Look back and realize how much better things are.
person8445 5y ago
Sleep properly. Charge your phone somewhere other than your bedroom if you go on it instead of sleeping.
Get good at talking to low value men. Then high value men. Then low value women. Then high value women.
Read how to win friends and influence people.
You get better by practising. A lot. Not reading theory alone. Try saying an extra something to the cashier that you normally wouldnt.
Lifting gives you energy (paradoxically)
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I agree. But it's also about finding decent people. See I had a really busy life too like OP. I joined certain circles (those closest at that point), but my they were a bunch of narcissistic low quality people (both the guys and women). I didn't find them fun at all.
So I found other circles, and finally found some fun engaging people who are more like the awesome bunch of people you read in stories etc. Through them I interacted more at parties with equally decent people. And met women etc.
So it's partly about luck too and don't worry if you are stuck with some clowns/idiots. Don't let them make you lose your faith in people. Just find better circles to mix with. It's not always your fault that the people at your university, workplace etc are just morons.
DaftOdyssey 5y ago
First, make sure you're getting enough sleep, as sleep is one of the most overlooked variables that affect social activities. Then skip your circle, and join a group/club that forces you to be social. Whatever it is, just as long as you're being forced to be social. Before you know it, social interactions will be second nature to you.
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what groups lead to that kind of interaction
abudun79 5y ago
TL;DR I'm still a weirdo, because I ignored TRP for a year. Will it be better if I ignore it another year? Please do the reading and improvement for me.
What did you do in that year since you discovered TRP? Why did you not read the material and follow the well known advice? Or are you a snowflake?
suzy2018 5y ago
“Self-improvement is masturbation. Now, self-destruction…”
You can attempt to “improve” all you want by reading theory and making baby steps with regards to applying principles. None of this will stick until you destroy your current self. I can get deep into philosophies and religion about death and rebirth (metaphorically, for you fundamentalist nut-jobs out there and it will all lead to the same place. TRP isn’t about adding to who you are, it’s about becoming a new version of you. You must
Let go of your old habits, rewire your old thought patterns. Replace both intentionally with the habits and patterns detailed in the sidebar. The past year of “doing research” doesn’t mean anything until you’re ready to actually “swallow the pill” (i.e. accept the fact that who you are has to die in order to make room for who you want to be) and take the plunge. All in or you’ll be right where you are another year, 5 years, 50 years from now.
chaseexcellence 5y ago
I assume you graduated college. Look to join clubs and organizations. maybe a local sport. I hope you live in a big city.
yunhaila 5y ago
Make friends with the most social people you can find. People with connections who act as social catalysts. People who take the initiative to plan get togethers and activities for their friends. These people bring people together from all walks of life.
I met most of my new connections through on very social friend.
WhiteGhosts 5y ago
I am the same
jwarner95 5y ago
For energy, I was in the same spot, in fact worse about a year ago. I could hardly make it through a work day without crashing. Now I can work 16 hours straight without a problem. It's all mindset man, get into the flow of working hard, outline a strict schedule for yourself and your brain will flex out of your shit zone you're in right now. It happens quick too, I went from the state I described to how I am now in 2 months.
For social energy, it comes down to forcing. There's no magic button for this, you have to ignore how you feel and literally force words out of your mouth. You're probably scared of rejection and use silence as a buffer for that, (not just sexual rejection but rejection from peers as well), so you need to say fuck how I feel man and just force words out. If you start off full social retard (which you likely will from being silent for so long) listen to the criticisms you get, don't just shut back down.
Your brain will evdntually socially recalibrate then you can start working on things like approaching and game. Sounds like you got some pre qualifying work to do though man.