I know banging your coworkers is a very basic cardinal rule here, but I need to reinforce this belief with some words of wisdom and motivation.
I've had a long drought, and this girl I work with repeatedly declares she's DTF. I'm tempted to let something happen versus just getting after it. I feel like I've already let our conversations cross the line too much. Anybody successfully navigate one of these situations? Any tips on how to slowly dial it back?
_AnxietyAnimal_ 5y ago
Let's just say I have VERY successfully navigated this situation.
I used to work at Spencer's gifts part time. My manager was a sexy and hilarious guy who was working there his senior year of college. He would flirt with me a LOT at work..:I had a huge crush on him. He would flash me seductive looks at work and I knew he wanted me and he would call me "Blondie" which made me blush. He invited me over one night to smoke a blunt at his place, and I was over the moon. Eventually, we started spending time together, going on dates, and having sex after work. He would get vibrators and sex toys from the store and try them out on me, which was insanely hot. Since it was against policy for managers to date associates, we had to keep our little fling a secret from our coworkers. Eventually, we let it slip that we were together...it was just too hard to hide. We had fallen in love with each other had new priorities. Eventually, we both moved on from our jobs at Spencer's.
Fast forward seven years and we are still crazy in love, we have a home together, and have been through so much since then. We still love playing with sex toys from Spencer's. He still calls me Blondie. And we plan on trying for our first baby soon :) I met my Prince Charming in a dildo/gag gift store, and I love telling our story.
So yeah, you could say it turned out pretty well for us. As far as hooking up with your coworker? I say go for it. You never know what can happen.
no_condoments 5y ago
It definitely depends on the type of job you have, and how bad it would be to lose the job.
Just landed a job as a first year lawyer at the best law firm in your city? Dont smash that girl.
You work at fast food place, and she cooks the fries? Smash away.
Somewhere in between: judgement call.
bluephayde 5y ago
I see your point. Context: I'm 37 working as a certified Massage Therapist. Best job I've had in the past decade and also the highest paying. Been there for about 3 years, literally about to move within 15 minutes of where I work. No desire to leave anytime soon, and wouldn't know where I could go that would be comparable to what i got going on now.
Her, 25 years old with a boyfriend, has me staying up late to have sex talk over text. Something about the situation has me itching to fuck, the other part of me doesn't want to risk the no drama work zone I have, plus spoiling future work parties/events when things go south. But who's to say how 'bad' it could get? Honestly, she seems more mentally prepared for it than me, or digs me enough to be willing to risk it...
isteppedinsjw 5y ago
Best job you've had in a decade, highest paying too, and you're about to move within 15 minutes of it--do not smash dude. Don't jeopardize your golden goose with a workplace romance. There are plenty of other women that CAN'T screw your life over if things go south.
El_Serpiente_Roja 5y ago
Do NOT fuck this girl
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Sex talk over text is not a great idea with a girl you haven’t fucked yet. Also, You would be amazed how quickly you will turn into “creepy stalker guy” once the boyfriend find out.
No hamster accepts responsibility for its own actions.
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
Seriously if you fuck her you’re a moron. To even think about losing all that for some pussy she better be a fucking 10.
Don’t fucking do it it’s a fucking time bomb and you fucking strapped it on yourself.
AdviceMaster1412 5y ago
what the fuck are you thinking, why are you even here
bluephayde 5y ago
support. but if i'm being honest than i guess i'm looking for a loophole really. as you can see there are some guys here saying its ok.
i'm not necessarily there, i'm just stating in my defense
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
The loophole is if you don’t give a shit abt getting fired.
[deleted] 5y ago
quit ur job and smash
bluephayde 5y ago
hilarious
RandomJin 5y ago
Then reapply
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
OP: ”So long time, first time. I really want to put a lit stick of dynamite up my ass. I know I shouldn’t but I really want to. Is there a safe way to do this? I will take my answer off the air.”
AskTRP: ”No, do not put a lit stick of dynamite up your ass.”
JonathanMekerset 5y ago
No.
Red-Lantern 5y ago
If you proceed use caution and get as many records as possible. Text, phone calls if one party consent, record audio/video of encounter.
Have another job on standby or a decent buggout stash on case shtf.
Be aware of if not already have a lawyer on retainer if you're high enough status.
You should have multiple girls or at least trying for outside of your workplace. Actively try but if something happens with coworker the above should apply.
Good luck.
bluephayde 5y ago
i agree with having multiple girls/trying outside of work...which I currently don't have or do. and this girl is in the circle of people I will be actively trying to open up my social circle once I move...
Red-Lantern 5y ago
Ok man. Just don't make her your oneitis. Get it out of your system a bit but protect ya neck.
Jay Z - Big Pimpin' verse 1 is vital.
LiftMeditateApproach 5y ago
why are you here if you cant even follow basic rules from sidebar?
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whats next? you gonna come back here in a few weeks and tell us you found this 9/10 chick... who also happens to have 4 kids from different fathers... and then try to justify dating her... "i know its against the rules guys... but but BUT"...
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bluephayde 5y ago
I thought that's exactly why I was here. I know it must be frustrating dealing with the same questions, but other than "don't do it" there aren't any helpful solutions. I do know it's stupid but that's the hardest part, having zero options, while this one chick you see all the time is clearly into you and pursues you regularly, while having no success elsewhere.