Over the past year, made a BIG jump in SMV and am quite ahead of my friends. Now, they are acting weird and jealous....
Case #1 - Best friend
Will only mention my successes when he sees one of my failures.
Eg. I was nominated for an award. He never congratulated me on the weeks leading up, or said anything about it. ONLY when he saw we didn’t win did he ask about it, and literally just said “well too bad you lost” as if getting nominated for an award is a small deal. Then, went off to talk about himself for an hour. He is unemployed and hasn’t accomplished a damn thing, but talks like he’s a genius.
Case #2 - Business partner
He’s all about picking up girls these days, but fails ALL THE TIME, it’s pathetic.
He was trying to get this girl, but turned out she was interested in me, not him.
Since then, he will try to take shots at my physical appearance, and tried cutting me down in front of my GF by calling me a pussy and other put-downs.
I’m not threatened by either, but to me, it’s the sign of a jealous/insecure man to try to ruin the relationships of others because he’s bitter that he can’t get a girl.
Am I losing my mind here? All my friends have become jealous snakes?
DaleyCenter 6y ago
These are your “friends”??
Sounds to me like you need to expand your horizons and meet/make some new friends.
allcryptal 6y ago
This has happened to me as well. Someone said chalk it up to crabs in a bucket. People close to you will innately try to bring you down especially if they're not doing so great and or insecure. Plow ahead
Ricklogical 6y ago
Get new friends or have a talk with them about it.
You sound like you are proud and want them to be proud of you too, instead you look like a showboat and a cockblock
W_O_M_B_A_T 6y ago
Stop socializing with your business partner if you can avoid it. Guy is failing to separate business with personal life. If the something that happened in the last day or two, point out that assassinating your character makes him look subservient by association. "I despise who I work with, but I'm too desperate to cash out or get another job."
You're expecting validation and praise from your best friend. Cut that crap out. He's not your grandma.
And yes, chances are he gives very few fucks about your award unless he's involved in the same field.
theprizeandtheaward 6y ago
True, I’ll do that
No - I’m expecting him not to have a vested interest in my failure.
Two_kids_in_a_coat 6y ago
Crabs in a bucket bro. Time to upgrade your friends.
temerity18 6y ago
As the famous pu artist Richard la Ruina wrote: " Male friends can get jealous and it's rare to find one who would be truly happy for me if really good things happened". So this is a frequently occurring phenomenon. I get that with my friends also sometimes. But yea, you probably outgrew them. Try to get ones who are more on your level. When you do you will probably see these "crabs" less.