Hello r/asktrp
Two weeks ago my former Oneits/ex-gf showed up at my previous place of employment and left a letter, containing her number and a short message stating that she would like to see me again, with my ex-coworker (haven't seen her in 5 years)
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About 7 to 8 months ago i discovered TRP. All the knowledge provided finally gave me the last push to move on. Trust me when i say things were really bad when she broke up with me. I had been in a long and slow downwards spiral long before i met her (we actually met when i was 14 she 13 but we didn't see each other till 6 1/2 years later).
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When i saw her name on the letter my former BP-Self turned around in his coffin. I did not expect to hear from her ever again. I took two days to contemplate and agreed to see her. The meeting is scheduled for this Saturday.
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I have no idea what her intentions are, for all i know she might be dying and wants to bang. She said she needed time alone when she was diagnosed with cervical cancer and ofc i agreed and gave her space. in hindsight thru the red lense i should have been her rock.
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I have the urge to tell her that i am sorry for being such a little bitch back then. That i have grown as a person and a man and when looking back all i can do is shake my head in disbelief (i won't go into more detail but trust me at times i was a super betabitch).
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I came to the conclusion that as long as i go into this with rock solid outcome independence and don't catch any feelings i should be fine. I mean If the deer shoots itself
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I guess my question is: Do i shoot myself in the foot if i show shame and apologize for my behaviour? Any suggestions on how to approach this?
wawakaka 5y ago
first off don't apologize to her for being blue pill that is A TOTAL blue pill move. you did nothing wrong in fact you tried to over do everything right.
she don't know THE RED PILL you do. you owe her nothing. if she wants to meet then meet and see whats up but you are not her care taker. you didn't give her cancer so don't feel so guilty.
you go in to meet and see what she is selling or what she is looking to buy and then you make a decision. she may be looking for support because maybe the other guy dumped her.
ReddJive 5y ago
Don't Root Through The Garbage
Count_Giggles 5y ago
that's the thing. the relationship was based on mutual desire and went down the drain because i was clinically depressed. i am surprised she put up with me as long as she did and now i am even more surprised that the wants to see me.
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as u/wawakaka said: you go in to meet and see what she is selling or what she is looking to buy and then you make a decision.
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may get a good lay out of it. if not - whatever
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