I’ve been on this sub for a little while and rarely have I seen a reply to some sort of negative thing a plate has done where you guys don’t say “next”. I understand abundance mindset and everything but at what point do you NOT next?
I next quite a bit and sometimes I don’t need to but if i feel disrespect i will. I understand it differentiates from plates and LTRs. So what is TRPs standard of when you should next a girl or not? If you next everything a girl does does that not make you no better than a incel?
LukeVTruth 5y ago
I think you pretty much answered your own question...disrespect. If you feel that whatever behavior she’s showing is a clear sign that she doesn’t respect you then next her. Granted some people on this sub will take anything as a sign of disrespect but at the end of the day it’s up to you to decide if you feel like what she’s doing is disrespectful.
[deleted] 5y ago
I think the loudest people are giving the wrong advice. If your going to next a girl for anything on the disrespect spectrum at least turn it in to a learning experience. If the guy already has nothing to lose and has a idgaf attitude then suggest he do or say something risky that could either escalate his sitiuation to hia benefit or give him more confidence for the next girl.
Like tell him to ask for anal or a threesome in the cockiest idgaf way since he's already ready to fold the hand. Bluff hard or something.
freew33zy 5y ago
I agree AskTRP is pretty next-happy. I will fully admit that if I posted all details of my two-year long LTR I could easily get people to say "next that bitch." At the same time, I could write a post and leave out all the AskTRP triggers and get a post calling me the ultimate alpha. Obviously, neither is true--I'm somewhere between the two. Life isn't black and white.
And that's why you shouldn't always take this sub so literally. If I took this sub at face value, I would have nexted my HB8 LTR that is okay with me fucking other girls, going out without her, and doing threesomes. I'd have to be a fucking idiot to do that--most guys would kill to be in my position. And for the most part, she's a great LTR in her own right--but she's also human and therefore isn't the perfect unicorn. Still great and worth the LTR, though.
kenpachitz 5y ago
... Care to elaborate?
freew33zy 5y ago
I'm in a one-way open relationship, and the rules are basically limited to "don't legitimately have a second LTR"
kenpachitz 5y ago
As in, two things:
A) How do you set that up?
B) How are you sure she's not having her own fun and/or in the process of branch swinging?
freew33zy 5y ago
A. By a plate really wanting to LTR me, and her accepting my terms in order to do so. Definitely helps a former LTR of hers cheated on her (open infidelity is definitely a step up) and that she was a little chubby when I first plated her but she got fit and hot af while she was my plate but had already grown attached to me and formed the opinion that my SMV is much higher than hers.
B. If by "having her own fun" you mean cheating, then that's the problem in any LTR. I don't know that she's not. A branch swing is almost inconceivable to me, though--she doesn't spend any time at all with other guys except maybe at work. But yeah, I'd doubt she's cheating too; however, I can't be sure. I would much rather not be sure on her end and know that I am on my end, though. But I mean she doesn't go out, hang out with guys, do drugs or drink except for with me, has a low N count (3), and so yeah maybe a top Alpha could finesse it but she really seems locked down. If you know anything about Myers-Briggs psychology test, she's an INTJ personality which tends to be one of the most loyal.
itoshirt 5y ago
I think the answer to your question is that this is a highly concentrated sub. This sub is a dedicated place for discussion around one topic, one goal, and it happens to be something that isn't discussed in this way any other place. That's why you're going to hear things like "next" here, because you aren't hearing it anywhere else.
DaveyOneBite 5y ago
You’re your own man. Digest TRP material and decide where your line is.
You are right about this sub specifically being too quick to next. Have you ever read about the study with monkeys where they punished all the monkeys when one tried to climb the ladder? It’s the same concept here with a lot of the posters.
Terdmuffin 5y ago
The point is that if she's doing things you don't like and not acting interested in you, don't waste your time with her.
mrHappyPotatoe 5y ago
You can fool yourself and tell yourself it wasnt that big of a deal but every time you do it you let girl to chip away part of your soul.
How important is "you" to you?
I see all those cucks with no souls holding their queens purses on the street and it makes me throw up.
Ricklogical 5y ago
If she clearly doesn't value you enough to treat you right, you gotta put her in line and do what is right for you every Time
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
Hi INTP, I'm an ENTP. 99% of the post here are either, how can I make my oneitis love me or hey theres this woman not remotely interested in me and I want to do something moronic to get with her. Then their next post is how the woman responded negatively to dumb shit. Move on to the next woman in both circumstances so you can get better at approaching with proper bearings on reality.
You next a woman when she is disrespectful, you fucked it up or she is outright not interested. Once you start talking LTRs and not plates, you are now talking personal boundaries not nexting someone you are incompatible with. An LTR can you find a compromise or is this a deal breaker, most of us are anti LTR because AWALT but that doesnt mean all woman will do this.
Take into account your world view.
clausternn 5y ago
You're right, this TRP chick sounds like a bitch. You should next her.
Time_Animal_ 5y ago
They like pretending they have the power
justicecantakeanap 5y ago
I'll bring a recent example
This girl i was hanging out with went from day to day texting to completely disappear. Out of the blue.
She is not dead, so i consider it like a lack of interest on her side.
Next baby, can't be bothered really
Ronaldo-CR7- 5y ago
Most guys on here try to make something out of nothing so a soft next is good idea and focus your attention on new plates. Finding new plates is always a better idea than fixing old ones
Ekken_ 5y ago
People that don’t understand nexts NEVER NEXT GIRLS. You keep the low key ones around because you don’t believe in landing an 8 over your 7. If you’d show your Ltr or new prospect you have balls by breaking up with her or walking away to better women without putting it in their faces, they would chase you.
Women want to fuck the guy other girls want to fuck and other guys want to be. If you’d actually forget and next a girl for the smallest thing, she’d learn you have high standards and whether you run into them again at the store and she just sees you and dms you (personal experience) to see if you remember her, you tell that woman you’re waiting till marriage cuz Jesus said so.
Mr-Ed209 5y ago
Well there is a pretty huge bias, in that people generally post here because of a problem in whatever relationship it may be.
Nexting is advised because it always has to be a consideration and it underpins the frame of any action you may take.
ArcheHoe 5y ago
because all the people on this sub don’t give good advice end of story
half of the shit on this sub is pure fantasy, all of people here aren’t grounded and just think about sex and then give shitty advice cuz why? they’re virgins irl
[deleted] 5y ago
Only good advice I’ve seen has been from ECs
TheBadGoy 5y ago
ad hominem, username checks out...
ArcheHoe 5y ago
i have no idea what u just said but my username is based off the MMORPG Archeage
BloodSurgery 5y ago
Ad hominem
An attack upon an opponent in order to discredit their arguement or opinion.
Instead of attacking the argument, you attack the person.
IVIaskerade 5y ago
Given that getting plates requires basically no effort, as soon as a plate is causing more trouble than that, she's gone.
TheBadGoy 5y ago
Its simple, as you get older your patience will get thinner
abudun79 5y ago
YOU decide what behavior is so inappropriate that you next a girl.
There are many occasions where next is not the best reaction, and the differentiation to loosing frame is thin sometimes. You see the NEXT as the usual option here for at least two reasons:
Big bunch of that advice comes from people who just parrot what they read here
Psychological_Radish 5y ago
That's because we have high standards around here. None of this "three strikes and you're out" shit, no "working on the relationship" BS; you royally fuck up with me, you're done. Finito.
I think this is a bit of a strawman; obviously we don't advocate nexting a girl over everything.