I’ll try to make it short. I’m 28 and my gf is 38. We’ve been together for about 2 years.
She is constantly on her phone and I mean constantly. I will try n text her when we are both working and won’t hear anything for hours. Her hours vary from 8am-2/3pm. Facebook and IG say she’s always active. But when we hang out I see the back of her phone more than her eyes or face.
Am I being wired? Why is she always smiling and hiding her phone? This isn’t a new thing, just tired of it.
Edit: can we put age behind? I put it in there to see if it would help allude to an explanation. Appreciate everyone saying to leave her, but if there is a response related to TRP I’m listening.
NeverLace 5y ago
Abandon ship!
321gumby 5y ago
Yea bail. I'm 33 and my girl is 24. She is almost never looking at her phone when she is with me. I may have gotten lucky because she uses very little social media.
Adach 5y ago
same. heavy social media use is a dealbreaker for me
MisfitPL9 5y ago
Dude.
Firstly - why are you with a 38 year old? Secondly - she is not interested in you if she is always on her phone around you.
Time to NEXT
throwawayycheyeah 5y ago
Bail. Jesus christ bail
jackandjill22 5y ago
Walking disaster.
arousey97 5y ago
Be the one and only batman and Christian BAIL!
bigkids 5y ago
G T F O ????
MeanCaregiver 5y ago
yup don't procrastinate LEAVE RIGHT NOW
babybopp 5y ago
That ten year old difference and being gamed like that. OPs history shows he suspects she is cheating and he is right. A 38 yr old dating a 28 already thinks she is hot stuff and probably wants to see how much younger she can get. She probably raw dogs 18 year olds and knows he is to beta billy to do shit to her. Knows if he even goes there she can just raise a shitstorm to silence him.
stylesm11 5y ago
Why would you ltr someone so much older anyway , leave & find someone who enjoys your company
send_it_for_the_boys 5y ago
Bro of all the ages you choose 10 years older for LTR come on now. Abundance mentality.
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dtyler86 5y ago
I do this with my ltr who is reallllly good about her phone. It’s not that she’s not listening, usually my gf is actually just scrolling through Instagram, not being sneaky about it at all, but it’s just rude to be fidgeting w a phone when someone is addressing you. I just stop talking and go do something as if she wasn’t there, like go into my studio and start messing with music software, etc. she immediately gets the point
wont_tell_i_refuse_ 5y ago
Lmao
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Plate older women, don't date them
QE-Infinity 5y ago
She is cheating on you. Let me guess, you always pay?
dtyler86 5y ago
If a woman isn’t mature enough to not be like that by TWENTY eight, she’s gotta be fucked up and or banging a bunch of dudes at 38...
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Bro u need to leave YESTERDAY
FrankVillain 5y ago
Next.
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babybopp 5y ago
Thats why he is here. He needs to hear it
friendandadvisor 5y ago
He hasn't read the sidebar yet. He's brand new.
I wonder if he even lifts?
Batmanforreal2 5y ago
Dump her right now
z2a1-9 5y ago
Hard next!
nofilmynofucky 5y ago
why are you dating a post wall hag whilst in your prime? Man up and dump the hoe
FrankVillain 5y ago
It's always about fear of rejection.
Savaaage 5y ago
Next her
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
She's more interested in other people than you.
The relationship is over, you're just her security blanket.
Stokestix 5y ago
Why are you even reading TRP?
JonathanMekerset 5y ago
Read the top 100 and sidebar
CharlesChadworth 5y ago
If a girl even puts her phone with the screen facing down she wont progress past being plate. Why? Because this is what I do when I want to hide messages from other plates lol.. you are not weird.
Game more girls and dump this THOT.
So much disrespect she might as well slap you with her tampax till you cant stand...
ChemicalGiraffe 5y ago
Is that your girlfriend or your grandmother?
ishyman 5y ago
My last break up was due to this. You’re not high in her priority. I’d next her or bail
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lol.
madhguru 5y ago
Underrated comment
AstuteBlackMan 5y ago
Tf you saying a 40 year old for?
jekporkins77 5y ago
Why is a 38 year on her phone so much
DadOnDabs 5y ago
Red the first sentence. First problem right there
Kabuki431 5y ago
Shes a box of red flags with a clear label on it. EJECT
dagenought 5y ago
I would start looking for the next girl before I next this one but all the same next
006rbc 5y ago
Let me take a wild guess here, her Instagram is filled with nothing but selfies?
okuli 5y ago
And all comments there are from orbiters.
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sjdfhskdjfh 5y ago
lmao, 38? gross dude
BusterVadge 5y ago
Yup, I'm 44 and I won't date someone that old until I'm in my mid-50s.
Saberinbed 5y ago
How desperate are some mans to date a girl in her late 30s lmao. I’m still 22 and i swear i’ll never date below mid-late 20s when i’m older.
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The thing about being 22 is you say lots of stuff like "Lol bruh I'd never do X", but the world keeps on spinning and there will be lots of things you try, do or dive into later in life you swore you never would early on.
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clausternn 5y ago
Bro, it's definitely about being desperate, are you high? Plate one all you want but dating a woman 10 years older is blue pill as fuck. There's just no future.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
I think that much of TRP is to re-educate men that girls older than their 20s are also boring and shallow, and it is a waste of time to expect more from them, so, girls in their 20s are just fine. I concur with this concept.
Leo, Alec Baldwin, Yassir Arafat, Napoleon, all dated women substantially younger than themselves, and they aren't hurting. (well, the ones alive, that is.)
ArthurTheAstronaut 5y ago
This. I'm 27 and probably wouldn't date a 38 year old. But I'd be a lying bastard if I said I wouldn't plate one. My 22 year old self would be disgusted by that notion.
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friendandadvisor 5y ago
Wow. Was he handsome?
damaged_goods420 5y ago
38? Holy fuck she's so old her Bible is autographed by Jesus dude
rewoomantle 5y ago
This is about your edit. If you are with a woman who values you and your time you will never see her phone. Ive had chicks “excuse me this is super urgent i have to take this” just to use their phones when out on a date and put that back moments later. This is what TRP is about - understand your own self worth
omega_dawg93 5y ago
before criticizing dude abt her age, older women can be great partners as plates. most have had a hysterectomy or don't want kids (birth control) at that age so it's rawdog time. plus by that age, they're done with all the fairy tale bullshit and speak overtly about sex: "are you busy tonight... i want to fuck."
now about the phone... that's a deal breaker (disrespect). unless she's reading driving directions or talking to a sick relative, the phone needs to be put away.
again, if she's a plate, fuck it. get the ass and bail. if she's your girl, you need to get your nuts out of her purse.
wont_tell_i_refuse_ 5y ago
She’s his gf. None of those positives apply.
Morpheus_TNTB 5y ago
TF you hanging out with your mom and bitching about her internet habits. Get out once in a while and enjoy life.
WeakStreamZ 5y ago
lol she a milf tho
wont_tell_i_refuse_ 5y ago
She better be
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babybopp 5y ago
I can bet my left nut she goes for "girls nights out" while op stays home playing vidya...
jackandjill22 5y ago
Yikes.
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friendandadvisor 5y ago
Stop it, he's new! He realizes a problem, but, he's just not clear. He came to the right place, so, maybe he has half a chance...
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jackandjill22 5y ago
Lmao, nice!
-sho-ryu-ken- 5y ago
A girl, 38, chooses a 28 year old guy for two reasons.
1) Sexual energy.
2) Younger guys are easier to manipulate.
Age aside, her being on her phone, smiling, and keeping it hidden are the typical telltale signs that she’s talking to one or more guys that she’s fucking.
I know you think you’re some young stud who bagged an older woman, but she’s the winner. She’s got you in an LTR while sucking come from who knows how many guys.
eye8yourbaby 5y ago
My only question is when she does cheat as we spend practically every night together, weekends etc. I’m not being oblivious but find it hard she would have time to cheat when we aren’t together. Again, could be oblivious
-sho-ryu-ken- 5y ago
It’s not hard to cheat at work.... unless you have a stay-at-home mom.
If she’s spending more time smiling at her phone than sucking your dick, all your excuses for the relationship are irrelevant.
maxofreddit 5y ago
Are you fun at all?
Granted it sucks to be “competing” with social media, but if you were Brad Pitt, she’d put the phone down.
So it’s either you’re boring as hell, or she’s got attention issues. The first one is up to you to fix, the second one is up to you to say next.
As a side note, when i’m Out with a girl for dinner, I’ll take her phone, & put it on silent, face down on the table (I do the same with mine). They get the point. If not, the get three strikes, the third time they go for the phone, I ask for the check.
thegabescat 5y ago
Only reason to date a 38 is because shes likely to not do shit like being on her phone.
Freenorthman 5y ago
The only reason to date a 38 year old is if you are 65
kngtr2 5y ago
Hahah +
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
The only reason to date a 70 year old is if you’re 70.
Bedtimeshine 5y ago
If You accept it, its on you. You know talking won’t help, speak with your actions. Wish her the best and tell her you hope she finds what shes looking fit and send her on her way.
ainihon 5y ago
Bro Just leave sorry to hear
chimera7 5y ago
Don’t date a 38 year old at 28. You’re at the peak of your SMV. She’s way low on hers. Stop.
frontyer0077 5y ago
When I date a new girl I always snap her phone out of her hands and put it somewhere else together with my phone. Its to make it clear that we dont use phones when were together.
Also, ditch that bitch. She offers you no value, you can get far better.
DoubleDisatitagain 5y ago
That’s because She’s texting me.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
I don't know what this means, but, if she doesn't answer your text for hours, that alone says that she has you as a lower priority than somebody else. When you are with her, somebody else has her attention. Does this seem like she cares about you more than these other people? If they are not in a relationship with YOU, that tells me that you are in for an unpalatable shock in the future.
STOP! I just checked your Karma count. You are a noob in need of much help.
You need to read this sidebar and the TheRedPill sub. Get to it, and if you observe it, things will improve for you. You need to read up on Dread, especially, but, get it all into your head.
You are the priority in your life. If she treats you worse than you treat the fry guy at McDonalds, (which she is doing) you are no more than a beta bucks for her.
MisplacedSanityP 5y ago
Why the fuck would you date someone 10 years older than you? And why do you even have to ask this? It's like you read a lot of TRP and said "Let me do the exact opposite".
JamesFannin 5y ago
She’s about this close ???????? to the wall. Ditch her NOW
uwotm891 5y ago
She’s past the wall brah
Nergaal 5y ago
I could maybe find out explanations if you were 38 and she was 28. But at 38 and being on her phone while ignoring you?
OP must be trolling.
beginner_ 5y ago
This post is obviously a troll...
TehJimmyy 5y ago
Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee FELICIAAAAAAAAAAAAAbyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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eye8yourbaby 5y ago
You’re not wrong
friendandadvisor 5y ago
At this point, I need to ask if you are on medication or if she is. I sense that, due to your reply. Either that, or handicapped, or both.
Thunderfin 5y ago
Are you implying only women who do this, or men too?
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Thunderfin 5y ago
I guess not, apparently.