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themangu6

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I've been on NoFap for 2.5 years now and I've had a handful of relapses where the itch just gets too itchy and I watch a few vids of porn. I'll rationalize to myself that it's okay and that it won't do any damage but 100% of the time I always feel ashamed and grossed out after. Even the next day I'll feel drained and my mind will be foggy.

I have an LTR so I get sex pretty frequent and I'll edge / practice multi-orgasm on my own some times which not only improves my sex life but it also alleviates some of the horniness.

My advice, give up porn forever. I strongly believe that there's no way for it to be a good or okay thing. Especially for someone who's had an issue with it in the past.

koedeloe 6y ago

I had encounters with girls and couldn't get my dick up, that's when I bumped into Nofap. I fap 1-2 times a week now, with porn.. It's true, after watching porn I feel drained and foggy, usually puts me in a bad mood.

I know porn is bad but sometimes I'm too horny and almost text this 5/10 girl to come over or call a prostitute. I'm done with women their bullshit for now, so that's why I don't have plates, hence the fapping sometimes.

Porn is bad, I wish I could quit it. I had streaks from 60 days though but it made me bust my nut in 20sec...

Peter_B_Long 6y ago

It's all in your mind. You don't have to give up masturbating, but you should give up porn. It'll improve your life a lot more.

I believe that porn is the reason why you're "done with women and their bullshit". Porn is brain washing you into not wanting you to put any effort into game / improving yourself. Porn is easy, gaming and fucking a girl is not.

Porn is limiting your potential. It's holding you back in areas you know you should be improving. Be honest with yourself.

themangu6 6y ago

But it can feel so good getting all that sexual fantasies meet.

Peter_B_Long 6y ago

For a few minutes, then you have to go through hours or even days of negative effects. Why not just make your sexual fantasies come to life?

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BrutalMan420 6y ago

this is like saying people can not stop at cigarettes or alcohol or marijuana. it just is not a hard fact.

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BrutalMan420 6y ago

yeah, and like drug users, those addicted are the outliers and extreme cases.

themangu6 6y ago

So how do you mean? That it is possible to watch porn healthily?

BrutalMan420 6y ago

of course its possible. let me introduce you to self control. it might not be possible for yourself though. also you dont have to fap to hardcore porn movies. use something lighter.

themangu6 6y ago

Is the guilt i put myself under the reason i get depressed or is it porn

themangu6 6y ago

Why is everyone here so rightfully against porn even in moderation?

BrutalMan420 6y ago

google “your brain on porn”

helaughsinhidden 6y ago

Just stop doing it. You may be addicted or in a habit hard to break, but there is actually a lot of positive benefits to it. Check out the r/NoFap group or this interesting video by Improvement Pill:

NOFAP - SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT IT WORKS

BasedDharma 6y ago

/r/pornfree > /r/nofap

W_O_M_B_A_T 6y ago

This seems accurate

I have the opposite problem. I'm addicted to sex with my plates because I like to call one of them over, sometimes 3x a week, and we usually have sex several times.

This is a bad habit of mine, but I admit that it secretly makes me feel good. Why do I regret it so much the following day? Do I have a mental illness because I like sex too much?

How can I lower my libido?

Should I go over to /r/nosex?

BloodSurgery 6y ago

Use your time for meaningful stuff, instead of having sex every night. Camping, hiking, traveling, whatever that has long term effects.

Two_kids_in_a_coat 6y ago

You’ll get bored soon enough. I bet within two months you’ll be skipping sex for other stuff.

csawyer86 6y ago

Stop watching porn

HurricaneHugues 6y ago

Dont watch porn. Thats like asking how to fight the shitty feeling of coming off of a meth high.

themangu6 6y ago

But they arent as bad as one another.

HurricaneHugues 6y ago

You can't do either in public. You'd be ashamed if you get caught doing either one in your room. You wouldn't want to be talking about either one of them in public. Neither pf them are beneficial to you. They both ruin your mood after.

Eagle-513 6y ago

Don’t watch it. Problem solved Next question

GainzdalfTheWhey 6y ago

Stop watching porn

W_O_M_B_A_T 6y ago

Noticed an improvement in your mood when you don't? What about just masturbating?

themangu6 6y ago

Ya i do but i cant tell if thats the anxiety and guilt i put on myself or not.

W_O_M_B_A_T 6y ago

Binge-then-purge cycle behavior, and mythical, extremist views about the given behavior....These are usually caused by underlying negative self-beliefs and uncertainty about the self. In that case it's deliberately trying to treat an imaginary disease to avoid thinking about an actual cancer.

In that situation things like, anorexia drug use, Alcoholism, destructive relationships, sexual avoidance, etc are just forms of self-harm behavior.

themangu6 6y ago

So than what do i do? Not binge? Watch it in moderation?

MisplacedSanityP 6y ago

Don't watch porn? "How do I stop feeling guilty after shooting up heroin?". It's good that you feel terrible after doing it, it's a deterrent for something that is at best a waste of time and at worst, gives you erectile dysfunction and lessens your ability to enjoy real women.

LordLysander57 6y ago

I personally don't really feel guilty about it, because I'm just too busy to date right now. I have an SAT to prep for, a part time business, working out, school work, the play that I'm in, as well as trying to publish my novel, and in the midst of it all, I'm really too busy to go to the trouble of approaching women. Not to mention, my parents would come down hard if they found me having sex, and I can't drive by myself until I get highway practice time, and take the test. So until I get some things straightened out, I prefer to take my IPad to bed at night, and get myself to sleep faster with a good nut.

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themangu6 6y ago

But it can feel so good.

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themangu6 6y ago

What if its once every 3 months

AtlasCuckd 6y ago

Think of our ancestors

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