Im finding in many of my cold approaches unless the girl instantly hooks, i have a some what boring conversation where i focus on building comfort/deep diving her. Theres little teasing of her, as at this point i dont feel comfortable teasing strangers - though i have no problems doing it with people i know well. I have seen suggestions of guys telling us to say shit like "turn around". "Why?" "Cuz i didn't see your ass when you walked in". I frequently tell girls in a joking manner, when they ask me for notes that ill trade them for nudes or ill tell them to come to papa when they move in to give a hug. Heres my issue though - i mostly daygame and it feels wrong to say sexual shit during the day, it feels like it would be "off", strange, uncalibrated (unless its witha girl i banged or with who i have a sexual vibe), kind of like doing direct approaches - their energy, vibe dont fit the enivronment but they work well in bars.
So my question is: do i say blatant sexual shit to girls during the day or is it just reserved for nightgame so as not to come spergy?
Pluglord 6y ago
Focus more on creating a sexual vibe than blurting sexual jokes. If the vibe isn't there then you definetly shouldn't be trying to talk sexual.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
How do i create a sexual vibe? Bang alot of chicks/get accustomed to female company?
Pluglord 6y ago
Be smooth, talk with a smirk, be cocky/asshole-ish. Pretty much all I can think of.
redaftrp 6y ago
Eye contact, if done right you’ll have them inside their head, they won’t be able to think straight.
inspiredshane 6y ago
You start by feeling it. Then your body starts to send out subconscious non-verbal cues, which she picks up on. Then she starts feeling it and does the same thing. Then, you pay attention and look for that reciprocity. It’s an instinctual, gut level intuition you get that she’s on the same level. But you gotta start by feeling it. I think that’s why a lot of guys report greater success after NoFap. They’re just hornier, so they’re throwing that shit out more often and are surprised to find it gets thrown right back by some pretty attractive women.
ticklethegooch1 6y ago
Maintain a playful attitude. A smirk here and there helps, don't answer questions like in an interview but rather throw something back in a way that the underlying assumption answers her question and opens up a playful conversation as in:
/u/Chaddeus_Rex : "Hello, I am /u/Chaddeus_Rex!"
Her: "Eeeehmmm, hi?"
Underlying assumption: What do you want? Who are you?
/u/Chaddeus_Rex : "I am a scientist doing research on scared behavior in mammals during their first encounter within their species."
Underlying assumption: Don't worry. It is our first encounter. I can see you are scared and uncomfortable, but take this joke to ease things.
Her: "Ehhh, hahah, what?"
Underlying assumption: I still don't understand what is happening right now but I am less uncomfortable, is he making fun of me?
/u/Chaddeus_Rex smirking: "I am joking, I thought it would be fun talking to you."
Her: "Ahhh, hahahah, ok, I am sorry, I am HB."
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If you want to further lead the conversation in the direction you want, just enforce an underlying assumption on her that she didn't signal to you in the first place. The art is it to do it subtly, playful through jokes. If you start out it will feel crude, butchery if it is masked as a prejudice that she might get all day. Don't stop there, your playful attitude will advance and you can become better at it and apply it casually in every conversation to make people smile and at ease. For example:
You are at the cashier in a grocery store. A dude/woman is at the cashier:
Cashier: "This makes $ 9.97, you need any bags?"
/u/Chaddeus_Rex : "No, thank you. Here take my card."
Chashier: " Thank you /u/Chaddeus_Rex. I hope you could find anything that you were looking for?"
/u/Chaddeus_Rex smirks : "Almost, you guys are out of love/sex dolls/no free rooms availble/Taiwanese products "like in the old days".
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
I was talking with a girl recently, i was looking into her eyes and there was strong eye contact between us. At one moment i felt like kissing her. Is that a sexual vibe?
RAiderNat88 6y ago
Stooooooooooooooooop this shit. You're coming off too much like a damn creeper.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
And yet I have girls calling me "daddy" when I see them...
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
So my question is: do i say blatant sexual shit to girls during the day or is it just reserved for nightgame so as not to come spergy?
It’s reserved for night game so you don’t come across as spergy
Day game is a lot more comfort building. The girls don’t have a “WOOO” mindset amplified by drinking and watching all the hot people seduce each other
You can talk a lot longer about nonsense and escalate slower than night game
Read rooshes day bang
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
You should be aiming for “mildly subversive”, use double entendres and amused mastery - the old James Bond films with Sean Connery are a master class in this.
Taco_Truck_Aficionad 6y ago
Daaaaaaaaamn, gurl. You shit wit dat ass?
Terdmuffin 6y ago
Basically you need to find the line of what you can get away with based on your attractiveness. If a hot dude says he'll share his notes for a nude it becomes a sexy/naughty/hot thing to do, if an ugly dude does it he is coercing her into sexual favors. It's the difference between "omg I can't believe hot dude is into me!!!" Vs "omg I can't believe ugly dude thinks he has a chance ".
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
START by teasing strangers. See this as a personal challenge, and do it. Fuck the consequences.
Attract -> comfort with emotional spikes -> seduce.
TRY IT.
Don't speak overt sexual interest, but do learn to flirt.
never be overtly verbally sexual with a girl you've not fucked twice.