I'll try to keep this short. Over all id rate myself (and have been rated by others) as a 6.5 or 7 out of 10. I'm built pretty thin but I'm working on that. Put on 40lbs over the last 2 years, look like a twig with loose clothes but relatively good in tighter shirts. Have been told by many people I dress well, look way better than I did in high school, have made amazing progress, etc.
Anyway here is my issue. It seems when I go out in never getting the girls i want. Last night for example, i was in line waiting to get a drink at the bar for example. Saw a cute girl and her fat friend in front of me. Opened the fatty and immediately switched to talking up her friend. Chatted both of them up but it seemed without them saying a word to each other some contract had been drafted that the fatty wanted me. She introduced me to all her female friends and they all seemed receptive to me. Id try to game other girls in the group and humungo would keep barging over to interrupt.
What should I do in this situations.
Mr-Ed209 5y ago
You implied a sniff of interest to a girl below your SMV and she's jumping at it. The other girls know she's single and aren't going to step in and risk upsetting Bertha.
It's on you to negate that. Hot girls are more subtle because they can be; they're used to men doing all the leading and if he doesn't they can just wait along for the next guy who does. The big girl has to show active intent and interest just to get men to keep talking and interacting with her.
When you got taken to the group that would have been the time to excuse yourself. Game other girls and try and isolate the hottie later in the night. Sometimes you'll be lucky and have that encounter where she apologises for her friend and is now receptive to you.
You failed the 2 fundamentals of picking up - ISOLATE then ESCALATE
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TelemakosTheDane 5y ago
´´humungo´´ , fuck that was a good one. It sucks when the hippoesque cockblock like this. I actually came up with a pretty effective solution to this when I was still blue pill. I would tell her that I thought she was awesome, and mention something specifc (mannerism, laugh or her smile) and say that she looked EXACTLY like my sister, or cousin or whatever the fuck, and how it was uncanny and so on. Communicating diplomatically, that I could of course never be interested, since I am not Jaime Lannister.
909throwaway100 5y ago
Reject the fat friend go talk to a hot bird
XT3M3 5y ago
....... you cant be serious bro
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Girls will, as you saw, decide between themselves who gets you. There's a good chance the hippo is the only single one, and that the others just weren't available.
You can't entirely fix this, but you can walk away. If their group decides the land whale gets you, you nicely and politely ignore the fuck out of all of them and go find better for yourself.
chrisinbim 5y ago
One solution : Get better looking. Do this by lifting, changing your hairstyle experiment a bit, skincare, whiten teeth etc.
As-You-Were 5y ago
Start behaving and thoroughly believing you deserve a higher standard of women. Tailor your game around your strong points and put emphasis on that when go to game them.
Attitude is everything.
abudun79 5y ago
A general rule: Don't believe in what others "tell" you how they'd rate you. No matter if they mean to do you good, boost your confidence or are really honest. They're not the ones who sleep with you. There's only one way to measure your SMV: Success.
Ruby_Red_Pill_Maker 5y ago
I miss /r/fatpeoplehate
CaptDeadlift 5y ago
Drop her like a hot sack of potatoes.
chomponthebit 5y ago
*hot sack of french fries and gravy with cheese and more chocolate cake, please
redisthetruth 5y ago
If you’re always stuck with the fat girl, your smv needs work. Keep lifting and building that confidence. Takes time. Patience.
chachaChad 5y ago
cptgoatsack 5y ago
Tie her to a barbell and use her for deadlifts.
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
Open on the hottest girl always even if she isn't your cup of tea. It is easier to move downstream then upstream. Once you opened on the fatgirl she became your glass ceiling her friend knew you were anxious or worried about her opinion and that's why you avoided her.
DadOnDabs 5y ago
I figured it would help to get the fatty to like me first as they are usually the ones who will pull their friends away (jealousy) but yeah I see what you mean. I should show interest in the hot ones and get them to like me then worry about the fat friends.
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
Focus on the hottest girl and throw bones to her female orbiters. Then leave that group and go after your cup of tea. They will take a mental note on how the other women felt about you and will mirror or intesnify that same feeling.
11-Eleven-11 5y ago
Yeah the goal is to get her friends to qualify you but you have to develop the attraction first and foremost by opening the hot one.
willowhawk 5y ago
Opened the fatty....
You chose her bro
DadOnDabs 5y ago
True. I think I just went backwards in my thought process. I should have opened the cutie then got fatty to like me.
mrpoopistan 5y ago
Bear in mind this is kind of a leftover technique from the heyday of PUA techniques.
Not justifying his approach, but saying it dovetails with a specific set of opening tactics that PUAs once pimped in terms of not aiming straight for the hottest chick.
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Height & weight?
DadOnDabs 5y ago
6'0 and 160lbs. Weighed 125 two years ago so I've been packing it on. Still extremely lean though. Like under 12% bf max
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I've gone from 160 to 200 at 6'0 same bf
You're definitely making progress, it's usually around 180-190 at 6'0 when girls are going to really start to notice.
casemodz 5y ago
I'm 6'1 220...a little belly fat. Get ur weight up. Better to be fat than skinny...for real though.